Why are men so scared of hot women?

[Anonymous]

It's bad. I'm hot but reslly I'm more just pretty than hot. I'm petite thin. Think jessica alba Natalie Portman or something. Yes I'm pretty. But with the kind of looks I have girl next door you'd think men would love to be with someone like me. I'm not bossy or mean and down to earth. Nice body. Men will fantasize over women like me. However upon meeting me in person most men treat me like dirt or act like they've seen a ten foot gorilla they want to beat and run away from. No joke. Most men act like this to me.

They act like they've seena. Ghost or an alien and not in a good way. Like a ghost they're so scared of as if I'm a freak. It's so confusing and damn weird. Worse they will FLIRT with really fat ugly old women while in my presence ie they're so turned on by me they take it out and hit on other women. And worse they'll put me down and insult me rather than be nice to me. What kind of crazy phenomenon is this? I had a date the other day where the guy did just this and was flirting and nice to the super fat old lady. Treated me badly and ditched me. He was even supposed to give me a massage!! Are these just scared weird punks or scared of a sexually hot woman? It seems so abnormal but it happens. It just seems mind boggling n weird. They treat me lie I'm beneath them act arrogant then run away. Once I saw a man acting scared of a semi pretty woman too same way. What is going on and these men run to and flirt with really ugly women and shun the pretty woman

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+1 y

I don't get or believe in the league crap. Ok sort of I see these women who dress hot are arrogant. I'd be scared as fuk to approach them if I was a guy but me I dress down. I look innocent like non threatening and never wear make up. I can't imagine being out of guys leagues. Yes I'm pretty but more of a Britney Spears pretty so I don't get why guys act so scared and rude. Most guys try to dominate me rudely. A petite cute girl next door girl. It makes no sense

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+1 y

Just to explain. I look super nice like really nice. Def not bltchy. I am down to earth and passive not. Aggressive or rude. I'm laid back. I'm nice to guys they're mean to me. Yes I look like I cud be a Hollywood movie star only if I dress up. But I'm not that picky and constantly get rejected by guys. Once they see my pic that's it. I even send average pics but it doesn't matter.

[godfatherfan]

1) The really hot women are being chased by every guy in the place. She has her choice of any of them. Why bother trying to compete? She is one of the "pretty people" of the world and she is going to choose another "pretty people" guy, even though that guy is going to be a shallow asshole that will treat her like shit.
2) Women that hot get everything handed to them. Their life is infinitely easier. We have seen documentaries that give proof to this. So that ends up making them High Maintenance bitches. I sure as hell don't want to put up with someone like that. I have no Tolerance for someone who acts like that.
3) I think for a guy I look better then many, and not nearly as good as many. So even if she gives me a shot how long will it be for? I just went through a divorce so i don't have money. I have a decent job but I don't make enough to pay for everything like she is going to expect. So I will last as long as it will take for the hot guy in the nice car to drive up. Then I get thrown to the side.
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Yes, there are exceptions to every rule. But among the "pretty people" of the world there are not very many so good luck finding that exception. If I was the kind of guy that say went to a bar.. if I walked up to a table of women I am going to toss out the best and worst looking one and work from there. But I am not that kind of guy.
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I have learned my lesson about online dating. I used to pass up any pictures of women that looked clearly out of my league. However, when I realized I was really ready to date the first thing I did was go online and pick out 5 women that fit that profile. 2 didn't reply. 1 actually replied with "do the women you date usually look like me?" I told "no, none have been a cunt until now" and deleted her. I actually had dates with the other 2. Both upon meeting them were NOT out of my league. They just had awesome pictures. But they were very beautiful non-the less. I am dating one now.

[godfatherfan]

ran out of room.
also, just like so many posts on this site... you call yourself hot but yet you post anonymously? why not post a picture?
the fact is beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The one I think is beautiful another guy will think is ugly.

