Does Ex-Girlfriend still have feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

Hello. My Ex-Girlfriend broke up with me in October and its me 3-4 months since the break-up. After the break up she went out with another guy in November and didn't last even a month. On December she is going out with another guy and is still currently going out with him. However during this month she's been contacting me more than usual.I know for some girls they usually avoid they're exes. But she would IM me on AIM out of nowhere and talk about some random subject, which was how to work the heater in her mom's car while she was waiting for her. I told her and she told me the car was low on gas. I then played it smart make the conversation short and said I had to go.She said okay and then 2 minutes later she says "We're at the gas station now =)".I just didn't reply back after. Another day she was on AIM and her status was "The Lovely Bones". I IM her saying that is a good book. It then escalated into a conversation for 6 hours. While she was watching the movie she was talking to me about the movie, joking around and stuff.The next day she texts me saying "Do you remember the password for my internet router?" Note that this is the first time we started texting each other since the relationship. I said that "Didn't I leave a note on your desktop about all the passwords for it? -__-" and she says that she tried it all and it didn't work. After that she brang up random subjects like her eye twitching and how she misses out on sleep. I ask her to sleep earlier and how she's doing in school and she isn't doing well. She had a sore throat and says she eating crackers. I told her that's bad and said to go take medicine and drink soup because I DO still have feelings for her =/. SHe told her Grandma to make soup and I told her to do her essay which she started doing after the convo. The next day I text her how was on the essay. she said she did it then she brang up a random text saying mmm chicken soup :D and I told her to take medicine and began a No Yes chain and brang up Nooo >={D...I hate that face and she would tease me with that face when we were going out and she brang it up in a text. I don't know if that means something or not which is why I'm asking here =(. We were talking about random stuff at night for awhile and then she said goodnight and went to sleep. She also asked me to do her a favor which was to get a game she let my friend borrow which was the first game I bought her. I got the game two days later and texted her and she said "OMG YES! That made my day! :D Thank youu". I was going to drop it by and she says I don't have to but I was nearby. She then tells me to leave it in her mailbox =/.But then I was in front and ask her to come out which she did. I said hi, hugged her and ask how was she, gave game then left. she texts me 2 mins saying thank you,i said welcome and texts me saying "Did you feel akward? -__-" I said not really why? and she says just asking haha. and then text me saying "get to class safe!" I really need help on this thanks =(

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I'm sorry this is long. I just didn't want to leave out anything behind. Also the boyfriend she is going out with now, they don't look like they're going out. No pictures of them together cuddling or anything. Just calls, Facebook comments, and texting.

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I need more opinions on this please and thank you =(

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No new opinions? =(

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Just 2? =(

[Abcmsaj]

Basically it looks like she's gone for the rebound relationships. I'm currently in the same situation as you, bro. My girlfriend of 2 years left me and I have no IDEA if she has any feelings for me, because she's cut all communication with me, but I hope that because of that, she misses me... :\ (fingers crossed)

Anyway, your girl sounds like she's just dating guys to make the pain ease. Breaking up is hard stuff, regardless of the situation (unless it's cheating.. I suppose) and although she's trying to get over you by dating new guys, one possibility might be that she's now realised that these guys are nothing like you and she misses you, and this branches into two options:

1) She wants you back, and she's subtly trying to tell you. What you should maybe do is ask her out to coffee somewhere, and do a little trick which is "pretending to wipe drink off her face" - even if she hasn't got drink there, just lean over and wipe one side of her mouth with your shirt. She'll either flinch away, or look back into your eyes and smile. Then you know that Option 1 is a possibility.

2) She just wants to be best friends, or even close friends. The conversations you're having about her workload and little things like gas for the car and conversations that you wouldn't have with a male friend, or in my case, I wouldn't have them with any other female friend... But this shows that she's close to you because she's talking about random stuff.

So it's up to you. Do you want friendship or more? Make your move quick :)

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion on this. My goal is never to get her in the friend zone. That is what I'm avoiding really. And about your situation, my ex-girlfriend also cut off all communication when we broke up also. But it was only for a few months as you can see from the long story I wrote. But just wait it out dude, she probably needs to get her emotions striaght before approaching you. I hope for the best. Thank you again for answering.

