interesting question...i met this really hot girl in school and I knew she was interested in me. there were multiple times when I got close to her to see if she would approach and EVERY time she would not take the leap to talk to me. finally, through a mutual friend I met her at a school event and we started talking...i was going with the flow in our convo and smiling and she kept smiling back...but the thing that made me uncomfortable was she never would talk about something until I asked her question...it was like she was too nervous to speak with me...which then made me nervous to speak with her.
finally, she figured out that I liked her (asking her for coffee) and then she started playing hard to get. she tested me by getting mad at me and I totally pushed back on her and walked away from her. which surprisingly got her more interested in me! obviously, she figured out that if I am willing to walk away from her, I was not just there to sleep with her. when I re-engaged her again, she continued to "play these hard to get games" and I heard there were at least 3-4 other guys chasing her. so, I made final move: if you are interested in me then reach out to me because I am done. she finally did come around and by that time I was already interested in an another girl and said c-ya...have a great life. her game playing really turned me off!
also, I got a sense that even though she was beautiful she seemed to lack self-confidence in making her own decisions...she relied too much on her girl friends to tell her who was good for her. I guess so many guys are chasing her that she can't figure out who is good for her...weird.
I probably would not. The number 1 reason is because I am married. But besides that, if I was single I still probably wouldn't. I say it is hard to impress and talk to a beautiful girl when she hears compliments all day long about their beauty. They are constantly put on a high pedestal or silver plate by all men. Also, she might think that all guys are equal and all we want is take her to bed. Which is understandable, but it would be a mental drain trying to chase one. They would play hard to get to see if you are for real and on the other hand the guy would feel descourage and think she's just not interested.
For that reason and more, I would think twice before I talk or chase a beautiful - hot - girl.
I think a few times I've literally been unable to get my words out, let alone think about what I even wanted to say. But a lot of the times, I don't necessarily lose my ability to speak I just say things that are uninteresting to others, whether it's to a pretty girl or not.
When I was younger, I would lose my train of thought and become intimidated by the girl. I couldn't figure out how to calm myself down and think straight. I really couldn't tell you what I was thinking, because there were seriously like a thousand thoughts going through my head at once. I couldn't comprehend what my own mind was doing, I couldn't pick up on anything, so I definitely couldn't tell you what it's like lol.
Now when I see a pretty girl, I don't really know what I think. I sort of think "hmm" then move on. I guess I'm just not interested in talking to pretty girls because I don't really think anything of them. What I said above still applies (about saying uninteresting things), but I think it's just a weakness of mine where I don't really know how to socialize with people.
It can definitely be hard... Like certain beautiful women can just "get you" so bad and it really all just depends on the person.
I personally find it easy to talk to most good looking girls, but there are some that just have a much greater effect on you and it's hard to put together a complete thought into words. That's generally when you overthink things tho, you just gotta let it flow and stay cool...
first thing in my mind is ... OK calm down, don't let her looks make you see her differently.. then politely act like you would act around anyone else whether male or female
hot girls are traditionally hard to get, if she likes you it might be easy but still tough, it took me nearly six months for a hot girl to finally admit she liked me, even though she liked me all along.. I just ignored her till she couldn't take it anymore
Well I have asperger syndrome so I'm not that good socially. Asking girls is when I'm at my worst, as I've asked out very few and been rejected every time. When I see a babe, I feel that since she will have many options she wouldn't want to choose a guy with AS since many of the symptoms are turn offs to girls.
It's too bad because I've been told my whole life how handsome I am, even told I should model. Unfortunately for me, girls don't put that big of emphasis on looks.
nope, I usually just think: "Dam, she's pretty" I'll wonder what its like to go out with her, if she'd be fun or interesting to talk to, how many guys she's had sex with... most importantly, if I'd ultimately mary(spell check) her. cause I won't, then there's no point in talking to her at all. unless SHE wants to be friends.
i think a lot of guys assume that the really beautiful girls are one of these things: 1) a slut because everyone wants her 2) bitchy or snobby because of the attention they get 3) too hard to get because they supposedly have many options 4) or stupid, because apparently good looks are associated with lack of intelligence and their beauty will get them places, they don't need to be really smart.
i don't agree with any of these things, but I live with all guys and this is what they say