17 and never been kissed?

My best friend is 17 almost 18 and she's never had her first kiss. She is freaking out that its totally not normal and keeps asking me what's wrong with her. She is absolutely gorgeous and has a ton of guy friends. I don't really know what to say since I had my first kiss at age 11. Is it weird? What do I tell her?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Just tell her that there's no "normal" time to get one's first kiss. It'll happen when it'll happen. And it depends on whether she wants to get a kiss just for the sake of it, or she wants to find a boyfriend that will love her and eventually get to give her her first kiss, in which case the reasoning is still valid. Tell her there is nothing wrong with her, and she needs to look at it differently: because she has not kissed yet, her first kiss needs to be given to a very deserving guy(Wow, I'm surprised I'm actually writing this!). Also, if she's shy, just tell her to relax around guys. Help her understand she needs not make it such a big deal of getting in a relationship; the simpler you conceive, the sooner it happens

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What Guys Said 15

  • lol kids these day sare like : ''ÒMG I'm 15 and I'm still a virgin OMG I'm an outcast! ajbakdjfa''

    CHill. The. F uck. Up.

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    • LOL love it :)

    • worst is when I hear a 17 year old who says she's had 7 boyfriends(real story) and she's essentially a slut, jumping from guy to guy because she can't get enough d***. At seventeen.

      Now, if I was 5 years younger back into my teens and redo sh*t, id hit it and quit it faster than you can say QUIDDITCH! Have you seen harry potter yet? :D

  • theres..nothing wrong with that :S

    she just needs to find someone she really and truly can have a relationship with.

    Note: going out with a guy just to kiss doesn't count.

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  • Well I feel the same way as her! I'm 15 and have never kissed a girl. I really want it to be with the girl I'm recently in love with but she doesn't even have feelings for me! Haha, I guess I learn to deal with it because I know I'm doing it to myself and could kiss someone tomorrow if I had to! Tell her she's actually being smart by saving it, and many guys, like me, find it hot! Haha

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  • I had my first kiss when I was five, so I'm not much help. However, my freshman year in college I started dating a girl who had never had a boyfriend before. I was her first kiss and we stayed together for almost three years. Even though it ended, I don't regret a single moment of that relationship. Hope she can find something just as great. :)

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  • Tell her to get a boyfriend, and kiss him.

    Some people are shy, and are afraid of rejection, you have to get over this. It will seem scary, it will be intimidating, but when your succeed, you will feel like your on top of the world.

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  • Now wwe all know girls find all their friends gorgeous, when most of them, to be frank, aren't quite

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    • To be honest I'm a very blunt person I find several of my friends average or subpar but this girl for real could be a model

  • I didn't kiss until I was 23, it'll happen when it happens, relax!.

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  • It's OK, I still haven't; I am almost 20. I don't think the first kiss is a big deal; it's just hyped up to be one because it's your first kiss.

    What's her personality like? Not every guy just sees what's on the outside

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  • I didn't till I was 18. Glad I waited cause it was perfect

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  • Don't even worry about it you are young doesn't matter, when the first kiss comes it will come when it will and if you force it it won't be special every girls first kiss should be unforgettable and special

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  • She just hasn't been trying. A girl can get a kiss no problem.

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  • horrible!

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  • Tell her not to worry when she's meant to have a boyfriend she will .

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  • At that age, if she meets a right guy, her first kiss might be ... well, like in the movies.

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  • Its weird depending on how long she has looked gorgeous.

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What Girls Said 17

  • I'm 18 and never been kissed.

    my reason is that I moved a lot so I never had a boyfriend and even when I get close to guys.. Like really close I get startling shy and can't kiss. It might also be because you friend (and me too) are looking for a huge crush to fall for and then kiss him then go out. But sometimes its hard because your looking and you really shouldn't. Think of when you go looking for something you need (like keys or a clicker) but never can find it but when you stop looking its in the last place you would think. I'm slowly figuring this out and lowering my standards.

    I've heard "the right one will come." so many times its crazy so don't say that. Maybe hanging out with her single guy friends will help.

    (don't tell her this reason--->) You never know, she might end up falling for one.

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  • No, it's not weird.

    I was freaking out just like her a few years ago

    because everyone around me had their first kiss when they where really young.

    I didn't kiss somebody til I was 15,

    but I shared it with someone special [ my at the time boyfriend ].

