Why do I keep getting ghosted by guys I like after they find out that I’m a virgin?

[Sarahdelacruz]

It really makes me so sad and insecure. It’s been way too many times and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I have great conversations and connections with guys but once they find out that I’m a virgin they just ghost me? Like everything is perfect up until the sex topic comes up. Do I have any luck in getting a guy who is going to love me for who I am and not pressure me into having sex when I’m not ready? I have never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never even had a first kiss. I get called beautiful, get told that I have an amazing personality yet I’m still single. What am I doing wrong? Why is it so hard for me to get a man? I’m so confused. It’s like guys are so attracted to me up until they find out that I have no sexual experience. I’m just really so confused. I don’t want to have sex with a random guy just for the sake of losing my virginity. I want to actually fall in love and have a special mutual connection with my partner. I don’t want my first experience to be with just anyone. I’ve never experienced true love and it makes me sad how I’m constantly reminded daily how beautiful I am yet I’m still single. Everyone’s always so shocked about me being single or never having a boyfriend yet no one wants to actually date a virgin.

[loveslongnails]

You're not doing anything wrong, they're the wrong guys for you. Things can be seemingly great - conversation, common interests, etc. But if a guy isn't TRULY looking for an LTR, he'll bail for a few reasons:

1) Once he hears "virgin", he assumes you're waiting for marriage. He doesn't want that, so bye bye
2) Even if there's a chance you'll eventually have sex with "the right guy" before you get married, you've held out this long and why invest the time if he's not ready to commit anyway?
3) The whole idea of an inexperienced woman in ANYTHING SEXUAL is a turn off
4) Even if you did have sex in a short period of time because you were crazy about him, it's fairly common that women latch on to their "first". He doesn't want that for the same reasons as above - doesn't want to commit.

So... is sex completely off the table with you till marriage, or can you see yourself finding someone you like well enough to be sexual with not knowing if it will result in marriage?

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it your goal to remain a virgin until you are married or to remain a virgin until you find the person who will be your lifetime partner?

[Gochogirl]

So here is how boy brain works here:

"Wow she's really great she's so cool maybe we can take this a little further. Oh she's a Virginia? Uh oh, if I'm her first then she's going to get overattached to me and I won't be able to get rid of her if things don't work out because women are craaaaazy! Instead of talking this out and expressing my feelings, I'm just going to disengage and find some easy pocket pussy."

Sad. But a possible explanation.

[Sarahdelacruz]

Haha you made me laugh. Thank you for this.

[sunshineglow]

Gochogirl is right. You need to find better people to connect with.

[sunshineglow]

Don't be insecure. Focus on religious guys who are virgins from religius reasons and them you're equal.

[readyplayer001]

they aren't worth your time and just looking to get laid. stay true to yourself always, the right person will know what he has found when you meet the right one

[Hulk30]

shit i do please send me a picture of what ya look like and ill give ya a shot im in a polygamous relationship and if your into that then we can get to know each other a little better if not we can be friends and i can help ya get a man it's a win win for ya maa'm

[RHK36]

Nothing wrong with you, just meeting the wrong guys. They probably either want you to put out easily or don't want that pressure of being your first.

[Fireguy17]

they don't think that they have a chance of being with you so they just move on.
You will find the right guy someday that will be more than willing to wait until the time is right.

[Sarahdelacruz]

Thank you so much

[Dchrls78104]

Those guys you get involved with don't want virgins. From what you are saying, they seem uninterested in anything more than sex. You need to look elsewhere for the kind of relationship you want.

[Sarahdelacruz]

They say they do want a relationship when we first start talking but once they discover that I’m a virgin things start to change. Makes me believe that no man wants to date a 25 yr old virgin :(

[Dchrls78104]

My point exactly. I'm a virgin, too, and girls hardly notice me, either.

[Sarahdelacruz]

It’s not that I don’t get noticed. I get lots of attention from guys. I just can’t get past the texting stage with guys I ACTUALLY like because they are not into taking the time out to date me because I’m a virgin. I just don’t understand why.

[Sarahdelacruz]

I just didn’t know that being a virgin is a crime

[Dchrls78104]

Like I said, if a guy wants only sex a virgin likely won't interest him. He wants a woman who has actually had sex. After having sex for the first time the virgin tends to crave the man's company more and some guys just aren't into that.

[Sarahdelacruz]

Ok thank you.

[slatyb]

"I get called beautiful, get told that I have an amazing personality..." By whom?

[Sarahdelacruz]

Men.

[Yourfriend2021]

There are lots of players these days just looking for sex but there are still guys that want someone like you :)

[Sarahdelacruz]

You’re so sweet. Thank you.

[Yourfriend2021]

Oh thank you, that's nice of you. You're welcome and don't worry :)

[The_Maphio]

Virgins are a pain in the butt, personal opinion. Seems like it's not so thinly spread, too.

[TheFlak38]

you should raise your astronomical standards a little more. that will help.

[Anonymous]

Try dating other virgins. We are more than willing to stick around.

[boredguy007]

They have cheap thoughts leave them aside.

[noohair]

Hid you tattoo that says I am a Virgin.

[LegendaryIcon]

they likely want something else..