My mom always compares me to other girls all the time?

[Anonymous]

Im 24 years old, Never got to graduate high school, Never had a boyfirend, Never been out with firends, im socialy awkward and im horrible connecting with people and making conversations,... and im very shy too... i can not help the way i am, im very slow aswell since i couldnt graduate but im giving it another try to get an GED, so far im not even close to being fiancial dépendent to live on m'y own,

but what hurting me atm is my mom she constantly compares me to other girls, telling me That her hair looks better or she speaks better or she Just looks better, it hurted myself eesteem alotttt by farrrrr i can't seem to pic myself up anymore, its really hard living with her, she even told me That a Guy might cheat on me one day Just cause im socially awkward,... and i feel no guy likes me anyways,.. ans she constantly tells me i have no personality...

so my question is how can i make myself feel better after her bitter comments?

[Distant]

Try to ask her to stop saying these things because you don't like negativity in your life or because it damages your confidence / self-esteem. She may or may not stop. Although, the more important thing to do is to change your mindset. How miserable does a mother have to be to insult her own daughter on a regular basis? Her comments shouldn't make you feel badly about yourself. They should make you pity her for having the need to put others down.

As for not graduating school or having a boyfriend or all of that, more people than you think are in a similar situation. I would suggest starting with working on your self-confidence before trying to make friends and to have a boyfriend. You know that old saying "You have to love yourself before others can love you". Once you find yourself, you'll become less shy and insecure. This makes it much easier to make friends. Keep doing school at your own pace and achieve your goals. Don't worry about being awkward or having "no personality". Some people actually find awkwardness attractive. Strange world we're living in, isn't it?

Keep your head up. Always improve. Don't let anyone's opinions of you define who you are.

[Pyrofox]

Just don't let your mom get to you. You sound absolutely awesome xD. On a side note you should try to just communicate to your mom that you are actively work toward the GED and stay positive. TBH wish more girls seemed as chill as you sound.

[Asker]

Awwww thank you xxoxxoo

[SirenDep]

explain to your mother how her comments make you feel, she might not have realized it. Tell her it's actually proven that if you often tell your kids how they aren't good enough, it actually becomes so, like a self fullfilling prophecy. She should stop comparing you to others and encourage you to do what's best for you, which won't necessarily be what 'this' or 'that' girl is doing. Tell her how her criticism makes you feel insecure and acts as an extra obstacle to you becoming better. Tell her you need advice, guidance, acceptance, love and encouragement instead.

[Asker]

I can't talk to her about it,... she does understand but she refuses to listen

[SirenDep]

try to talk about it in a calm manner, not accusingly.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal