Do married men dream or fantasize about other women and is this normal?

[VictoriaPena]

I notice my husband checking out other women and although he tries to do it secretly, I am very observant and I catch him do it. I've learned not to let it bother me because I understand that this is "normal"...but now I am starting to wonder if (married) men lust over other women and if they dream or fantasize about them? if so...is this normal and does this mean that they still love their wife? I would like to get an insight into the mind of a man...

[Anonymous]

I always have had the urge to check girls since I can remember. When I got married I made sure I never did it in front of my wife as I wanted to show respect to her and show her I cared about her. She on the other hand gradually gave up on her body appearance and decreased the frequency of sex (from once every couple of days to once a month), even though I gave her great orgasms and all. I ended up so frustrated and unhappy I gave up on my marriage after trying a few times. I just couldn't accept to be treated like that and not have my sexual needs fulfilled. What bothered me is that sense of entrapment. And many other men (and a few women) have sexless marriages, because their spouse are selfish and only care about their needs. But oh boy, if we look at p*rn or other women we are instant jerk and a**holes.

Well the answer is clear: TAKE CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND DICK

I'm convinced that women neglecting their men sexual needs is the most common problem that hurts marriages and acts like a cancer rhat spreads then to the whole relationship.

[Couter]

link

This article explains it perfectly.

[relationshipDNA]

I have no delusions about the fact that my husband lusts or thinks or fantasizes about other women. That doesn't bother me. Getting married doesn't lobotomie your libido which is why it is important for women to fulfill their husbands sexual desires.

For me though, I worry more about the emotional lust rather than physical lust. The emotional stuff is usually what gets a man to leave. There are gys who cheat on their wives incessantly, but will never leave them because for them, it's just sex.

I find it hard to believe that everyone, men and women don't do their share of fantasizing and lusting even if for short moments. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone, it doesn't hurt to add a little spice to the sex life...as long as what happens up there,stays up there.

Every year I give my husband one freak card, where I fulfill one fantasy request. 9 years of marriage and he still slaps my ass and tries to mount me every chance he gets. Make sure you give him reasons to fantasize about you!

[selfishstars]

Yes, it's normal. Being married doesn't mean that you're dead.

You can love your spouse dearly, but still find other people attractive and lust over them/fantasize about them.

And this is true for both men and women.

[Robotic]

Exactly. this isn't just a guy thing its both sexes

[foolycooly1001]

If you are asking if it's normal for men to think about having sex with other women, then yes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, normal.

However the amount I think about other women is (inversely) correlated to how things are in my relationship.

[milliemass]

I like the last part there "However the amount I think about other women is (inversely) correlated to how things are in my relationship."

You hit the nail on the head

[Anonymous]

Of course we do. And yes it's normal. And we still love our wives.

Women do it too.

[Robotic]

It's normal for both men and women.