I met this girl while shopping at the store where she works. We talked every time I went there and eventually I got her phone number. We have been talking and texting for three months now. I talk to her every time I shop there. She is always happy to see me and we always have a lot to talk about. Based on our conversations, flirty touching and texts, she seems really interested in me. Last month while I was at her store, I finally gathered the courage to ask her out and she said yes.
The first time we were supposed to go out, she cancelled on me with a legitimate reason - her father was in the hospital. Two weeks later, she cancelled on me again, this time because she had to work late. Both times she cancelled, I was the one calling or texting her to confirm our date, only to have her respond that she couldn't make it. And both times, she never offered to make it up to me. The first time she cancelled, I was completely understanding and did not make a big deal at all. But now I am wondering what to do since she has now cancelled twice in a row, so we have yet to go on our first date.
I know most people would say drop her, she's playing games, she's not worth it. But I'm not ready to do that just yet. I really do like her but I don't want to send the message that it's OK for her to keep canceling without ever making it up to me. Plus, she did have legitimate reasons both times (assuming she wasn't lying). The next time she calls or texts, how should I respond:
1) Act like I'm not bothered at all. Continue seeing her and talking to her like I always do.
2) Completely ignore her. Don't talk to her and don't respond to any calls or texts until she offers to make it up to me.
3) Tell her that I am hurt, upset or that I don't appreciate her canceling on me without warning and without offering to make it up me.
4) Give a snarky response like "Get back to me when you decide to start acting like a mature adult."
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If I were you I would stop chasing. Let her make the next move. I would stop going to her work and I would stop being available to her. When she texts you, be nice and be normal. But don't bring up going out again. If she wants to go out with you then she obviously knows that you won't say no if she asks you out next. There could be a possibility that she's canceling because she doesn't want to be mean and reject you out front. Let her come around, and if she doesn't then she isn't worth it.
So I don't pick 1, because then she'll see nothing is wrong. However, if you do pick option 1, then there is a possibility that she will eventually go out with you, but you will also risk being strung along.
I'm not picking 2 because that sends off a sign that you aren't interested in her any more, and it will make it harder for her to ask you out if you ignore her.
I'm not picking 3 because, to be honest, even though it hurts, she has legit reasons for not going out with you, and they could be perfectly true. You don't want to come off as too emotional this early on, then she might think you're clingy.
Definitely don't do 4, as this gives her a definite reason not to go out with you. no girl wants to date a douche bag. not saying your a douche bag lol XD be a gentleman and be polite. guys usually assume that every girl likes a bad boy, but trust me, the girls that like bad boys aren't the girls you want to get involved with.
just be normal, but stop initiating texting for at least half of the time or more, and stop going to her work to see her unless she asks you to. if she asks you to come see her, tell her you can't, but you could on a different day at a different time and at a different place. and then you got yourself a date :) good luck, my friend :)0
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