I am asking because I was just rejected by my crush for some girl in my math class who is thick but fit with a bubbly butt and thick hips and thighs. And another guy I liked last year didn't find me attractive. I have a sister who is 14 and 3 years my junior with a bigger butt, boobs, and hips than me and she isn't fat or chubby at all. People have commented on that and it makes me feel bad, like if something is wrong with me.
The past 10 months I have made it my goal to gain wieght and exercise because before I was skinnier but with more fat as in flabby skinny. I couldn't do sit ups without someone holding my feet down and couldnt even do one push up. Now I take care of myself and I went from 102 pounds to 114 pounds. I am 5'2 by the way. But for some reason my breasts got smaller and my whole body seemed to have gotten leaner. I suppose the saying that muscle weighs more that fat is true. I have a more sculpted figure now but sadly my butt isn't big. Its just a now perky but still small butt. I was told its because no one can drastically change one's shape. A lot of it is due to genetics and body structure. Sure you can improve it but there is only so much you can do because gaining muscle and good fat isn't necessarily deposited where you want it. I now love my scuplted legs and arms. But my butt just got perkier and my hips and waist ratio are the same. I lost breast fat. I went from a 34 C to a 32 B.
Does it really matter? Sorry if this is all over the place. I am a crying mess over this rejection and and the fact that i never had a boyfriend. Does having a small ass & B cup boobs really a deal breaker? According to my parents, siblings, and friends, I am a sweetheart and have a pretty face.. So i know it isn't my personality thats throwing guys off. So I don't know what else could it be except my lack of curves depsite my wieght gain and increase of muscle through lots of training.
Curves definitely attract, but as long as you look like a female in some major fashion, it is personality and interest after that. Now young dudes may think differently and we all have our preferences in body types. I actually like gals who are a little taller and medium build rather than skinny. But I know guys that like skinny girls. Girls that are in shape at the gym are also attractive even if their butts aren't that big.
People, especially girls will work on every thing they can physically but not their personality and interests. Being open, fun, not overly obnoxious, able to carry a normal conversation with a guy and engage him, have fun with him, play with him in fun ways, that goes a mile and covers up the other stuff fast. We all just wantt o be loved and be accepted don't we.
Work on that stuff, look "good enough" like well kept and be social and you should find someone. To me, 17 is still young to date, but I realize today you are like out of it if you haven't had a boyfriend. Take your time and enjoy the process. you have a lot to learn. if you can realize everyone is flawed and insecure, you are a mile ahead...
Im 22 now and honestly I look 100% different than what I did when when I was 17 and its been a huge change for the better. So if you are not happy with how you look now trust me your body will change a lot in the next 5 years. that being said there is no reason why you can't be happy with how you look now. I wish I could go back to you age with the same confidence and out look on life that I have now. as far as your body type goes, yes guys do tend to focus on the physical aspect of women a lot. all guys have different preferences, I personally like boobs way more that butts but thats just me. Keep on doing what you doing with working out though, I don't think I now any guy who wouldn't like a girl who's in shape. as far as trying to make your butt look bigger have you been doing squats or leg presses with heavy weight? like weight that you can only do 3 to 5 reps with at one time? and whoever told you that you can't change your body because of genetics is feeding you lies! making your boobs bigger might be impossible but it is definitely possible to get a big butt if you put in the time and effort, it'll just take a while.
That stuff really isn't that important, it's more just like gravy. If the girl isn't compatible because our personalities don't mix well, I could care less about her tits or her ass. Plain and simple, you're fine, so don't let one breakup ruin your confidence.