Ive been dating my boyfriend for a couple of months and I love him his really sweet but his girl cousin moved to the same city and it seems like she's his girlfriend. we live 45 minutes away from each other he always came to see me three times a week. (I own a business and its hard for me to go see him) Now he only comes on Sunday and I love being with him. we text everyday and he tells me he loves me and that I'm all the happiness that he needs and that he misses me so much. things that bug me :
~ he called me to tell me his cousin had her period and what mediation I recommended. (do you girls inform your cousin when you have your period?)
~ had a speacial dinner planned out and he brought her along
~ he takes her shopping and buys her stuff this includes underwear etc..( she's 24 years and no job)
~he called me last night to say he was coming to see me and he never showed up his hanging out with his cousin
~ he promised me a new phone since mine had a accident because of him and then he ends up buying her a expensive phone instead of me.
should I be upset or I'm I being selfish it kills me that when were together she'll call him to find out when his coming home. They live right next door to each other they see each other everyday I don't understand way he can't come see me like he promised. I feel like a new toy came along and the old toys is put away. she's been here for three weeks and before he would never bring his roommate when he came to see me and now he brings his cousin. This pisses me off I'm not sure if she's doing this on purpose just to end our relationship but she's always asking for money from him and her dad . she's 24 and she doesn't have a job. my boyfriend works hard so he can go to college and help his mom and sister out . can someone help me out?
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Most Helpful Girl
I can entirely understand why you are upset. You should try and speak to him next time you are alone and explain to him how he is making you feel, especially on him bringing his cousin along when you two are meant to be spending time together as a couple. You could mention about him breaking his promises on certain things, but on the cell phone, I wouldn't mention how he bought his cousin one and not you. Same with the underwear. He can spend his money on who he likes. If you criticise him too much he might become defensive.
Also, a relationship is two way. I know you said you own a business so cannot visit him at the beginning of a relationship it's quite easy to be heavily infatuated with another and make more effort to see the other person. Sometimes this may wear off, and he may decide he can't make as many trips before. Also, he may feel that he might be doing all the running by coming down to see you all the time and you do not go to visit him.
I think the best thing to do is sit down and talk it all through. Good luck.2