What does it mean when a guy says I don't deserve you?

[Anonymous]

i really like this guy and I compliment him often.

[SomewhereElse]

It's hard to say without knowing more about how he acts around you in other situations. Do you think he likes you? In my experience, when a guy says that, it means that he likes you a lot as a friend/person... but is not really interested in you romantically. He is trying to let you down gently. However, this is only my experience so far and if you think that he does like you, he may also be saying it to show you he thinks highly of you.

[apple24]

I assume he lost his marbles. Or he playing some kinda of game. But it just him trying to be nice.

[vikinggirl]

Most likely he does not take compliments well so that's all he can say.

[9mfeo]

He doesn't think he's good enough for you because he's insecure.

[Rufus335]

umm is he complimentign you back or just saying he doesn't deserve you when you compliment him? its possible he's trying not to lead you on too much but wants to keep you on the hook. I don't know dont have enough background but it could also be taken as a compiment like andy said below

[BertMacklinFBI]

its usually a good thing, he's paying you a big compliment.

not very often, but it may happen, a guy can use it as a nice way to stop seeing you, it really depends how the phrase, "I don't deserve you" is said, in context.

[Sunflower19]

Hmmm... Interesting...

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Sunflower19 i only say that because I did it once.

i was backing off, and i kept giving reasons that things wouldn't work, yet she persisted, and I added, "I don't deserve you", same shit as "I'm not good enough for you" basically, but if the girl likes you she just won't give af lol so I ended up being straight with her.

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Sunflower19 how are the cooking recipes going btw?

[Sunflower19]

Hmmm okay makes sense! However, if a guy says this but their really into you then that's a good thing? & really well thanks!!:) I made some carne asada the other night and it was delicious!! 😃

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Sunflower19 if they say it and they're into you, yes it's a good thing.

ahh i love carne asada! i want to make some burritos

[MitGlied]

Good one. didn't think about that but makes sense!

[MitGlied]

OMG.. I said that more than one time.. well I said: You find someone better than me.. ouch...

[BertMacklinFBI]

@MitGlied yeah thats another one lol

[MitGlied]

But in the case of "(GO and) You find someone better than me.." women are pretty clever to get that hint. with " I don't deserve you?" its some miscommunication possible dont you think?

[BertMacklinFBI]

@MitGlied I guess it depends on the girl, but "I don't deserve you" actually does sound like self-pity, as opposed to, "Go find someone better."

[Anonymous]

I used to say that all the time as just a term of love. Saying I don't deserve you in my eyes is saying how lucky you feel to have that person in your life. Although he could always mean it literally and feels like he doesn't deserve someone like you because of his past or belief in himself. But I really really doubt that haha. You shouldn't worry. Help me?

[Metlahaed]

I would usually say it is a compliment, but it is a self deprecating one, and it usually bears some truth. In my experience, the guys who say stuff like that, they mean it, even if they don't realize it.

[Shadowtrooper_BNG]

It means that we don't like ourselves and don't want you to go through the pain. I would say that to Melanie but I like her to much. I'll try, I'll probably fail

[Marttinez]

it's one of the oldes excuses in the book to say I don't wanna be with using a compliment

[Aussie_Steak]

Well it means that he thinks the highest of you. If he says that then he really likes you. Ask him out and show him that he deserves you. Good luck!

[TadCurious]

It's probably different for everyone who says that. But --- in my experience I had 2 girls I dated tell me that and they ended up dumping me.

[tupperware]

It's a good thing. Until he says that and follows it up with NO SERIOUSLY, BEAT IT you're fine.

[Anonymous]

It means he is a jerk and he is trying to say he does not want a relationship because he cheats

[Anonymous]

It's like killing someone by feeding them excess delicious cake. Stay away from him.

[MimTcgraw]

Maybe he's an addict or alcoholic and doesn't think he deserves any relationship but himself

[MitGlied]

You really want to know?

[MitGlied]

Sorry, of course you do. Well... He is happy to have you in his life. He feels somtimes insecure. He is afraid to loose you because he feels inferior to you. If he says that he wants to hear: "Of course you deserve me. I love you / I really like you / Its great to be with you". on a second level its a trust issue. He wants to be assured (insecure) that he can trust you. Maybe he is a little bit of a attention whore. :) If you think he deservse you (do you?) then say so... keep up the affirmations and in some weeks he knows that you deserve each other. .. Happy end :)

[MoPuffy]

Means that he feels lucky to have you.

[overthinkingmind]

It can have 2 interpretations. What's the context?

[justbanANNAz]

i have no idea what a guy means when he says that.

[CountVronsky]

It means he likes you, but he has no pride.

[Anonymous]

he doesn't like u but try to reject kindly