Well, I told a guy once that I thought he was really intense and when I said that, I meant that he was really focused on certain things and the way he spoke about certain topics was passionate. He is also very forward and upfront. So with all of that at once, it felt really intense to me which didn't turn me off, but it did kind of make me feel intimidated. That didn't cause me to back off though, we're in a relationship now.
I know that isn't your exact situation but perhaps how forward you were made the guy feel similar. He could have just felt like he didn't know how to proceed with the relationship given how direct you were being. Although, being direct and honest is typically a very good thing so I don't think what you said to him was wrong in any way. Maybe he just wasn't sure how to take that. It seems like he's okay with you now though, do you have more plans to meet up again in the future?
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It means you held him to a standard he could not meet, ie. follow up and follow through. Intense is a word used by weaker people who cannot meet your standards. I have had male and female friends call me intense for different reasons. The girl called me intense because I challenged her on an ignorant assumption of hers.
Maybe, he likes you but he thinks you like him too much. Maybe he wants to take it slow, get to know you better and get you to know him better.
Maybe just take it a little more casual is all. I happen to be a guy who would love it if a girl was honest and open with me like you were. But all guys are different and maybe he just needs a bit of a slower approach. And a guy can feel a bit off put by having a girl tell him that she needs his approval to avoid insecurity. He wants a strong confident partner not a person who second guesses themselves. Have a little more pride and patience and you'll do just fine :)
He can't handle the truth. And he can't handle real honesty. It's a bad sign of him being unreliable and unable to express himself.
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You were too relationship minded for his liking at that time, he was feeling overwhelmed. Sounds like a player.
It means that you should move on. You showed him so vulnerability and he wasn't careful with it. However, next time I am not sure you should say you would be insecure. Instead say that you had a great time and want to talk again soon.
It means you're too intense - how did you not get that?
Too clingy. He doesn't want a relationship.
It means you are too intense.
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He had some issues!
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