Okay, so I'm a 20 year old female and I honestly haven't been attracted to anyone for years. The last time was when I was in high school. Even then it was just a crush. Also, I've never been in a relationship before. Have I ever kissed anyone? Yes, when I was 17 and even then I didn't enjoy it. Maybe it was because I forced myself to go through with it just to get it out of the way. And I wasn't attracted to him at all. From there, I guess it kind of put me off. And I haven't been interested in meeting anyone for a while and that was my first and last kiss since then.
I know this may sound strange but I think reading has given me unrealistic expectations in a guy. By this I mean, I read a LOT. And I feel like I subconciously keep expecting to meet someone and instantly just know... If that makes sense. But obviously thats not going to happen.
Whenever I look around at my friends and family, it always seems so much easier for them to let themselves be attracted to someone and be in relationship. But why not me?
From what little you all know about me, can you maybe guess why I'm not attracted to anyone anymore? Is anyone else going through this? Any advice?
P. S. I'm not gay, if thats what anyones thinking Lol.
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Hard to say without knowing, but in general, if you can't find anyone at all you're interested in at least a first date with then usually one of the following is going on:
You had a really bad experience in the past with a guy, and your subconscious is preventing you from being attracted to another guy to protect yourself.
You aren't happy with yourself, or otherwise depressed, and you think there's something about yourself that needs fixed before guys will like you, so again you subconscious tells you that you aren't attracted to anyone to protect you.
You're cynical and/or anti-social (which is also often the result of the above) and you aren't out meeting new people to be attracted to.
You have unrealistic or idealized expectations that a real person can never live up to, so no one you meet seems attractive to you.