Girls: Do you find musicians attractive?

Curious, since I've seen a lot of patterns where girls seem to be oddly interested in people with artistic abilities.

What makes them special or if you're on the other end of the spectrum, what turns you off to them?

Thank you everyone for your responses! :D


Most Helpful Girl

  • Well, I grew up in the 80's where I found the guys of all the rock bands sexy! Like Bon Jovi, Brett Michaels, etc. Now that I am older, I honestly don't know any musicians. I think that a man who knows how to play an instrument is very attractive, as it makes him seen as an intellegent guy, and I think most girls associate musicians as being somewhat rebles or bad boys. And many girls fall for the bad boy. I think it also depends if you are a "struggling" musician, very successful, or if you just do it as a side hobby, as I am sure there are many doctors and lawyer types who play an instrument or are in a small band on the side as a hobby( think Hugh Laurie's House character). His character is very attractive to woman at least of my age in my 30's. I don't know if this helps , but as you can see, artistic men or musicians can still vary personality and look wise. The only turn off for me would be if they were not a nice person, or now that I am older if they were poor,struggling musicians, as not nice as that sounds, when you are younger you probably wouldn't care about the money as I did not, but once you get older and have a house , car and money of your own, I would not want to be with someone who wasn't at my level financially, as you get sick of struggling. Good luck!


What Girls Said 15

  • I don't know what it is,but I have a thing for guys who are in bands,I guess because I am into bands myself and when they are talented and can sing or play guitar or drums,I guess it's attractive in a way and especially if they sing for you haha

    • Thanks for the response. :]

  • Hell Yeah! Guys in bands are hot.

  • i love music, like, ridiculous amounts. rock pop classical whatever, I can do nothing but sit and listen for hours. I am loving arcade fire at the moment :') for someone to produce music through their own passion and skill is a massive turn on. I like it when guys can play music but that would never be the deciding factor of a relationship, its just a bonus ;)

    having said all that, my ex was a guitarist (really good one, grade 8 etc) but after our breakup he turned into a TOTAL creep, stalkery. lol I think a lot of musicians can be like that sometimes..

    • Baha, that's really weird! But it's awesome you like music that much. :D

  • yepp like NEBERIE said... girls like people who are passionate.

    I, myself, am a very passionate person, so to find a guy with that same trait is awesome. :]

    To me it shows that you are caring, and hopefully, loyal and trustworthy person and not some tool.

  • sometimes they can be. it really depends on how they act about it. it would be alright if they didn't brag about it, and it was just something they could do modestly. I wouldn't date a guy in a band however or one who makes a big production out of the fact he plays an instrument. I wouldn't date the guy in the band because they can think of themselves as entitled and therefore would probably make bad boyfriends. of course there are exceptions, but for the most part for me, no, I don't find them attractive.

  • In some ways I do. I've dated two guys that were musically talented. I liked when we were alone and they'd play songs just for me and sing to me. I didn't like when one of the would play their guitar and ignore me.

    sometimes musicians are sort of dbags.

    sometimes they are sweet.

    • It depends on the guy. Like, I play guitar, and its not like ignoring, more like focusing on doing something rather than playing or singing just for the sake of getting attention from girls. ill have to agree with what you said, ?sometimes musicians are sort of dbags?

    • I think that rule applies to everyone.

  • For me I like it when a guy is academically inclined and he's also skilled at playing an instrument. It shows me that he's versatile and not confined to just the books but he has balance in his life. Same goes for if he plays sports or paints in addition to his academics.

    • I could agree with that. Not so much it being a guy, but the balance.

  • yes! definitely. musicians are generally attractive because they are expressive, passionate and girls like to see guys with a sensitive side, its super sexy :)

  • I think the "idea" of a guy in a band is sexy and a turn on... but I don't know if I would date him based on this fact alone

  • I am a musician (as in, it is/will be my career) and no, if you're a musician I don't think you're special. Male musicians tend to be really up themselves, thinking they're all deep and arty when really they're just massive douchebags. Especially the ones that just play guitar and can't even read music.

    I also wouldn't go out with a musician because I'd feel kind of overshadowed, like there was some kind of competition.

    • Baha, just because some of us can't read music, doesn't mean we can't be musicians. Music is an art, and traditional standards shouldn't make the artist.

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    • But once you know more about the whole field, you find many more ways of expressing yourself, and many more styles of doing so; not to mention all the tiny idiosyncracies of those styles. I study and analyse what other composers have done and apply that knowledge to my own compositions, as well as developing on it and including original ideas. When I write songs, I know what chords I am using and why I'm using them, as well as where I can take them later.

    • Hahaha, this is genius. Your totally right.

  • most definitely. it's hot

  • If music is a part of your soul and spirit, a musician who taps into that can be amazingly attractive. Some one might be turned off if that person knows it is the music and not themselves that is actually inspiring such admiration and excitement.

  • talent and passion are sexy...and those traits tend to be associated with musicians.

  • not really. they may be attractive in general but the fact that they are a musician doesn't mean much to me. I'm more into sporty guys :)


What Guys Said 5

  • Hey ladies I play 3 instruments!

  • Girls like people who are passionate about something anything and if it is something they like too it makes it that much better. So music doesn't work to get the girl interested in you. If you are into your music it will just attract her naturally.

    • I could see that happening. It's not for me, I'm already a musician. I've just had girls come to me before BECAUSE I was a musician, not because of me being me. I wanted to see what other people thought of it.

  • Carrie Underwood is HAWT!

    • I'm carrying underwood.

  • They don't. It's a myth. I play guitar and piano, and girls don't give a damn.

  • Only the attractive ones...