[Asker]

Not really. There r some
Universally beautiful people. I agree I've seen some models or many who aren't that pretty but just tall and thin. I guess when u see those cartoon pictures of hot women with certain features those r the kind of hot women I'm talking about. Fantasy hot. I think amber heard is beautiful. I assume Marilyn Monroe was beautiful. Well for me I have that universally beautiful look where some people almost define beauty. Tho it can be defined in many ways. People think katy perry is pretty she's not. There r women much hotter than her with a similar look

[godfatherfan]

sorry, I obviously know who Marilyn Monroe is. The others I don't know or in the case of katy perry, I obv heard of her but have no idea what she looks like. I am not much into music. when I do listen it is all 80's for the most part.

[BayJay47]

Because smart men can see the consequences of failure. Also, most hot women reject men easily, as they have the ability to pick and choose. Frequently, men have been shut down by attractive women enough that they don't want to risk the pain of another rejection.

Most men need to meet dozens of women to find a girlfriend... And I'm sure most women need to meet dozens of men to find a suitable boyfriend. Obviously ymmv. However, the difference is that men need to seek out women (usually) whereas attractive women do not need to seek out men, they merely need to put themselves into a situation where bold guys will seek them out. This isn't usually a good idea, of course, but it does provide results.

If you really want to break past that there's a simple way; be the pursuer instead of the pursued. If you are as attractive as you say you are then find a guy who likes the same stuff you like, and try to befriend him. He will be shy at first, but as he realizes you're just another person he will become more bold. Don't lead him on, but also don't give him the cold shoulder. Be warm, kind, and friendly. He will open up, and probably fall in love with you,

[sugarchateau]

Agree! But don't be afraid to at least throw out compliments.
I always randomly compliment guys, because I know I love it when I guy compliments me with no expectations.
If I like the guy who provides the compliment, I will try to start up a convo to get to know a little more about him before I ask for a number. But I'm tired of always doing the initiating.. Lol so again... Guys complain about it but so do girls. I think expressing a compliment from both sexes will be game good start.

[Asker]

Yep I agree with sugar. It's just a problem these days. Men don't approach women and pretty women and women have to be the man. It's so stupid. They do get with reslly ugly fat women tho. I keep seeing decent looking men with hideous repulsive weird fat women and these same men would easily run away from me

[Leslee]

Men are scared and insecure with hot women they might feel like they won't live up to your standards. there's nothing wrong with been confident but as long as you dont give them the impression you might be too good for them. So good luck hope you find that special man.

[allmenaredogs]

you should put up your photo on line dating site and be very choosy. there are a lot of guys who are jealousy out there and they take pleasure of ignoring someone seemingly good.

[allmenaredogs]

consider them death already. they are so high on something that they might into get into fight someday and get a bomb under their ass and die. they will know it's because of their own jealousy and they are complaining aat you not giving it easily. and easy girls are pointing at you that you are too difficult.

[allmenaredogs]

easy girls and easy guys are the perfect match!

[allmenaredogs]

they are fake hard to gets fallen down on the earth so they think everyone is the same thing.

[allmenaredogs]

you will find LOTS of cats here and there. believe me.

[allmenaredogs]

don't listen to all these men saying meow meow meow meow meow.. you know what I mean?

[allmenaredogs]

they are very sour and they don't want their own children because they don't want to give anybody better life than they are. they would rather waste it and enjoy their life and throw it away to something worse than they are just to show that they care or something.

[allmenaredogs]

go out there and have fun! everybody dies and they too dies soon or later.

[allmenaredogs]

you are a FOX and according to the bible foxes re the rulers.

[allmenaredogs]

no matter how hard you try to be with cat, it won't do any good. you are a fox no cat

[allmenaredogs]

have you heard of cat crying when they are horny? like a baby crying? although, there are "good cats" out there. if you want to share your hole that you digged up then bring the cat inside, he would poop and piss all over!

[allmenaredogs]

or, they might be think you are lesbian. all men are sour about girls and when they can't get lesbians' attention they literally melt down.

[allmenaredogs]

they all liars. they just want attention so that they can make some $. they are all whores. if what they say is true why they chase after lesbians so much? some guys pretend gay to get sex. I had that enough. it's revenge time. pretend that you are lesbian !