[Abcmsaj]

Thanks for your reply :) I hope so... I hope it's just a phase and she's just got too much work and she doesn't feel she can juggle both... and hopefully in a month or two she can see I'm worth it and come back.. But meh... Friend-zone is a no-no for the both of us :) Good luck

[flamencor]

STOP DOING FAVORS FOR HER FIRST OF ALL! that's is all she calls you for you are not her bitch don't be offended she has a boyfriend so let her ask him. dissapear from her and let her come to you I think what she is doing is trying to hang onto you while she is with these other guys. go do the same. my ex just asked for a break and honestly if she asked for favors while dating other guys I would just tell her to ask them cause seeing her again will make it awkward for me not true trust me I would love to do all the favors too but we as guys we have to be stronger

[Brisbane]

Sounds like she still has some feelings for you or else she would not text you right? If I don't miss my ex then I don't text him or really care what he is doing, or even think about him at random times. But the ex I still like, I sometimes text and think about and like having conversations with. I think she is starting to reflect on what you two had, and maybe missing it.

But what do I know I'm going through the same sort of thing with my ex. He has a new girlfriend but still flirty texts me. But we never really cut off communication for too long.

Maybe ask her why all of a sudden she has starting talking to you? I did that, all he said was "I like talking to you... I can stop:/". Which didn't really make sense. See what her response is Also, the game thing is cute but seems like she tried to use you. You brought it to her house when she could have easily picked it up.

She is obviously a flirt because she has a boyfriend, but I guess he is not giving her everything she needs or else she wouldn't text you right?

Honestly, she is confusing and I don't quite understand her motivations, this prob was not much help. Our stories are just so much similar I decided to comment. Sorry :)

[Asker]

Thanks for the comment, but she couldn't have used me for the game because she couldn't go out since her parents are strict now ever since I left her. Her family loved me. But what do you think about her asking me "Did you feel awkward? -_-" and her saying "Get to class safe!"? I know most girls wouldn't say that stuff to their exes.

[Brisbane]

Well the awkward comment is a normal thing to say I think. But get to class safe is kind of flirty and seems like she still cares. If her parents don't like you anymore that could also be holding her back. It's no good when you don't have family on your side. Do you want to date her again? If so I would talk to her

[Asker]

No no her parents LOVE me and are strict towards her for leaving me -_-. Like she can't go outside alone with her new boyfriend alone even if her parents do know him.

[sophigirl]

your ex seems a bit narcissistic ... to answer your question yes she is still attached she just doesntr know how to let you go...i highly advise you cut her out of your life...she is being self centered by bringing up the past..she was your girlfriend so she ost likely knows what buttons to push there for she just may know how your feeling ...your story is pretty long but if there is no proof of her having a boyfriend than give it to her plain and simple [ I looks like she ade up a boyfriend]] tell her to stop playing games . you can't be adly inlove with some one break up and then end up friends with out that attachent there so you gotta tell her to either get her sh*t together and be with you or learn how to be with out you...i just got outta a relationship not to long ago and my ex did the same stuff the only way you won't hurt is if she isn't in your life at all sure its uch easier to keep her around so that bad feeling isn't there but trust me cut her off and she'll tell you where exactly she wants to stand with you id give it a month or amonth.5...hope this helps ya though =oD

[Ashkins]

All I have to say on this one is run run run! Have you ever seen that commercial about the girl breaking up with the guy?...Well she starts by saying it isn't you it's me ( total bs) and tells him I'll still keep you strung around for when I need you...when I'm lonely...when my new boyfriend isn't giving me the attention I want...just to keep myself happy

You and everyone else in this kind of situation deserve so much better...don't respond to the texts and find someone knew cause it sounds like you"re getting played and she can only do it for as long as YOU LET HER!

[billcostas]

I Just gotta say that you are in a pathetic "wishful thinking" mode right now. I'm just being blunt right now. No matter what answer is put on this question, you will not be satisified until it says, Yes she wants to marry you, never give any problems, and happy ever after. You sound young buddy, don't waste your time with this one, you can go out and meet even better girls who's families will love you!

[skittles1996]

okaii,let me tell you one thing I'm doin the same thing wid my ex,and I gess I wunt him bakk and he wunts me bakk ttoo but I hav a boyfriend and that's the only reason why I'm not wd him, bcz if I didn't ha a boyfriend I would be wd him righjt now,so I think you ex do want you bakk.

[Anonymous]

Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.

[Anonymous]

She really wants you and needs you.

[Anonymous]

Not really.