My crush wished me a happy Valentine's day?

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I have a crush on a guy at work and I'm sure he knows I'm interested in him I've dropped plenty of hints. He even matched with me on tinder in the past. He sent me a friend request on Facebook and sometimes messages me on there. I've been quiet for a few days but then out of the blue on Valentine's day he messaged me "happy Valentine's day ☺ x" now I don't know if he's just being polite or if he likes me? Every time he says anything to me it messes with my head and I'd rather just block him on Facebook but I can't because I work with him and he's friends with my best female friend at work so I can't be rude to him. Why would he act like this? Also he's not quite over his ex girlfriend apparently and he keeps talking about not wanting to get hurt again.

surgent · Accepted Answer

Getting a Valentine's wish from your crush can feel like hitting a mini jackpot, right? It's like a little signal that you're on their mind, at least enough to send a greeting your way. Here’s how you can handle it while keeping it cool and possibly opening the door to something more:

Acknowledge and Respond: First things first, don't leave them hanging. Send a cheerful and warm response back. Something like, "Thanks, [their name]! Happy Valentine's Day to you too!

Gauge the Conversation: If they're just being polite, they might keep the conversation short. But if they're interested in chatting more, they'll likely keep the conversation going. This is your chance to engage a bit more without overdoing it.

Share a Light Joke or Meme: If you both share a sense of humor, responding with a funny Valentine's meme or joke can be a great way to keep the vibe light and enjoyable.

Ask About Their Day Plans: It’s a natural and non-invasive way to show interest in their life. You could say something like, "Got any fun plans for today?" It's casual enough not to put pressure on them but shows you're interested in what they're up to.

Suggest Hanging Out (If It Feels Right): If the conversation is going well and you feel bold, you might hint at or directly suggest doing something together. Depending on your comfort level and past interactions, it could be as direct as, "Would you be up for grabbing a coffee sometime?" or more subtle, like "Wish I had someone to try out this new cafe with, know anyone? 😉"

Keep It Light and Positive: Regardless of how much you want to convey your feelings, keeping the exchange light and positive is key. It puts no pressure on them and makes you seem approachable and easygoing.

Don't Overthink It: Easier said than done, right? But really, whether they're just being friendly or there's a hint of something more, overanalyzing every word will just stress you out. Take it at face value and enjoy the interaction for what it is.

Valentine's Day can make emotions run high, and it's easy to read into things more than necessary. Enjoy the fact that your crush thought of you, and use it as a stepping stone to possibly deepen your connection, keeping in mind that the most important thing is to maintain a healthy balance between showing interest and respecting boundaries.

Moody1996 · Accepted Answer

He's definitely making a move, he's either using you to get over and move on from his ex. But definitely, as a guy, I would never send happy valentines day to anyone, even a good friend that's a girl, unless if I was interested, but either way I think it's kind of weird to send that to someone who doesn't know how you actually feel about them.

Solutionsguru · Accepted Answer

Definitely he's trying to tell you that he likes you but he's not too sure about his option because you tend not to move forward... He's still trying to tell you so that means he really likes you and wants an answer from you... He's not too sure if you like that way about him because you are not showing any interest in him...

Mzanzi · Accepted Answer

Hello guys! Sorry I need help
I have been seeing this man for 2months now, I feel like we both like each other , we always have good time when we are together, he kisses me on my forehead many times, we have passionate sex, he kisses me passionately not only that but also there are other signs that he likes me I’m confused! I asked him about his girlfriend and he said she was living in another city and they were not talking for like 4months now And whenever we’re together he never mention her in our conversations and whenever I try to ask about her it’s like he becomes angry.. until one day I saw a post on social media he poster her (That she was dead) I did send him a message Telling him sorry and to encourage him to be strong
After 2weeks he came around my place ( when the funeral was over) when he saw me he gave me a tight hug and kissed me so passionately and he told me how much he missed me! we even had sex After then he traveled to another city and ever since it’s like his ignoring me he doesn’t reply my messages on time or calling me
I don’t know what to do guys! I really like him, I’m So dumb I wish this was just a dream. Should I give him space? Will he come back to me? Should I move on? I’m confused please help

My English is not good I hope you understand me.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

He probably saw how "Quiet" you have Been and was Being... A Gem of a Gent. He sounds like he has Plenty on his own Plate and at this Time, is not the Ideal Valentine to even be a Mate. Good Luck. xx

TheBootyChest · Answer

I think he keeps trying to show that he likes you but not trying too hard since you seem to be holding back when you were quiet for a few days. So it's hard to tell.

calmguy · Answer

i guess you feel a bit of a competition... well if you like him, go ask him out, spend sometime with him asking him not to talk about girlfriend stuff and probably listen... see how things go

serious_miss419 · Answer

Play it cool. Say thank you and be done with it

Awomanof · Answer

He is a player.

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