Why Is He Not Asking Me Out?
Well, here's a run-down of what may possibly be wrong with what you're doing and whom you are.(these are generalisations, but are based in personal experience and read anecdotal stories, and some science)
1 - You're looks are doing nothing for you
It's got to be said: Men are visual creatures. Doesn't matter if you're Mother Teressa, if you don't look good, you're unlikely to pull in the guys. Most young women can look perfectly acceptable if they follow a few easy pieces of advise:
Lose the excess weight. Really, do it. You'll thank me later. Cut the processed carbs out, do some exercise. You'll look better, feel better and you may meet a nice chap whilst you're at it.
Clear your skin up. Stop smoking, get meds for your acne, use moisturizer.
Improve your hygiene, including your oral hygiene. Smell nice, get your teeth straightened and whitened, shave your armpits, top lip and legs.
Wear feminine and figure flattering clothes. Go to a decent fashion store and ask an assistant for help. A male one is preferable.
If you're really unfortunate by having a real ugly face, then you'll just have to work on being a sweet feminine girl (talked about later)
2 - You're too shy
Especially if you actually like quiet nice guys, this is a major point. If you don't flirt, don't give -any- eye contact, don't smile at him or laugh at his jokes, you're going to be seen as someone who isn't interested.
So do the opposite of these no-no's. You don't have to say much to him, but just make it known you're interested in what he has to say.
3 - You're too bolshie/manly
You're aggressive. You have a reputation as a slut. You curse. You drink to excess. You're not wanted for long-term relationships.
Make the link. If a guy wants a friend with male characteristics, he'll make a male friend. If you want to be treated like a lady, you need to act like one - this isn't to say you need to be some naive wallflower. But basic manners, showing him some respect and some trust in his decisions/opinions, not bad mouthing him in public or when he isn't around, all go a long way
So there you have it. To summarise for you, if you want the guy, you need to look presentable, be sweet, be friendly and make him feel like a man. You can't go too wrong with those pointers.
What Girls & Guys Said 52
Looks aren't a problem but when it comes to interacting with the guy I give mixed signals 😓
Then I'm always acting uninterested so he Won't find out that I like him and eventually he looses interest. Self fulfilling prophecy all because I'm afraid of rejection 😒
He probably expects rejection. Who wants to be humiliated in private (or in public)?
Some of these are pretty good points. I have difficulty with the second one, I can't help that I'm shy. I do smile and make eye contact, I laugh if he's funny but I blush a lot and am quiet at first.
I just need a guy to stick around a tiny bit longer to see me open up passed my stupid shy stage, like my friends have. They see how I truly am for the most part.
I do everything right and I still don't have a man...
Can confirm some solid truth to some of these points.
When guys write things like this I always feel like maybe I should stay single if all dudes honestly believe this
I'll just sit here with my Big Mac and call it all bullshit. I'd rather have someone who takes me as I am than be different just to get a bloke. One of the worst articles I've seen in a long time.
This is a disgusting article, how are these aloud to be written? especially this:
"Most young women can look perfectly acceptable if they follow a few easy pieces of advise:
Lose the excess weight. Really, do it. You'll thank me later. Cut the processed carbs out, do some exercise. You'll look better, feel better and you may meet a nice chap whilst you're at it", dispicable... you have no right to tell someone they should lose weight and if they don't nobody will find them attractive... let me tell you... i'm over-weight and i lost 4 stone once and did it make me feel better? NO! because i saw people would only notice me and talk to me if i DID lose weight, yet before they could never accept me for who i am... they didn't talk to me... made fun of me... bullied me... so do you seriously think losing weight will make you feel better about yourself?, your obviously not the greatest person...
Definitely not qualities id look for in a dude... not one that want me to be what HE wants me to be... even when i'm not that.. i'm ME, and if that bothers a guy... he can get off his high horse and get the hell away lol, i ain't changing who i am for nobody, real love is someone who accept you for YOU, even when you are shy or not too confident or a tom boy... you sir are obviously one of these guys who loves to spend his time controlling women and changing them than finding a women with what you want instead, unacceptable...
I'm no.2 definitely
*YOUR looks!!! What's so hard people? English is not my first language, but this is very annoying.
This could use a little polish, but overall you are correct. Looks do matter and too many girls (and guys) think they can get all lazy about personal grooming without it affecting their chances with the opposite gender. This isn't about being a Barbie, it is about being presentable and showing you actually care. #2 is the BIGGEST problem for a lot of girls. I have super attractive women who have no dates because they cannot talk to guys. Not many guys want to approach an ice princess.
Okay, I've have been wondering about this for so long! I happen to enjoy drinking..a lot! When I get drunk I get a bit loud and am thought of as one of the guys. Is this a deal breaker? If it is, what does that mean? Does that mean I have to pretend I don't really enjoy drinking? Gah, so confusing! Great post btw!
I'm not. Having flaws makes me human.
And how perfect are YOU?
We aren't all assholes. If we were, society would be different. The problem most guys have in regards to dealing with people, specifically in the mating game, is having a lack of backbone.
But that discussion is for a different day.
It's hard to believe that women think men are all boorish a**holes. Ladies, this kind of childishness is NOT representative of the thoughts of all men.
I definitely fall into the quiet girl category who's currently crushing on a quiet guy. Yes, quit accurate. I'm a realistic girl, though quiet, so I did not find this remotely offensive.
Blunt is how I am. People need to have the red pill rammed into their mouths - it's up to them to swallow it though and accept reality.
Note 'too shy' and 'too bolshie' - it's finding the balance. You want the guy to know you're going to be receptive to his advances, but are still willing to get rid of him if he messes up.
Blunt as fk. loves it. shot bol.
point one is bloody gold. chicks need to hear that.
but shyness ...hmmm, well, the element of mystery is never bad.
think this article is targeted at chicks who don't get any. think tip number 2 should be act like you're gold (cause you are) and quit acting eager beaver --- cause desperate chicks get used for sex.
Cheers, I'm just doing my bit.
How do you feel it's offensive? (or is the truth just too painful for most people? I know I feel insane sometimes with the shizzle I now know)
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