I keep hearing from people that honestly confidence outweighs looks. Obviously I'm not saying that an absolutely horrible looking dude is gonna be okay with it. But my friend used to work at a bar. He said he would see this guy that would walk in, who's maybe 5 foot 5. Overall just a short guy but he would confidentally go up to these dime piece girls and introduce myself and by the end of the night, he would actually leave with one of them and take them home. He's like this dude is not the best looking dude in the world though he's not like ugly but his confidence got him the girls. Thoughts?
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Shy people are sweet but some of them never seem to get very far with the object of their desire. It comes back to fear of rejection and over thinking things. Confidence definitely outweighs looks in this sense. It is the key aspect. Secondly personality and then looks. Not everyone is going to take pity on you or take you by the hand. I learned this when I was 17 and really shy. I had a huge crush on this guy at college, but couldn't even look him in the eyes without turning into a quivering wreck. I had his attention for a bit but he got bored, moved on and some other girl snapped him up. 😠 I had missed my chance.
You've really got to make some sort of effort to get what you want.
You really don't have to dive in, wear your heart on your sleeve and blab that you really like them. Just break the ice, make small talk. Get to know them better. Remember, looks are only skin deep. It's what's inside that counts.0