This girl has been dating some guy on and off for quite some time now. Everything I hear from her about this guy is that he's not assertive and self conscious and this and that and she just seems to only tell me bad things about him.
At the same time she's showing signs of interest, not consciously or purposefully flirting with me but I can tell she finds me attractive and we enjoy each others' company.
My question is, should I continue to lightly flirt with her but not ask her somewhere and just continue to let her come to me or should I make a move?
I wouldn't want to be the guy she is using for an ego boost and I don't know how she truly feels about this guy she's been dating (for about 4-5 months), so I don't know if I should try to get her attention or kind of neglect her until she figures out what she wants. If she's interested will she come to me?
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I think you should carry on being with her in a friendly way. Neglecting her purposely is rather silly and drastic. You can still flirt lightly but don't do the whole dates thing and intervene with that. If she really does like you, she will come around and tell you. She is still with a guy after all. But nothing is stopping you from still being friendly with her when you see her. Just don't get too heavy into the flirting cause that is rather wrong, seeing as she has a boyfriend. Just because she talks bad about him does not mean anything. I also have a boyfriend and truthfully sometimes when I"m around my guy friends who liked me in the past I also tend to focus on the bad things to make them feel better cause they'll sometimes ask me how everything is, and I'll say good but this and this is bothering me. I don't know why I do this, it just seems to happen naturally and it's difficult cause I really don't know why.1