When I am seeing a guy, I never know when he stops texting me if he is just not interested anymore or just testing my interest to see if I will text him first. I went out with a guy two times last week and it was awesome. He said we would see each other this week, since I mentioned I was going out of town for the weekend. He texted me wishing me a good trip on the first day I was away, but now it's already Thursday and I still haven't heard from him, and I got back on Monday. If he's not interested anymore I don't wanna bug him, but if he's just testing me I would have no problem in taking initiative to text him and ask him out. Should I wait longer or just text him?
Yes, even though i don't text her or text her first, that doesn't mean i don't like her. I'll still think of her even though she might think i don't just because i don't text first. The reason why we don't text first because sometimes we are scared that 1st: she might not be interested in me. 2nd: We might come off as creepy if we text her first and this might actually scares her off. 3rd: we tend to think that when we text a girl first, the girl might know that we actually likes her and we don't want it to be that way. You shouldn't wait any longer for his text. I would love a girl to text me first to shows that she is interested before moving on to text her first in other days to come. Try initiate like "Hey, I'm back! How are you doing" or maybe "Hey, it's been awhile since we chat." and i'm sure he will like it.
If you believe he’s testing you to demonstrate your own interest in him and you don’t have issue taking such initiative, then by all means follow your instincts and text him first. You’re not bugging him, you just want clarification and there’s nothing wrong with that. From my point of view, there isn’t anything weird or wrong with a girl making the leap and reaching out to the guy first, especially if she likes him, but even more if she cares about him and has deeper feelings. Be bold and assertive; some males appreciate the girl being proactive in their relationship.
Of course, it would be something different if you were constantly texting him and you didn’t let up. That would not only be bugging him, but annoying too. Yet, you’ve been gone for several days and now you’re back without a peep from him. Nothing out of the ordinary at this juncture reaching out and just making sure he’s still interested in getting together and being with you. Perhaps he became distracted by something important and he’s not meaning to cause you to feel neglected.
My advice is give him the benefit of the doubt this first time around. Don’t stress yourself with “what-if” thoughts about what he could and could not be doing and just text or call him and find out first hand what’s going on. Then you’ll know for sure and you won’t have to guess. Then if he’s still interested, so much the better. From my perspective, life is too short to waste time guess. Text him and take the unknown out of the equation. That’s my bottom line.
"When I am seeing a guy, I never know when he stops texting me if he is just not interested anymore or just testing my interest to see if I will text him first." Unless you give him a good reason not to be interested, he's either testing you or too busy right now. Also, he might be interested to chat for 10 minutes from the start. What you say may make little effect, and after 10 minutes he'll be back to his business. So interest is also from the start. "Should I wait longer or just text him? " You might want to text him and remain relatively distant until he starts showing more warmth. Otherwise you might wait forever or a long time when he finally gets tired of playing the "who's most dependant" game.
Texting is useful when everything is dandy. When there is the least amount of doubt, such as in the beginning of a relationship, or if there’s a kink of any kind in the communication, text * is * awful.
CALL HIM. You will know very quickly if he’s into you. Just call him and say hi and then if it feels good, ask him out. Just let it take its course. You can never mess it up because what is there, is there, and what is not, is not. He’s either into you or he isn’t. So give yourself a break.
I would suggest you learn to quiet your mind because you will always have this anxiety until you learn to go inside and just be happy there, with your own mind. It’s extremely useful and of course I am talking about meditation.
I do. I am tired of having to make the first move, always ask the woman out, text first, decide on dinner, yada yada yada. After the initial conversation, maybe the next day, I won't text her until she texts me first. Let's me know she is really interested and willing to make the effort.
Assuming you tested last and you seemed to hit it off the most likely 2 things going on are 1. he has a lot distracting him like work, tax returns , computor crashes etc etc etc or 2. he's over thinking what to say to you because he really wants things to workout and doesn't text girls on a dating level often so that uncertainty of how will this be taken combined with the perceived importance of the message is making him over think it.
As a reserved guy, I'm glad when I'm texted from a girl I'm dating to whenever she respects my reservedness. If I'm the only one who text first I don't know if she goes out with me because she wants or because she hasn't had a better plan to do. If she never text me first, I feel her to be more distant and it can be noticeable in my behaviour.
I would text him just this once but if the behaviour continues then you know to cut loose x
You should text him. He probably isn't sure if you like him or not. And is afraid of coming off clingy or anything by texting you. After our first date my guy would initiate text every day for the first three days, then he just stopped texting out of nowhere. And we stopped contacting each other for like 4days or so. I thought he found someone else better or lost interest.. But our date was just so great lol I was very convinced he was into me during our first date so I just decided to text him and see how it goes.. so I sent him my selfie and a short selfie video (like snapchat) w saying that I miss his 💋 Lol and man he replied right back and ever since that he's been texting me every day, super flirtous.. It's clear that my guy wasn't sure if I was interested or not and was afraid to make moves. Your guy probably is in the same shoes. I think you should give him some definite signs that you are into him and you want to see him.. Worst case he ignores you, it's his loss!
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