[allmenaredogs]

hire big black guys and beat them all up! after all, black guys have the biggest dick. I mean some small black guys are whinny to get some attention as well. don't give them a shite

[allmenaredogs]

magic word: "EL" it will make all the demons go back to men's body and it will turn them into what they really are (monster) and they will die while they fight to each others (fallen angels)

[allmenaredogs]

say lesbian 3 times when men are around. they will either go back to their wife or die out on the street. they are trying get attention by pretending loving and lesbians won't accept so they are incomplete no way they can love lesbians their love is DEAD

[allmenaredogs]

all American guys are the whore

[Sbsjdbdbf]

You talk too much.

[zorro8888]

The general consensus would be that she can get someone better and she's out of their league.

However if all guys think the same thing then no one approaches the hot girl. Meaning there is a higher chance of getting her compared to an average girl but guys don't think about that. Funny isn't it.

[Asker]

Haha. That is totally true and how it goes

[genericname85]

guys are visually fixated so they assume girls are like this too (and to some extend they are).

most guys will reject girls over their looks, if they think they´re not physically attractive enough and they assume girls will do the same

this is why some guys will sometimes not bother talking to a very attractive girl. because they think she´ll reject him anyways over his looks.

you see there is no fear involved ;)

[Asker]

That makes sense. Sort of tho even good looking guys reject me. The only cute guys who don't reject me r male models

[genericname85]

there are a lot of factors other than pure looks, that´s why :P

[Anonymous]

Most attractive women turn down the average guy or peg him as a creep just for trying to interact with them. It's not like they are scared it's just from experience. Yet in your case most guys also think that being an asshole is the key to a girls heart. In some cases this is true because a lot of women have a poor choice in men but in all most guys are just scared from previous events.

[Opinion Owner]

Would you consider posting a photo of yourself? I am just curious based on how you described yourself to see if my theory is correct.

[Asker]

That makes sense. Guys do think being assholes makes them cool it seems. And they're scared from previous situations

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah unfortunatly girls before you are ruining your chances of landing a decent man. However, keep your head up and don't be discouraged he will come along when you least expect it.

[gobsmacked3]

I cannot say I buy into any of this from a personal stand point for i have always treated all women the same. Regardless of whether I thought them hot, or not.

But, I think a lot of men are intimidated by either beauty or confidence. If a woman has both they often are not sure enough in themselves to approach such women. Worse, they try to cut you down for their own lack of confidence

[Asker]

Yeah I agree with that for sure. It seems to be the case. It's just odd because most of these guys are just so arrogant it makes
No sense

[Anonymous]

For one thing you seem a little arrogant when talking about how attractive you are. If you show us a picture and your story check out then I'll consider retracting that statement.

I think there's a bunch of reasons guys might feel reluctant to interact with very beautiful women.

They will assume that lots of guys chat her up which means they have a higher chance of getting hurt. They feel like just another random face in a crowd, like she'll roll her eyes at yet another guy trying to put moves on her and shoot him down like he's nothing, making him feel like nothing. They feel resentment for the ease at which you appear to be able to lure guys and including themselves. So he hates that he likes you, he hates that it comes so easily to you, yet you expect him to put the effort in to have you. Lots of reasons, the list goes on.

Then the only moderately attractive women then become much more comfortable to be around, more real.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sympathizing with the guys buy the way.

[Asker]

Actually ur response is arrogant not my
Post. Due to ur insecurity that's obvious

[Opinion Owner]

No offense, you kind went of about your looks a bit much that's all. It seemed just a little bit too much ok relax.

How is my response arrogant? I barely referred to myself at all. I merely explored a guy's thoughts, feelings so you might be able to sympathize and see where he is coming from.

[Asker]

Go off on my
Looks. The reason I get treated so badly is because of my looks. It's not an issue for me it is for the guys. They act crazy or rude.

I do get the stuff u wrote after. I called u arrogant because u called me arrogant. Geez. Defense mechanism and I'm rude to those who are unjustifiably rude to me.

They do seem to be jealous. That makes sense that they're jealous they have to work for it but it's easy for the girl. This seems to be the case for a lot of guys these days. That resentment and that explains it. So weird. That's why they in turn try to be the female almost and start acting like they want to be babied. Guys r really messed up it's scary

[MakeitOrDieTrying]

lulz this girl has a nasty attitude *smh*. I think I know why they guys run away now lol

[Opinion Owner]

I only suggested that what you said came off as somewhat arrogant it was an observation not an insult or rudeness, just honesty. I didn't call you arrogant, and being rude is no solution to rudeness.

