The guy who loves me is becoming a hindrance to my growth, study and life goals. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't let me live in peace. He loves me. He never makes a commitment. He plays with my emotions. He doesn't let me study in peace. He cheats on me by breaking my heart at the most unexpected time such as during my exams. He knows that his attitude is affecting my career but he still continues this toxic cycle. When I try moving on he makes me feel bad about me. He tells everyone lies about me and they believe him. He doesn't let me have a good reputation by spreading false allegations about me. I can't move on from him since he doesn't want me to move on from him yet he never treats me right, gives me silent treatment everytime he is mad at me. He doesn't let me live my life in peace. What should I do?

[Lliam]

He is sabotaging your future. He is even using the tactics of a narcissist to sabotage your friendships.

It doesn't sound like this guy could be more toxic.

Block him on all social media. Block his phone number. Change the locks on your door. Do not interact with him in person if he comes up to you. So not fall for any apologies or coercion like threats of self harm. Get a restraining order if he harasses you.

He is not a good dude. Let him go to Hell.

Find a new boyfriend and have him kick this guy's ass if he bothers you again.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO.
Best of luck with your studies. May you achieve your goals and dreams.
There are good guys out there. This one just didn't work out. That's how it goes until you find Mr. Right.

[Levin]

It's not his choice. You decide who stays and goes from your life. There are boundary issues here. What is the reason you can't let him go? There must be a deeper reason for it. Also check your own self-esteem, cause if you value yourself you won't tolerate bullshit.

[Anonymous]

You can move on. When he tells people lies about you and they believe him, remember, they WANT to believe him. Those type of opinions should be irrelevant to you, because if they wanted the truth, they could do some investigating and find it.. they don’t want the truth, they want to believe the lies. They don’t matter in your story and neither does he. End the relationship with him and stop giving a sht about what the gossips choose to believe. Make your future self proud by moving on! You got this!

[DishLady]

This is a problem. If you let the guy take up every thought and moment of your day (which a guy can possibly do… a little at a time) then you’re not leaving room in your own life for yourself… It’s important to set boundaries so you can respect each other’s lives while still forming a closer bond.

[Keyboardkat]

There is someone out there who will love you and value you for who you really are, and will help you rather than hinder you in achieving your goals. Give yourself the chance to find him. Dump this guy. Let him find someone else to mistreat.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't love you, otherwise his actions would mirror his words. You simply are attracted to him even though he's a player. You know it, he knows it, so he does what he does because you allow it rather than dumping him and finding a guy that actually loves you.

[sheikalana]

You have really poor boundaries. He treats you like that because you keep allowing him to come back and do the same things over and over again. He's not going to change. You either cut all ties and all forms of contact for good or keep allowing him into your life and cry about it.

[A_Nihilist]

Can't help but notice that not once did you say you loved him back. The phrasing of the title doesn't make it sound like you're in love with him either.

That plus the abusive behaviour, such as telling you that people are talking about you behind your back to wear you down.

Best you move on with your own life.

[slatyb]

Stop wasting time on him. Tell him to stop contacting you. Then block him and NEVER RESPOND. That's very important. As long as you respond in any way he will not stop.

[Xia1994]

He’s no good for you a guy who really loves you would support you and respect you and speak highly of you to others. He doesn’t seem to be doing those things why stay with him when you can find a guy who will do those things?

[Xia1994]

You can literally find another man who can treat you much better than he does there a whole lot of men in the world honestly.

[Pterodon]

I had a friend that said there’s only two sins. One is to interfere with one’s own growth and the second is to interfere with the growth of another

[exitseven]

This is not a healthy relationship. You know what you ha e to do.

[DrPepper12]

Ditch the abuser. He's a selfish manipulative child. It will only get worse

[Anonymous]

You: “He loves me.”

Also you: Proceeds to describe everything he does that proves that he, in fact, does not love you.

[Asker]

Or he might be a guy who uses girls in the name of love

[Staximus]

How about stop being so weak and break up with him

[Staximus]

You're holding onto a piece of shit that you should have flushed down the toilet. You must like getting treated like shit it else you would have left him already. Pull your head out of your ass and leave him already

[Staximus]

Liam is right, have some guys kick his ass and tell him to stay away from you

[MrDaveAPSI]

Maybe right now, isn't the best time to have a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

How old are u both