Just debunking some myths about the fashion made by ignorant people who know nothing about it, and assume the worst just because of the name.
Facts about Lolita:
1) It got its start in the 1970's in Japan and it became really popular in the 90's thanks to Mana-sama (a guitarist in the visual-kei band Malice Mizer) bring it to light with his Gothic coords.
2) It's a fashion based on the looks of the aristocracy of the Victorian, and Rococo era's. It's not fetish wear.
3) It has nothing to do with that damned pedo book by Vladimir Nobokov!!! I cannot emphasize this anymore than I already am! They only share a name, and Lolita was a normal name before that book existed and gave it a negative connotation. Lolitas absolutely hate when you say the fashion comes from that book...because it doesn't! The name of the fashion/subculture that IS based off of that book is called the NYMPHET FASHION AND NOT LOLITA!
4) Lolita has many different substyles to suit everyone's tastes like Gothic Lolita, Classic Lolita, Old school Lolita ,Wa Lolita, Sweet Lolita (my personal favorite), Deco Lolita, Guro Lolita, Kuro Lolita, Shiro Lolita, Military Lolita, Sailor Lolita, Pirate Lolita, Hime Lolita, Ero Lolita, Qi Lolita, Vintage Lolita, and Country Lolita.
Some are declining in popularity, and others remain strong. (I'll be doing weekly or monthly individual myTakes about the individual substyles I'm more familiar with on Wednesdays.)
5) Gothic Lolita was the first Lolita substyle. It's the mother of them all.
6) Lolita is still an unusual fashion even inside of Japanese culture, despite what media might show, and it has also gained popularity in the west. There's probably more Western Lolita's than there are Japanese Lolita's.
7) Lolita IS an expensive fashion with some brand name dresses going up to 800 bucks. Even the cheaper non-brand/cheaper alternative Lolita dresses can be expensive.
8) It takes a lot of confidence to wear Lolita, and it teaches you how to balance and manage your money so you can buy such expensive clothing.
9) There's such a thing a too many frills/too much lace in Lolita fashion so don't be a Lace Monster which is a person who wears too much cheap quality Lace. (I'll make a myTake about basic Lolita slang after this one).
Is Lolita age play/fetish wear inspired by the book Lolita?
No, it's completely unrelated to the book and it's a fashion inspired by historical periods.
Is Lolita only for small Asian girls?
No, it's for everyone regardless of race, size, sex, gender, age, height, etc Anyone and everyone can be cute. Hell, there's even Muslim and POC Lolita's that aren't Asian.
Are there cheaper Lolita dresses?
Yes, and I'll post a link that'll show you different sellers of Lolita fashion (both brand and non-brand sellers). If you try finding a shop online without knowing any credible shops you'll run into Milano scams which will steal your money and give you shit quality clothing, and good quality clothing is everything in Lolita.
Is there a guy version/male alternative to Lolita fashion?
It's not a part of the Lolita fashion, but it is sort of like the male version of Lolita and it's called the Ouji (prince) fashion. I've done a myTake about it some months back, and if that's still to cutesy for you there's also the elegant aristocrat fashion.
How can I convince my friends, family, and/or S.O. that Lolita fashion isn't bad and is apart of my life?
This one is a toughy...... You can try to educated them about what the Lolita fashion really is and how its a Harujuku street fashion from Japan and doesn't mean what the western world thinks Lolita means, or if you're lucky they'll either approve because it's modest than what you see people wear nowadays, or they'll feel indifferent since its your life and your money. Show them video's of more experienced Lolita's explaining what it is and credible articles giving a detail explanation of the fashion.
Can I afford Lolita if I am a student?
You can, but you must learn how to budget your money very carefully, and doing jobs like baby sitting, cutting grass, etc to make extra money will help if you're not old enough to work in certain places due to labor laws.
How can I avoid harassment while wearing Lolita?
I hate to say this but there is no avoiding it. The best thing you can do is educated people, and if someone yells harassment at you, touches you, takes your picture/records you without permission, or follows you around, then you should without a doubt call the cops, and try to avoid traveling along in shady places. If you're young travel with a group.
How can I get in contact with other Lolita's? There are none in my area and I don't know of any local communities.
You can find communities online, and there are more than likely communities in your state, or countries big cities where many Lolita's gather.
Can I be into Lolita and another alternative fashion, or do I have to choose?
You can be into as many different fashion cultures as you want.
Is Lolita provocative?
Hell no, you're covered from head to toe. And being cute while being modest is huge in this fashion. Just because it shares the name of the book doesn't mean it's related to it at all.
Is Lolita a costume?
Hell no, but these are.
What are loliable items?
Loliable items are clothes or accessories that are more common in other fashion subcultures, or "normie fashion" that can be incorporated into a Lolita outfit even though the item itself is not traditionally Lolita.
Can I wear my natural hair in Lolita?
Now this question gets asked a lot by girls with either short hair, or afro textured hair, and the answer is a simple "yes" if you style it properly.
Lolita fashion documentaries:
The next 3 myTakes will be about the following:
-Basic Lolita slang for beginners
-Basic anatomy of a Lolita coord
-The Gothic Lolita substyle