Women who play games, those who talk to multiple guys at once without getting emotionally investing in them, seem to have the upperhand with guys. They hardly initiate anything (texts/chats/etc), take forever to reply back, and have hobbies that take up much of their time. In my experience, every girl who has done this gets the guy, meanwhile the girls who act genuine (no games) are ignored and single. What say you? Is there really a strategy to dating or relationships?
Most Helpful Guy
They never get the guy they get a guy and that guy always ends up not being the guy she wants because he doesn't actually want her he just doesn't like rejection and as soon as he no longer feels rejected or takes the time to figure who she really is he gets bored and either becomes the uncaring boyfriend or the guy who dumped her. Playing hard to get is only for girls that don't have enough personality to actually keep men interested. The one who cares least wins but they're playing a really crappy game for a really worthless prize. I love meeting these girls though. I like watching them try and fail because it's almost like clockwork it's so predictable. Everytime they meet a guy remotely worth thier time they struggle because he won't act like the rest of the guys. They think he's playing the whole I care less game but really he just lost interest and she loses out and settles for that other guy. Never fails. She either married one of these guys goes through a crappy marriage and does it again or quotes and spends the rest of her life bitter. Manipulating emotions is how you control people not how you build relationships or create happiness. The best guys know what they want and they aren't desperate to get it. So if your playing hard to get, emotionally unattached, and dating a bunch of guys that guy I just described is gonna look at you and go nah not it and move on to the next one. You're still playing the game but he's completely left the court. Playing hard to get is a game of fear. It scares people because they feel confused about what she may be doing and they get scared they'll lose her. Fear and respect struggle to exist together. Once a man stops being afraid of the playing hard to get girl leaving she looses all power over the relationship and he stops caring because he's got zero respect for her because of all the crap he feels like she put her through. It's just bad dating logic.0
Most Helpful Girl
I would say I have to agree with you. I'm the type of girl who if I like a guy, I let him know. I'm not one to ignore his messages or play games. I don't like to lead a guy on, act interested then let him go.
I don't flirt with guys for attention, I only flirt when I am interested. But I have a heck of a time with guys.
Any of my friends who played games are now settled down. I have been trying to find someone for forever and still have yet to find anyone.0