Should I tell her that I like her?

[barlowboy]

I like this girl, and I think she could be interested in me too. I'm tired of thinking what if, and wondering what I should do about it. I'd just like to get it out there, and wonder what could come of it if I do?

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+1 y

ok thanks for all the advice it seems that the only discripancy is to tell her or just ask her out. I know that since I'm in my 20's it seems kinda silly to just tell a girl that I like her, but here's the thing the girl I like is 19 so I'm not sure if it would be crazy to just tell her that I like her. So should I just ask her out or tell her I like her?

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+1 y

I think I was wrong about thinking that she was interested and I'm sure I know what the response would be so I'm gonna move on. Thanks for all the answers though I'll use your advice in the future.

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+1 y

well at work tonight she was acting really friendly but I was in a bad mood and I took it out on her and we ended up not talking for the last couple hours, I just don't know what to do with things now.

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+1 y

It's been over 2 weeks since we worked together, we stopped riding to school together, and we haven't worked together since that night. She had barely even spoke to me since that night, but today at work she seemed to be in a better mood. She was talking to me and smiling and stuff, so I'm hoping things are OK now. I'd like to ask her if she'd like to start riding with us again, but I don't know if it's to soon since she is starting to talk to me again. What do you guys think?

[xTeacup]

Of course you should tell her, silly. [:

Wouldn't you want to know if someone had feelings for you? Especially if you had feelings for them. Even you didn't have feelings for her, you probably still would want to know, right?

Anywhozy, you'll just end up regretting it if you don't say anything.

You shouldn't put it off either. She might get a boyfriend or start to develop feelings for someone.

Even if she doesn't have the same feelings towards you, it would feel great just to get it off your chest and you stop wondering what if.

It's truly a win-win situation telling her. :]

Best of luck. Hope everything goes well.<3

[xTeacup]

Noo, you tush! If you genuinely like her, ask her out. Really. Don't force yourself to move on if you're going to regret it. A guy I was with was in his 21 while I was 17. Age is just a number.

[xTeacup]

@update Apologize. D; Just tell her you weren't in a great mood and mistakenly took it out on her.

[hungergames22]

I would tell her, but in a subtle way. Maybe tell her that she's the only one who you can trust, or there's no one else like her... that will both boost her trust in you and make her feel special. I know I would like that to be told to me. Asking her out would work probably too. Then, you would have more of an opportunity to tell her your feelings. Find something that you guys would like to do on your date together, not just what YOU want to do... If you have a lot of interests in common that's another good sign that the relationship will work out. Good luck! :)

[hungergames22]

If you like her so much, why did you take your bad mood out on her? That's close to relationship-killer #1!

[Anonymous]

were all gonna die anyway one day and get old so just go for it you have nothing to lose you'll probably lose your sanity if you DONT tell her because you'll keep wondering. that's what happ to me I had something with this guy and he played so many mind games I never got a straight answer I did ask him out but he said he was stressed from school and then I don't know I got mad and he didn't get back to me either and things were just left unsaid. I wish I had confronted my feelings so I can go on not looking back.

[rocksongwriter]

"So should I just ask her out or tell her I like her?"

Never tell a girl you like her. Always ask her out.

"I think I was wrong about thinking that she was interested and I'm sure I know what the response would be so I'm gonna move on."

Are you a mind reader? How do you know for certain what her answer will be? It sounds like paranoia and self-doubt are clouding your judgement. Hence, you should her ask out.

[rocksongwriter]

I think everyone who has answered this question has indicated that you should take some sort of positive action - whether it be asking her out or revealing your feelings. The vast majority have sided on the "ask her out" side as opposed to the "reveal your feelings" side.

Let me ask you this: if you ask us for advice on what you should do, and you decide to ignore our advice - then why did you ask us for advice in the first place?!?! So don't give us this "I'm gonna move on" nonsense!

[rocksongwriter]

Analogy time: If you go to a doctor for advice, and you ignore his advice, then who are you REALLY hurting?

[rocksongwriter]

By the way, is your screenname by chance a reference to the band BarlowGirl or the song "Barlow Girls" by Superchic[k]?

[barlowboy]

Yes the screenname is a reference by the song barlowgirl by superchick which is about the barlow girls lol your the first to ever ask me that

[barlowboy]

We just got home from school and she avoided me today and about bit my head off when I asked her a question. So it makes me think that she isn't intersted, but I work with her tonight so I'll see how bad it is then.

