what would guys think of this? unattractive to be looking the opposite of optimistic, maybe come off as unfriendly?
please give me your opinion.
Why do you tend to look sad and thoughtful a lot? You shouldn't really be that morbid and morose at such a young age.
You should be optimistic, young, lively and full of spirit!
But I would tend to think that guys who see you in your 'generally sad' and 'thoughtful state' would think of you as a depressed, unapproachable, unfriendly, emotional girl. And you probably don't want to be associated with that persona, look at your username - sunshine2!
Try to appear more friendly and happy. Don't look thoughtful. Look happy and friendly, light and bubbly. Even ditzy would be better than sad.
Good luck.
I'm not telling you to change who you are.
But you can't expect many guys to want to be with someone who comes off as negative. I'm not telling you to be Mrs. Happy Go Lucky 24/7, it's just that you shouldn't be in such funks or moods all of the time, especially in public. If you're going to sulk, do it at home in the privacy of your bedroom with some Ben & Jerry's (my proper version).
I'm not telling you to be superficial or something you're not.
Actually I think you just told her to do exactly what she was saying she didn't want to do, not all of us are naturally peppy and full of sunshine and rainbows, and try to tell the goth community that it's unattractive... (not that I'm a goth... just saying) second if she's hiding who she is in public wouldn't that mean she's more likely to get hurt when/if someone discovers she's not always the way they seen her in public? It's best to be whoever you are, at least then when someone likes you
You know it's for being you... not for covering up who you are.
I'm telling her that she shouldn't appear to be depressed all of the time. Who wants to be with someone who isn't happy at least some of the time? In all honesty.
She said she's out in public looking all peeved, so why not do it at home if she's going to insist on being that way to begin with?
She's not hiding it from herself, just others, who wouldn't approach a girl who looks like she's sad.
I stand by my point.
I would approach a girl who looked sad, some of the absolute best friends and all around greatest people I've met had problems and were very sad and dealing with stuff at the time, I helped them through and we got closer in the process.
that happens to me a lot to. my face when I'm expressionless or concentrating, or just spacing out, looks sad (or so I've been told). I don't think its affected my relationships with people, I have wonderful friends and a wonderful boyfriend who know me and know that I am generally a happy person. so it hasn't been aproblem for me and it doesn't bother them.
Personally I find such traits attractive, however I usually favor true/genuine sadness and or problems... that may sound wrong to most people reading this, but let me explain, I enjoy those sorts of things in women, because I take great joy in cheering others up, motivating people, and helping others through problems.
No, in fact I know I'm not the only guy who'd also see sad features as cute, most guys feel a certain kind of "need" to cheer women up... just like most women like feeling that sort of emotional security with a guy.
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