This guy likes me... but he's really ugly?

[Anonymous]

We're always texting and he calls me bae and says he love me.. I never say it back. And he always offers to buy me stuff. he has bought me about $35 worth of stuff (so far).. Ima start refusing because I don't want to seem like a gold digger. when I text him it's cool but when I see him I just want to stay far away from him.. I'm not attracted to him at all. he's really nice tho, never ask for nudes nd we never talk sexually. He's a general men. but I have no sexual attraction to him so if we were in a relationship It wouldn't go far. I couldn't see my self kissing him. I don't want to seem shallow...

[sammy_31]

Okay this is going to sound messed up be we all are a little shallow sometime in our lives and some just stay like that forever. You are obviously judging him by his looks because he isn't "hot" but I mean it's normal, we don't mean to judge but WE ALL DO IT and the ones who say they don't are lying. They might be judging somewhat in their head but won't say anything out loud.

So, if you're not attracted to him just simply tell him that you hope that there are no mixed signals and emotions going on because guys don't like to be played with. I mean we girls don't either, basically no one does, so keep it straight or don't keep on leading on something that isn't there. He might be confusing your kindness for interest of some sort.

Just talk to him about how you feel about this, it's best to say what you feel. Try not to say it in a negative way, I'm sure he is just trying to be your friend and all. We girls like to assume things too so get answers and stop guessing. Things might get awkward quick but it's better to know the truth than guess what could be said or done. Please take this info as help not judgement, guys will get pissed because it seems a little shallow based on your question title. You should have posted it differently :) lol I do hope it ends alright, just be natural about it, good luck! :D

[shewolf16]

you're not shallow and there's nothing wrong with not liking this guy romantically. Just let him know you don't see him that way. He may be hurt but it's even worse for both of you if you lead him on. If your not interested, you're not interested. nothing wrong with that.

[ittybittyninjapanda]

You need to stop leading him on if you really care about him you will tell him the truth and let him go. He seems like the type of guy that deserves someone who's going to make him happy and if you won't be that person let him find someone who will.

[Socal1]

There are several lessons to be learned here anonymous.

"I don't want to seem like a gold digger." -

Never accept more than one gift from a guy that your not interested in. One is okay because it would be in poor taste to outright refuse a first-time gift from someone. Unless it's a wedding ring. Yikes!

"he calls me babe and says he loves me" -

As soon as this ever starts happening with a guy you're not interested in you have to cut them off. Otherwise they will take any response or continued contact as approval to this type of behavior.

And lastly, and I know a lot of people disagree (even the this example proves my point), you might wanna ask yourself, "do I really wanna be this guys friend?" the next time you exchange numbers with a guy. If you're even slightly attractive chances are high they will secretly (or openly in this case) want more from you than to be "just friends." Just food for thought.

[Randomguy2014]

Like, Love, and Lust are all different things.

You don't seem to hate him, so you should do it sooner or later and let him know you appreciate gestures but you don't like him physically.

It's called negative reinforcement, it works on guys mainly, tell him specifically what you don't like about him though, anyone in shape tends to look good so I am assuming you dislike his face or his out of shape body.

If you want to be nice, just say straight up "Forgive me but i'm not interested in you".

Don't just mention that you dislike him for the body specifically, cause then you either create a depressed man asking myself "well what specifically did she not like about my body" or he becomes the "idgaf what women think"

Be tactfully truthful.

[Anonymous]

I think the simple fact that u r considering what to do shows u do kind of like him. U just may be worried what other people think when they see u.

[KittyCatSkitty]

It does not matter for the look! The personality is key, also if he is ugly and you start seeing him more often you get used to him and start thinking he is cute (well that is how it works with me).

[rthomas43]

Stop dragging him along.
You can't force attraction, so there's nothing wrong with you for not wanting to be with him.

[princesswitch]

So... what's your question? Don't date him if you're not attracted to him. You need to let him know that it's not going to go anywhere.

[SadWalkingAwaySong]

Basically, stop texting him/being his friend. She's leading him on, by doing so

[DodgersGM]

Just tell him how you feel, and let him go. It's the best thing you can do for the both of you.

[Anonymous]

He can probably tell your discontent in person face to face. If you make him happy in person, maybe you will change your mind.

[Anonymous]

You never really asked a question so I'll assume you're asking if you should date him. If you're not feeling it don't do it.

[Anonymous]

You meet a perfectly nice young man, and yet, when women find douchebags, they're all like "oh my god, I so want him". Why?

[shewolf16]

because physical attraction is important in a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just sayin' you don't have to be with a douchebag, to be attracted

[GamerArtNerd]

Though I agree with you, I agree with her too. Physical attraction is a must. Even if she's a 5/10 I wouldn't want to kiss/sex with an ugly girl. She never said anything about dating douchebags. Most nice girls I know are ugly.

[Opinion Owner]

All girls are, essentially, kissable/fuckable. But yes, you need to be attracted to have a RELATIONSHIP

[Anonymous]

Calm down it's only 35 dollars
It's not like 3500 dollars

[crazyymann]

stop talkin to him,
obviously tell him that you dont like him but dont be heart-breaker.