I don't think they are messed up, they have real feelings and frustrations too. It's not justifiable to take out one's anger on a woman just for being herself, those are the 'crazy' guys, they shouldn't be lashing out but their feelings are understandable. Most aren't crazy and don't lash out, they are totally justified to be mad about their situation though, just not directly at women. They don't want to be babied, they don't try to be 'the female,' there's no gender roles nonsense here, they just feel deprived of attention. They're human, they want to feel valued and attractive, they're not wrong or messed up for feeling that.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not their fault that they feel this way, it's just the unfortunate situation modern society finds itself in. Both you and the crazy guys that lash out could stand to be more understanding.

[Asker]

I'm not lashing out. Stop sympathizing with males. They are nice to mean women and mean to nice women. They do not fear rejection they r very dysfunctional. They mock nice women. How is that a fear of rejection. It's arrogance and meanness. All the idiotic angry men defend the other cfazy ones because they're like them

[Opinion Owner]

I said they aren't justified in lashing out. I'm not saying that's acceptable behavior. The one's that lash out have been pushed past their limit. Either they were less disciplined or were unfortunate enough to have an especially bad time of it.

I'm trying to get you to understand the problems guys face and what they feel. They feel starved for affection in a way but it's more like

[Opinion Owner]

... a hungry person watching someone else stuff their face.

[Opinion Owner]

If you're in a poverty-stricken environment and someone tries to attack you and rob you to feed themselves, they are responsible for the attack certainly, but can you blame them for being impoverished?

[Asker]

I've been abused by men more than any guy has been abused by women... but i dont hate men or lash out at them.. these males lash out at me for no reason.. worse im really nice and they use that to do it b/c they know im nice and dont want to fight.. theyre psychopaths

[Opinion Owner]

But there are women who become man-haters because of their experiences and who lash out, they are the less disciplined one's. And just because you don't hate men generally doesn't mean you don't hate your abuser, am I right? From the guy's perspective the random hot women could be seen as, in essence, his abuser. But all this is getting away from your question. Because I don't have a good reason why "most" men would have a problem with you the extent you pointed out just because you're attractive. It doesn't make sense to me.

I want to ask something else. Do you understand how your post could be construed as arrogant?

[Hephaestus]

calls herself "hot"
is anon... go figure

also, i think it has to do with the fact peeps who think they are attractive come off as arrogant shit stains and that in itself is the biggest cock killer there is media.giphy.com/media/nBn1PNOkkI3PW/giphy.gif

[MrBubbles]

I'm intimidated, to be honest. I do kinda believe in the "league" thing. I assume that you're either uninterested due to whatever reasons, or already taken. :/

[Asker]

Funny thing is the hot girl is never taken but the average person is

[MrBubbles]

Would you be interested in a average-cute to cute guy who's a christian, saving sex for marriage, who plays video games, watches movies, and make brownies a lot? :/ Probably not. :(

[Asker]

of course.. wtf.. no guy goes for me b/c im hot

[MrBubbles]

Well then you'd like me then. :p

[Anonymous]

Umm just read these 2 pics and I approach/treat everybody the same. Looks don't matter to me when it comes to people. I don't care how cute you think you're OR ugly Imma talk to you the same i1127.photobucket.com/.../..._MTE0NDA0MjA5NzM4.jpg K i1127.photobucket.com/.../...m_MTA1NzA3Mjk4MjQ.jpg

[Gonetowardthewind]

I'm ugly/unattractive and know that a woman that's attractive/beautiful/pretty won't want to at least get one date with me. Plus they always seem to call unnatractive guys creepy and are straight up mean when they reject the guy. So if I know im going to get rejected or scorned pretty hard, why would I want to take that chance? I'm like this for every woman I find attractive to me. I'm really nervous when it comes to stuff like asking someone out.

[ThisAndThat]

A hot women is like a tall mountain, if you decide to climb the tall mountain be real careful, it's a long fall down.

