Why do guys always "friend zone" me?

[Anonymous]

They never want to be more than friends and I don't understand? Every guy I have ever been interested in seems interested in me too but then never initiate anything. I feel like I am always friend zoned because they come to me for advice, we hang out constantly, and usually only become good friends. I get told I am an awesome/adorable/nice/chill friend and that's all :( What can I do to avoid this? (It sucks helping people I like get a girlfriend just so they can be happy!)

[kholland65]

It could be a few things but its hard to tell without knowing you personally. Here are some possible causes for this:

-Your simply unattractive

-You act to much like a boy which gives off the buddy vibe instead of lover vibe

-You lack the ability to flirt and create sexual desire

-You may have some sort of personality trait, that many guys find as a deal breaker.

-These guys you are referring to may see you as a friend because they've known you for years.

-Judging by your age, these guys might just be young and shy and as a result, only go for the girls who come on strongly to them, which obviously isn't you (but I don't necessarily suggest you do).

I will admit, typically its not normal for guys to friend zone girls since making a girl a friend first is usually a preferred step for men. That's why I feel like there must be something critically wrong that you're over looking which may be something I've listed.

[SouthernMan]

You may simply be making yourself too available for guys to ask about other girls. Most guys that I know have a girl or two that they have friend zoned to use for advice and back up so it is a normal situation, but it shouldn't be happening with a large volume of guys. It sounds like you need to be more selective of who you let into your circle of friends.

It is also possible that you are giving signals which lead guys to think that you have friend zoned them and have no desire to pursue anything other than friendship. If this is the case that would explain why they seem interested but do not take steps to initiate anything serious.

[3336PS]

I wish I can be friend zoned. I can't get the guys to be friends. Sucks. I act pretty boyish sometimes.

[kheserthorpe]

Gain 50 lbs. Problem solved.

[kheserthorpe]

Post pic.

I wish I was kidding.