I think you need to be completely open and honest about how you feel. Give yourself and him the chance to get everyone out in the open. Don't pretend to be content and carefree about this situation if that's not how you really feel. in my opinion that's a form of lying and we all know the truth eventually comes out. He'll be hurt if he knows that you've been lying about how you really feel. So talk to him, get his full attention, get him to listen and then you listen. Give him a chance to explain anything. I know you each will have questions about how the other feels about it. So be completely honest and open about it.
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You should just ask him about his sexuality , as in how does he know? It could be he's just bi maybe he's just curious or he's just not against the idea. I understand your insecurities I don't think I'd be comfortable dating a woman that finds other women attractive.
He sounds confussed when really he is just bi he wants both regardless of where its stronger at. Thats hard, i know. Im glad he was honest with you tho and yes he can still love you and be bi. has nothing to do with love. its lust.
Now does he not get intimate with you much like you feel rejected or like your asking for it more? does he go down and do those things to make you feel desirable?
Normally I wouldn't say something like this, but you should break up with him. I'm bisexual myself and I can tell you that those of us who are truly bisexual NEVER "feel straight" or "feel gay", we're just bi and that's it. But clearly his sexuality is making you uncomfortable so I would say to leave him. A relationship won't work if one or both of you aren't happy.
How old is he? He sounds he's confused on whether he's bi or gay , since he feels a different sexual orientation at different times. Lots of young men in the LGBT community are conflicted on what theyre attracted to as teenagers , and this is normal. how long have you two been together also?
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I understand how you feel, stay with him for a while and see how he acts around both men and women. If he shows things you don't like then perhaps you should break up with him but if he clearly shows that he loves you then maybe you should stay with him. However, the choice is up to you.
I'm bisexual and I know like 3 people that I find attractive, and I'd only actually date one of them... Just because he likes guys and girls doesn't mean he finds a lot of people attractive.
Think about it this way, he could happily date anyone and he decided that you were the best and that's why he's with you.
And no, he's not just going to magically turn gay all of a sudden.Wow who in the world dumps someone because of their sexuality? Are you out of your mind? Do you expect us guys to accept your foolish behavior of experimentation or bisexuality but you won't accept ours? You women should be ashamed of yourselves, this is why I'm proud to be completely single. Too many close minded closeted whores these days.
Just cause he's bi doesn't mean he finds everyone attractive and wants to date them, especially when he trusts you enough to tell you, but yet after knowing, you love him less.
I think he told you cause he loves and trusts you enough. Plus now you can talk about all the hot guys or whatever with your boyfriend, which most girls can't really do with straight guys.that's what it comes down to. are you willing to share him for his happiness? because he might need it sexually and emotionally one day.
and if you do share him. what part of the relationship remains exclusive. yes for most people it's sex. but not for all.
and if he's allowed other sexual partners who you want to explore / join in to.
in the end I guess the less flexible you are able to see yourself the happier you might be with someone elsebased from my experiences and what I've seen 8/10 bi guys will be gay. and it sounds like he doesn't know. which means he probably is gay. straight guy wouldn't be considering it ever really
lol... do you know that over 40% of girls are bisexual... it doesn't mean that they ll turn lesbians... it's love that is keeping you both together... don't let all these thoughts ruin you and your relationship by making him feel bad..
There is no way in hell I would be with a bisexual man.
It sounds like he's just bisexual. If it makes you feel insecure you should have an open conversation about it. I'm sure he would be happy to reassure you his friends are just friends. You were obviously into him before to start dating and his biological sexuality would not have changed since then, so I would approach him trust wise just as you would have before. Hope this helps!
Maybe its not the fact that he's bisexual that's problematic. Maybe its that you're impossibly insecure.
Honestly do whatever makes you comfortable. It seems you do not feel comfortable at all.
I think stay with him and see how things go from their
I wouldn't advise. A mentally unstable person is always risky to be with.
Most guys like that are just closeted gays.
I wouldn't have a proven with it as long as he don't cheat
Breakup, he is not gonna change.
lol i think that he must be fucked up
He's not bi, he's gay.
He's a cuck. Get a real man. There's your answer.
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