Why do women hate honest men so much?

[CasaNorba]

like me for example...

i am always honest in telling women I interact with that I am currently not looking for a relationship right now but I don't mind having some casual sex. yet they end up getting turned off by this and get hostile at me by calling me insensitive etc.

i mean why!?

all I am doing is being honest. or do they rather have losers tricked them into being in loved with them so in the end after those get what they want then leave them and disappear from their lifes.

another thing I noticed is the problem they have with my attitude. you see once again I try to be honest and be myself yet they always claim that I'm an a**hole for not being friendly, sweet and geeky, etc. like wtf! how am I supposed to friendly to them when I been through hell since child hood. and plus I don't change for no one

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+1 y

alright people, notice how nowhere in the passage am I stating that these women should reward me with sex just for being honest with them. all I am asking is why is there so much hatred towards that.


trust me, would you want sex from these types of ignorant women anyways?

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+1 y

i though it would be nice to shared this. but this question link that I asked the other day was the thing that made me ask this

[pickledxtofu]

Women don't hate honest men

Women want men who want the same things as them

Why would a woman looking for a serious relationship be interested in a guy who flat out says he's not interested in a relationship and only wants sex? How on earth do you interpret that as hating you?

It's good to be upfront about what you're expecting. That way, the both of you can go your separate ways if you want totally different things. But just because you tell them upfront doesn't mean they're going to reward you with sex for being honest.

[Izzy2102]

Well most women want a relationship, so being asked for casual sex is a turn off and also prfoundly annoying. By the end of the night, you'll just be another loser that asked them for casual sex, portraying an increasingly sad picture of men today. It's just frustrating.

And I'm not sure how you imagine this, but just because you honestly ask for sex doesn;t mean she has to give it to you.

Also there is actually a difference between being honest and being an a**hole, it all depends on how you say it.

[CasaNorba]

im not expecting them to reward me with it. but why attack me just for being honest? and yes I maybe sound like an a**hole but oh well there is nothing I can do about that

[kheserthorpe]

Its no more 'sad' 'loser' like or 'annoying' then the converse. Does he get to go around moaning that women he wants to have sex with all ask for a relationship and that's 'profoundly annoying'?

He's allowed to want what he wants, just like you are. Neither of you are 'right' or wrong as long as you're transparent about it.

[Izzy2102]

I'm not saying it's wrong but if you get asked to hook 10 times a night every weekend when you have absolutley no intention of doing so, you do in fact see them as annoying and sad and wonder what the hell is wrong with the world. And not all of them are nice or even decent either

I mean sure being up front about it is better than lying but many men are upfront about it, it's nothing speical. And if you want to be upfront you have to live with the consequences.

@QA actually you can do

[Izzy2102]

something about not being seen as an a**hole. It depends on how you ask. If you ask with a bit of class, not loudl , but polite and accept a no, because you'll get a lot of nos there

[CasaNorba]

oh well I do accept the NO. I will always accept the NO over "YOU ARE SO INSENSITIVE", etc.

[Izzy2102]

I'm not sure how those two questions relate? Becuse some girls say they think it's digusting and don't want to date men who did it?

That's their good right too, just as you can choose not to want a relationship at all

[CasaNorba]

and no! there really isn't anything I can do btw!

maybe I have ego problems but who cares. that is just the way I am and I don't have to change for anyone. you or anybody else here knows what I been through in life or what experiences I had in life that make up the identity I have now.

so no! there is really nothing I can do. and if you think the other way around than you are an ignorant hypocrite

[CasaNorba]

doesn't know*

[MissKimmy]

Honesty is the best policy. These women who take offense to you not looking for a relationship have not been duped by the liars out there who Say they're in love and then leave after getting what they wanted.

[kheserthorpe]

People attempt to use guilt to control those around them.

Its not going to stop.

You can minimize how much people try by ignoring it, or in some cases, laughing it off.

If you get comfortable with it, you can actually flirt when women accuse you of being an insensitive, sex crazed jerk.

[CasaNorba]

oh I should know about guilt being a secret weapon. sh*t! my mom use to use that on me and my brothers all the time throughout childhood and even sometimes now

[kheserthorpe]

Yes. But its so easy to think people will stop, lol. They won't. I've given this speech before, but it happens all over the place. You're honest about what you want, you're a jerk. Girl wants sex with someone other then the guy in question, she;s a slut. doesn't want it with him she's a prude. someone wants more emotional connection they're needy. They want less they're a bitch/jerk without feelings.

Honest is the right path. Look back and feel decent about your actions.

[sigsauer45]

well the one thing need to do is stop tell them you just what have Casual sex you need to tell them you are not looking for Relationship but some one to go out with and just have good time and you may find that person you what start up a Relationship with

[CasaNorba]

i had try that but most women (at least the ones here in my state) hate getting involved in casual relationship because they feel like they are being sexually objectified or feel like sluts

[xzinax2]

because openly approaching someone for sex is seen as a sign of disrespect and a lack of manners. but if you approach a girl that wants the same she'll probably be fine with it.

i think you'd benefit from a relationship more than sex if you truly have issues,of course,the girl would have to be the motherly type.

[Anonymous]

Honesty is great and ultimately I'm glad you're not leading these women on and tricking them into thinking you'll be more than you're wanting to be for her.

I'm not sure why they get offended by it though, I can see them being disappointed. I would be, and would NOT be interested in casual sex. So it'd basically end there and maybe that's why they react the way they do. They're taking it as rejection.

[Md123456]

They hate your honesty because it muddies up their own objectives. When they say you're a jerk it secretly means they want you to lay on top of them. So you're actually halfway in the door with these women, it's just that they want you to be a man on their terms. If that couldn't make less sense welcome to the hypocrisy of women's desires. They're competitive, them saying they want a sweet geeky guy is their way of "winning"

[FiveFingerBroFist]

Seems to me that it's not your honesty that they're hating on, it's your lack of tact. Then again, I'm not there to see exactly HOW you interact with them...

[shadowscapes]

Just because you're honest about wanting sex doesn't mean she's obligated to give it to you

[CasaNorba]

i never said she has to give it up to me as a reward of my honesty.

[sigsauer45]

Because they have been lied so much they don,t know how deal with some that is honest with them