When dating, do you have a backup plan?

[AleDeEurope]

Pretty simple question: do you have a backup guy/girl in case your current relationship falls apart?

Yes, I do

No, but I had in the past

My current partner was the backup plan

No, never have and never will

[hellionthesagereborn]

I'm rather picky so that would be hard for me to do to begin with but I also think that its a bad idea just from a psychological standpoint. Basically when you have a back up you have basically increased the odds of the current date/relationship to fail as you have no need to be completely invested in it. So with one foot out the door you really have no motivation to put forth your entire effort into what you currently have in order to make it work (which is necessary for relationships to function properly).

[matheus_mb]

It's being hard for me to find a single girl to date, imagine a backup plan xD

[AleDeEurope]

Lol but let's say you are able to get a backup plan, would you go for it?

[matheus_mb]

No, simply because I wouldn't like to be someone's backup plan, therefore I wouldn't do it either.

[ElissaDido]

Technically, I do have a few guys who are currently flirting with me and interested in me, so yeah if I'm done with my current guy I can easily get with another one possibly in less than a week.
BUT I won't do it because rebounds are set to fail. I don't to loose my time or the other guy's time.

[AleDeEurope]

So why are you flirting with these other guys if you don't plan on ever getting with them, and given that you're currently taken?

[ElissaDido]

I don't flirt back I'm friendly but that's about it

[DizzyDesii]

If Im dating you, then no Im not thinking about other guys. But if im just crushing on you, then yea there's always another crush who I temporarily sat aside in order to focus on just you. So like... dont fck up

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[teawrecks]

I wouldn't have one in the sense of someone else I talk to consistently but I know I would have options if we did break up.

[AleDeEurope]

Do you consider those options as backup plans?

[teawrecks]

In a way, yeah.

[DizzyDesii]

Haha

[Cruciatusdeatheater]

Never. I'm always thinking about just that person that I'm with. Why go into a relationship with someone if in the back of your mind, you think it'll end in failure.

[this503girl]

If you're not "all in" then you shouldn't be in at all.

[AleDeEurope]

That's what she said.

[Alessus]

No. I see no reason to, because I'm going to assume that my relationship with the girl I'm dating will be a success.

[dragonfly6516]

Do I have someone lined up that I can use if I can get what I really want? No decent person does this.

[snowangle]

No, that's silly. I don't play dating like it's a game. I date someone I like and, if that falls apart, I'm in no rush to get to my next partner.

[archiz]

I think you know that I don t date srsly
so until I honestly state to the guy I wanna take it further which I did before
I don t consider any guy as the big deak so replaceable

[archiz]

deal*

[WaterRat]

If someone else worthy appears in my life then why not? But that doesn't usually happen. Too many duds or people who are already taken.

[whywouldyou]

That shits wrong. Otf is the point of having a relationship. People are so ignorant and selfish.

[Apoteket]

No. When I date, I date that one guy and I focus on our relationship! :)

[Chanel1981]

No. I'm not that desperate to be dating/in a relationship

[BrittBratt2416]

No, I don't do rebounding. I only focus on one person at a time

[estoydorado1]

If you enter into a relationship anticipating its failure, it's not going to work anyways.

[ChocoLada]

Yup, I have a backup, you've seen him in a mirror :P

[rgb008]

Never have done that.
If I'm dating someone, they get all my attention.

[IdkSomethingRandom]

I go with the flow. I can't say I've ever planned anything in my life.

[alice55]

No, when I like someone. I only like him / think of him.

[dolemite68]

yes, i still flirt and get other girls numbers even if i'm in a relationship, i dont hit them up unless 'm broken up tho

[whywouldyou]

so you shouldn't even bother. You are ready for it to end before you have even tried. pointless and ignorant. Grow up or stay single.

[dolemite68]

@whywouldyou grow up? why yes cuz girls don't do the EXACT same thing.

[catelyntje]

No I wouldn't need that since I'll only date people I see a future with in the long run

[RJGraveyTrain]

No, I've not ever done that.

[DinoKing]

I'm in a poly relationship right now so it's all about being with multiple people