[Asker]

Haha. That's a good analogu

[Asker]

Analogy

[ThisAndThat]

Thanks :)

[Thrifty]

First of all, Jessica Alba is not that tight. And second of all, I've met little Natalie Portman and she is miniature. If you are comparing yourself to them when I've met the original then I have nothing to fear...

What's up and why do you think men are scared of you?

[Asker]

I have to agree. I never thought jessica alba was even that pretty or is Natalie portmans ok. But people think jessica alba is so hot. I'm hotter than both but still in the cute sexy pretty league like them so I don't get all the hate. I look more like shakira maybe that type but it's weird how guys r scared n rude

[Thrifty]

I think what you mean is that your breasts are small and humble, so you don't confuse them with mountains.

[Thrifty]

@Asker Those aforementioned girls have talent. What is your talent?

[Asker]

No my breasts aren't tiny but they're not huge I mean. I mean I'm more in the category of someone who could be in Hollywood or a model but def not that hot.
I'm actually really talented and was trying to be famous years ago a Victoria's Secret model former almost had me join her agency but she was being a bltch asking for money. But even she looked at my
Pics and thought they were really good. Brian kehoe former reality star guy thought I was super hot and tried to hook up with me.

I can sing act model but haven't fully pursued the industry and too much hate and jealousy even by crazy photographers.

[Thrifty]

May I see your portfolio and draw my own person conclusion?

[Asker]

No. Why would I send my
Picture to guys cuz they're curious. I'm
Ordinarily hot but also ordinarily girl next door

[Thrifty]

Currently, you're just words on a computer screen.

[Thrifty]

So you got the looks but have you got the touch?
Don't get me wrong, yeah I think you're alright
But that won't keep me warm in the middle of the night
That don't impress me much

[Asker]

who the hell is trying to impress you.. er

[JustinX9]

well hot women have a high maintenance plus most of them are really intimidating... guys are really hesitant and approach beautiful women.. because beautiful women have better options like having a handsome boyfriend, rich guy, etc. it would be better if you post your picture so we can really say that you are hot

[Applefan1]

After last year I have been left terrified of all women. I am sorry but I had a couple of bad things happen that involved women. I often get uncomfortable now when I see women in public or they get too close to me in public

[micheal727jovanie]

From a scale of one to ten how would you rate the guys in looks and how would you rate yourself? Can I see a picture to get a good idea of what you look like.

[Asker]

I'm a ten. Really that's silly I don't do ratings. I've had guys tell me I'm a ten. I think I'm just pretty. Guys are. They're usually awkward or socially awkward

[Xelebrum]

You either have "Resting Bitch Face Syndrome" or they think you're either taken and/or waaaay out of their league. Most guys hate having their time and effort wasted.

[Drath]

To be honest, not every men do that, i dont get scared of anyone even if its the most popular or hottest girl in the universe, all i care about is the inner peace and heart (if good human)

[RationalMale]

They never built up confidence and social skills.

I don't know how that negative cliche came around of hot girls being mean... in my experience, beautiful women are usually pretty warm, friendly, and courteous.

[Shantishanti]

So wait... If I make them scared (I do) that means Im hot? Naahh!!

[Gonetowardthewind]

If I saw you at a party, I'd be pretty nervous to approach you, just saying

[PiuBelloAmante]

too much work,
it depends how you look, if you look snotty and hot they won't try, but if you are smiley and say hello they will come over

[CamelzBeSteppin]

"Men will fantasize over women like me." That is the reason people shy away from you. Nobody likes self centered and or cocky people.

[Asker]

No I'm just stating the truth and many men who have rejected me have claimed they fantasize about me. And people have told me that I'm a fantasy for men. People who call others out on basic statements are the cocky ones. Get a clue

[CamelzBeSteppin]

There is no doubt in my mind that you're incredibly physically apealing but you truly do come off as an arrogant bitch, if you don't mind me saying. Which you do but I'll keep that in just for shits and giggles.

[alisenn9922]

no.. thats something a misogynistic jerk says about a nice woman for no reason... you're the arrogant and cocky one.. seriously get lost creep