I see woman in the street, on the bus, train etc. I see them looking at me out of the corner of my eye, or in reflections, so I try to give eye contact with a soft smile - but 98% of the time they look away quickly as if nothing has happened. I decided enough was enough, the other day I was on my way to work and I caught a girl looking at me, she gave me a slight smile, so I softly smiled back. She was sitting opposite me on the train, so I sparked up a conversation, small talk about what she was reading. I got one worded answers, and she seemed slightly nervous talking to me - so much so I gave up and went back to staring out of the window.
Another time, A girl looking quite hot walked towards me, I had already caught her eye, so I said hello, she gave me a sweet smile, I asked how she was, she smiled and seemed really shy, but she just walked off.
I don't get it...98% of the time, girls just seem to want to look at me but they don't want to make small talk..it's bugging me because I like these girls I wanted to talk too and hopefully meet up with, but I can't seem to open them up or make them hang around long enough to hold a decent convo with. Any ideas here would be a great help!
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You're not alone. That has happened more times to me than I could ever hope to count. I used to take the train everyday and that would constantly happen. I would strike up conversations and would get one word answers. I would try and strike up a conversation. I'd ask these girls about what book they were reading or what game they were playing on their iphone casually. It was usually to no avail. On just a handful of occasions (I rode the train for a couple years) I did get a really good conversation going, but that was always the end of it. No numbers or contact info. At best I'd get a name. I just came to accept that it is how it is for whatever reason. If you add it up and do the math... I rode the train for an hour and a half per weekday for 2 years which adds up to over 1000 hours (wasted/spent) on the train and I got only a handful of good conversations with girls. That's just sad.0