Guys - WHY do you like getting under a girl's skin and push her buttons?!

[Anonymous]

Is it a game? Is it your way of flirting? Do you use it as payback for feeling jealous or being hurt?

for example: A guy always shares something with your or shows you something to the point of it being routine. He was showing someone something on his phone (another girl) and of course she ooohed and ahhed (she throws herself at him and flirts like mad with him in front of me). He always shows me too. Well he got his phone back and I said, “may I see it?” Surprised that he didn’t…. not looking at me, he smiled for a short moment to himself as he looked at it and then said NO. Still smirking, moves it as far away from me as possible. "Um, but you always show me. Please?" He picks it up, at arms length, looking at me with a wicked smile and says "see? My phone. It’s awesome isn't it?" and then puts it back down. Smug and pleased with himself. He did it again a few days later with something else he usually shares with me. Same girl, same thing. Said no, put it far away, evil smile. What am I to think? He use to be super excited to show me stuff or include me, now he is doing this to get under my skin! But WHY?!

Something happened a few days before & I was really upset with him but never talked about it. He seemed really freaked out at the time when I was mad but never asked me about it...just stared at me worried. This behavior started a few days after this. Might it have something to do with that?

[toulouse]

i wouldn't have pleaded, or even asked to see it after someone else being annoying.. it'd make me feel part of her obnoxiousness, somehow. plus if he's being all high on himself, it'd just turn me off.

[BlackShadow]

Mostly it's a way of being flirtatious , or the guy just honestly doesn't like you. If he's just teasing you then he rather wants to be freinds or actually likes you.

[Asker]

When I asked him why he likes to push my buttons, he flashed a quick smile. It makes me react, which I don't normally get fiesty but it's like he LIKES that. So we end up like play fighting. Being sarcastic or obnoxious. Sometimes we smile, sometimes its this charged evil smile thing.

[BlackShadow]

That's exactly what it is.. He's being flirtatious and that's the only way he knows how to approach you because he might be insecure or shy.

[Asker]

So he likes to p*ss me off and purposely keep something from me, smiling all smug...and this is flirting?...ugh!

[BlackShadow]

To him , probably. Chances are the guy doesn't know how to approach or treat woman , and chances are there are other guys who will treat you like that as well. It's the only way some men have to get your attention , especially if you aren't that well known and don't have any common freinds

[Asker]

Ive known him for about a year now. We hang out at the same place. We use to flirt heavily, normal, all that,...but it went no where. It's become really awkward now. So I guess THIS is the only way for him to do it? Sometimes it feels like it's sexual tension between us. Am I over-reaching when I say that though?

[BlackShadow]

Well now that you say you have history , he probably just wants your attention in any way he can , and this being his method of doing it , it worked. Maybe it didn't work out quite to plan , especially seeing how it's getting under your skin like it is. If you used to flirt and he is trying to get your attention , just talk to him. Maybe he'll realize that he doesn't have to go though all that to get your attention.

[Asker]

Ugh, stupid, considering I sit right next to him.

[BlackShadow]

Well yes , men are stupid it's true. Then again woman are strange... I suppose we both have our ups and downs