Ok so I'm gonna try to keep this short! I've been best friends with this girl for the past 3 years and I finally got the balls to ask her out. She said yes! She did say that she had previously only thought of me as a friend but recently she's been thinking that maybe something more could come from our relationship. We've been talking/going out on dates for 3 weeks now. I asked her how she's feeling and she said she really has fun when we hang out and she wants to keep working on it. The only thing she said she's having a hard time in her mind looking at me now as a boyfriend figure instead of a friend! She said she's wants to keep working on it though. So any advice on how I could help her through the transition would be appreciated!
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Congratulations on making it out of the friend zone! That's a tough transition in itself and I bet that feels amazing! Onto your question, there's certain things you have to remember. Space is a huge one and I can not express this enough. It will take some getting used to on her part and you can not force her into this. She has to gradually become accustom to it on her own time. There are going to be moments when you feel like you have failed entirely but don't give up hope. The man I have been with for 4 years was once a man I had in the "friend zone". It took me a few months to start seeing him as more of a friend, but when I did, boy did the sparks fly. He was perfect and I wish I had realized it sooner. However, my big thing was that I just wasn't ready to jump full on into it at first. Which your friend might be experiencing as well. Given that he was my friend, I felt that if I rushed into it it would crush our friendship. It obviously didn't but at the time, the idea of it scared the piss out of me. So the best advice I can give you is just be yourself. Don't try to impress her with a shit ton of fancy dates if that isn't the person you really are. Make sure you are still that friend you were but add more to it. Holding hands, kissing her (forehead, hand, etc.), putting your arm around her waist while walking. Little things like that. The more you do this, the easier it will be for her to overstep that friend line that she is having a hard time crossing. Good luck to you!3