    Yea it's a pain when the people around have experienced more stuff at an earlier time,

    but eventually her time will come.

    She needs to focus on the things that matter [ i.e. school, her hobbies, etc. ]

    and before she knows it, she'll meet someone and experience what she's been waiting for.

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  • Just kiss her. lol. yeah, she'll freak out you stole her first kiss and are a girl but at least she won't be whining about not having a first kiss. A lot of guys will think it's hot too.

    but seriously, it's not that big a deal. despite what hollywood says, a kiss is not magical and will not change yourself, solve world hunger or bring universal peace.

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  • I didn't kiss a guy til I was 19 and in college... tell her it will happen and to relax.. high school just sucks ha ha ;)

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  • Normal these days is definitely not a good thing anymore. The average age most girls lose their virginity is at age 17 which is way too young. But as for kissing, most girls have probably had their first kiss no later than 14 years of age. She is a strong individual and that's what makes her beautiful. Could you imagine how impressed a guy would be if she told him that she's never kissed anyone? Any guy would be so turned on by the fact that she's not a typical sleezy girl and that she is waiting for the right one. I'm sure she is gorgeous and that she will have an amazing first kiss because it will actually be with a guy she truly cares about. Props to her. :)

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  • tell her not to freak out, I'm 17 and just had my first kiss last summer. tell her you admire her for that and that she's even more special because hardly anygirl at 17 can say they've never been kissed it may seem embaressing but she really is holding something special because whoever gets that kiss is going to have to mean the world to her. tell her that any guy should be honnored that they are holding such a precious flower. its sad that society has to pressure us into kissing and sex and looking perfect and being in touch with our sexual side buy 13. I admire your friend and think she's even more beautiful because she hasn't been kissed and the guy that she really truly should be with will think the same thing too =]

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  • i lost my first kiss to a girl...we are both straight and werejust playing around...lol

    then if she's gorgeous and has tons of guy friends she should be happy instead of worrying about her first kiss...lots of girls who have been kissed aren't that happy AT ALL.

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    • Not to make a judgement, but... How on Earth is you kissing a girl straight? Just asking, not questioning.

    • lol.we were just both trying that out...i don't have to be in love with a girl to kiss her right?I Kissed A Girl doesn't make Katy Perry a leabian either...

  • Whats wrong with her is she's freaking out, tell her to cil & stop judging herself based on some guys tongue sticking in her mouth, Kind of an arbitrary standard for normalcy -no?

    Growing up isn't being kissed- its not worrying about it,

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  • I am 17 and haven't had akiss yet. One of my closest friends told me when I went to visit that she was going to find me a guy and get me that first kiss. But honestly I don't care, I know allot of 17Yo girls and guys that haven't had theirs yet. Yea it's not the "normal" these days but who really wants to be normal anyways. Tell her to be herself, and that there is plenty of people out there who are yet to experience their first kiss.

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  • kids these days need to learn how to be kids. you'll grow up and be able to engage in all these things soon enough. I was 19 before I first kissed a guy and that was 3mths into my relationship with my 1st boyfriend. tell her not to worry about it, there's no real need to have countless intimate relations at your age, you're still quite young.

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  • My friend was the same and she ended up going for a kiss... and the guy didn't push away. So I guess you can tell her not to freak out because its really not that big of a deal, she's probably over thinking it which is making it seem like its a big deal when its really not.

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  • freaking out because she hasn't kissed?

    ...

    calm down. my friend didn't get her first kiss till she was 22.

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  • i have recently turned 16 in october and all I hear from my peers are wow, really, I don't see how you do that. its simple save yourself. I'm not saying I'm a saint. I do my share of flirting, but that's about it. I don't let anyone influence me.

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  • its normal for some people if there shy

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  • i had my first kiss at age 5 1/2

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  • I'm seventeen and I just had my first kiss 3 weeks ago. It's really not a huge deal, it's better to wait for the right person, trust me. If she's all concerned still, take to her a party, get her really hammered, and help her hookup with someone ha ha (:

    Kidding, of course. But really, it's not a huge deal. Lots of people tell me how gorgeous I am, and I still just had my first kiss. Maybe she just hasn't found the right guy. It's completely fine, and nothing's wrong with her.

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  • I'm 25 & I've never been kissed, how do you think I feel?

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