I never get asked on dates!
Sometimes I will sleep with them (and they do come back for more), sometimes I will just kiss them and nothing more, but either way they don't ask me out.
I'm not considered dumb or annoying (though dumb annoying girls get dates!)
What might I be doing wrong?
A lot of people have said don't sleep with them - I don't sleep with every guy I meet!
Could I be giving off wrong vibes?
I am considered sexy/attractive, and have been told this makes me hard to approach.Should I dress more girlie and less sexy, even if its not "me"?
I am very well educated and travelled etc - could this be intimidating?
Most Helpful Guy
Every girl deals with this. The difference is that many (most?) girls don't have sex outside of relationships, so most of these guys will find that out, lose interest, and move on.
A lot of guys have figured out that women want male attention enough that many of them will agree to sex outside of a relationship if the guy makes it clear that's the only way he'll give her attention, even though the girls really want a relationship. But by doing this, they give the guys all the power, and none of the responsibility. Guys get the sex they want, but without having any limits or responsibilities that normally come with a relationship. So, why would they WANT a relationship?
The answer is that many guys still DO want a relationship, but they are outnumbered by the ones who don't. And the ones who don't are made up of the most attractive/confident/popular guys, because they're the ones who can use those attributes to get easy sex from girls without any commitment.
As a girl, what you need to be able to do is quickly determine what a guy is really looking for, and if that isn't a relationship, you need to dump them and move on. Yes, that means you'll be dumping a lot of guys, and a lot of them are going to be attractive guys that you'd really like to date. Do it anyway. If you get weak and give in, you'll get a reputation as "easy prey" and other guys will try to get the same thing from you.
You have to be willing to let guys go, even attractive ones, and focus only on those willing to be in a relationship with you. If all girls did that, guys would quickly rethink their "no relationship policy", but with so many girls giving up easy sex, guys have gotten used to getting away with it.7
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Most Helpful Girl
I can tell you this from my personal experience. I have been in the same shoes as you for a while. The reason guys only see a hook-up in you is that they get intimidated or blinded by your gorgeous physical appearance at the first sight. This automatically puts you in the category of women who have good looks (vs. intelligence) as one of their main attributes. And chances are, if you say "no" to sex and guys still don't ask you out, sex is all they wanted from you from the start and the very reason they approached you. I am not saying all hopes are lost that someone will show up and express a completely different kind of interest in you. It will just take a while. 99% of guys have no fear when it comes to complimenting you on your looks by showing their physical attraction to you. But, it will take some time and waiting for that 1% to come up to you as well and ask for something different. I myself look sexy, attractive and get hit on a lot every time I go out. Does it matter to me whether someone wants to date me or not? Not at all. I do not say "yes" to hook-ups, but the attention I get from guys does boost my ego. I am happy with the way I am, regardless of what it is that guys want from me. Know your worth deep inside and keep your head up high, gorgeous! Eventually, you will meet someone who will know it, too...1