I met this girl while shopping at the store where she works. We talked every time I went there and eventually I got her phone number. We have been talking and texting for three months now. I talk to her every time I shop there. She is always happy to see me and we always have a lot to talk about. Based on our conversations, flirty touching and texts, she seems really interested in me. Last month while I was at her store, I finally gathered the courage to ask her out and she said yes.
The first time we were supposed to go out, she cancelled on me with a legitimate reason - her father was in the hospital. Two weeks later, she cancelled on me again, this time because she had to work late. Both times she cancelled, I was the one calling or texting her to confirm our date, only to have her respond that she couldn't make it. And both times, she never offered to make it up to me. The first time she cancelled, I was completely understanding and did not make a big deal at all. But now I am wondering what to do since she has now cancelled twice in a row, so we have yet to go on our first date.
I know most people would say drop her, she's playing games, she's not worth it. But I'm not ready to do that just yet. I really do like her but I don't want to send the message that it's OK for her to keep canceling without ever making it up to me. Plus, she did have legitimate reasons both times (assuming she wasn't lying). The next time she calls or texts, how should I respond:
1) Act like I'm not bothered at all. Continue seeing her and talking to her like I always do.
2) Completely ignore her. Don't talk to her and don't respond to any calls or texts until she offers to make it up to me.
3) Tell her that I am hurt, upset or that I don't appreciate her canceling on me without warning and without offering to make it up me.
4) Give a snarky response like "Get back to me when you decide to start acting like a mature adult."
The first time we were supposed to go out, she cancelled on me with a legitimate reason - her father was in the hospital. Two weeks later, she cancelled on me again, this time because she had to work late. Both times she cancelled, I was the one calling or texting her to confirm our date, only to have her respond that she couldn't make it. And both times, she never offered to make it up to me. The first time she cancelled, I was completely understanding and did not make a big deal at all. But now I am wondering what to do since she has now cancelled twice in a row, so we have yet to go on our first date.
I know most people would say drop her, she's playing games, she's not worth it. But I'm not ready to do that just yet. I really do like her but I don't want to send the message that it's OK for her to keep canceling without ever making it up to me. Plus, she did have legitimate reasons both times (assuming she wasn't lying). The next time she calls or texts, how should I respond:
1) Act like I'm not bothered at all. Continue seeing her and talking to her like I always do.
2) Completely ignore her. Don't talk to her and don't respond to any calls or texts until she offers to make it up to me.
3) Tell her that I am hurt, upset or that I don't appreciate her canceling on me without warning and without offering to make it up me.
4) Give a snarky response like "Get back to me when you decide to start acting like a mature adult."
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Do girls expect guys to tell them as soon as possible if they won't be able to make it on a date? Are the guys also expected to make up for canceling on someone? If so, should girls be held to the same standard?
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