[rocksongwriter]

Keep us updated, and good luck!

P.S. I met Superchic[k] years ago. It wasa cool experience. As I recall, they were playing a show and signing CD's at a Best Buy store in order to promote Regeneration.

[barlowboy]

Will do, I meet them years ago when thier first two cds came out. thanks

[jdcpa]

What is the point of keeping it a secret?

Are you afraid to find out if she doesn't like you, or likes to play games? Wouldn't you rather find that out sooner and move on with your life? Or, do you prefer clinging on to hope and fantasy?

[scfranci]

I think you should go for it. Only don't make the mistake of telling her everything all at once. First ask he if she'd like to do something laied back like hanging out or getting coffee. If things go well or she seems like she might want more then ask her out on a real date and take her out to dinner, ice skating, mini golf or something like that.

[LaLa19Inu7]

Well...how will you know she likes you if you never tell her how you feel? Haven't you heard the saying that says "we regret more of the things we don't do then the things we do?"

The worse that can happen is she will say no...but it won't kill you.

Go for it. :)

Would you rather know if she likes you back or would you rather be left in the dark? Your choice.

[UptownGirl]

There's only one way you're going to find out then; you'll have to ask her out. If she says no, she says no and then you'll know. You'll know that you tried and you'll know that it just wasn't meant to happen.

If she says yes, then it's a win situation. Don't wait until it's too late.

[upood]

If you do tell her/ask her out, all that could come of it is that you finally know and can either move forward with or without her. Girls aren't mean about this stuff, you'll be fine even if she's not interested but assume she is! Go in there a winner and leave like one ;)

[LaLa19Inu7]

Well..if that's how you feel and you really think she does not like you then that's okay if you want to move on...

BUT...if you are moving on because you are being a chicken about it...then you'll have regrets if you don't ask her out because of fear.

[lolobelle]

It's always the best thing to be straight up honest. I just told I guy that I've liked him for a year, and now we are going to try to work things out! And if it happens her answer goes in a different direction, then at least you know not to waste your time thinking about what ifs!

[chanty123]

I believe someone already said this, but we aren't 12 anymore! No one confesses feeling. Ask the girl out for dinner and a movie (or even bowling!) Let it happen organically. You telling her how you feel before going out is just going to make you look like a creeper. Let your actions show your feeling at first.

[lifesaver67]

what she said! Asking her out is going to give her the hint that you like her, if you need to tell her you're not doing it right

[kheserthorpe]

No, never tell any girl you like them, die alone but smug knowing you never got shot down!

Unless that sounds bad. If that sounds bad, then you should ask her out.

To be honest you don't need to tell her you like her. Just frigging ask her out.

[kheserthorpe]

You should have asked her out today.

Next chance you get, do it

[Anonymous]

Go for it. Ask the girl out! :D

Either A) you get a date or B) You get a no, which is what your going to get if you don't do anything anyway.

[LossofWords]

I think you should make a move. Nothing happens by doing nothing. The question is, what are you going to say?

[pj411985]

Ask her out, and take it from there. She's might waiting for you to make the first move; either way one of you has to be initiative. Don't wait too long...Good luck.

[Anonymous]

if she's interested, she won't be able to hold it back. if you initiate now, you'll be doing that throughout the entire relationship. confident and interested girls approach guys. this isn't 1950. if you do go after her, you stand a good chance of being lead on

[shycat]

go for it... its hard to tell a girl like you or not... you may think she likes you... or maybe she's just being kind towards you... asked her out, confess to her, and see her answer... if the answer is yes, you are a happy guy... if no, you will regret a bit but the feelings after, is a lot more better then stuck in love misery...

[ryanfromhere]

Just ask her, because before you know it another guy will and you won't even have the chance.

[jadealex]

Ask her out! put yourself out there..as woman I respect a man who is honest and not afraid of rejection..GO FOR IT!

[calialltheway1993]

I say go for it, got nothing to loose BUT what if you get rejected? Because you will feel bad. Trust me.

[-Darling]

Dont tell her "i like you" wtf.. Thatd be weird, ask her out instead, shell get the point.

[-Darling]

Id still say ask her out. Your not in middle school anymore. She isn't either. Can't belive your actually asking this. Stupid!:S

[mxgirl23]

girls like it when your straight up.

so, tellll her.

[jujubeetzzz]

being in your twenties isn't that old...just tell her bro

[Jpalms56]

Ask her out, worse case scenario, she says no. But you gotta get it out and that's the best way to do it.