I met this guy and we started flirting and getting into each other. He mentioned that he was dating another girl- kind of. He made it seem like he didn't want her around, but she kept coming by and hanging on anyways. I asked him why he didn't just let her go if he didn't want her around and he said he didn't want to hurt her for no reason.
We start texting and going out on dates. After the first date though, things changed- I started to really fall for him. He says he's into me as well, and he wants me too. He tells me he's going to talk to the girl and end things for good. Even though it's going to suck, having me at the end will be worth it.
He texts me right after they met up. She was very emotional, and now he thinks she doesn't deserve to be hurt. Now he's confused, and now he needs to figure out what he wants.
I am torn between my morals and my feelings. This situation is so wrong, yet I can't get myself away from him. We've already been intimate, and I feel like I'm falling for him more and more each day. He's older than me (by only a few years) and I like the security and maturity I get from him. To make things worse, I've been in her shoes before, and I know exactly what she feels like. (Though I ended up being dumped) My worst fear is that he'll manipulate my emotions to get what he wants, and then leave me anyway.
I don't know what to do. Should I stay, and wait until he picks, or leave?
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Never compete with another woman for a man's affections. Even if he picks you, he's still finding it "oh so hard" to leave this other girl. Do you want a man who couldn't easily pick you over someone else? Would you be able to trust that he wouldn't find another girl just as easily down the road? Don't play that game and sit around hoping/praying he'll give you a chance. Let the other girl be desperate, let you have respect for yourself and your worth. If he wants you, he knows where to find you.3