Hello guys, I am in a dilemma.
I have been close friends with a girl for over 2 years and she told me recently that she is in love with me. I on the other hand never thought of her that way neither saw this coming , it was a total surprise. Neither I like her that way. And if I tell her no she will be devastated because she would ask all kind of questions; why not me, am I not pretty enough for you? am I not good enough for you?
I want to reject her nicely but I cannot find a nice enough way to reject her that would cause her no hurt. I feel guilty already for not being able to tel her the same that I love you. Tbh I don't find her pretty and that's been her weak point as well. I am afraid if I tell her no - she will go into severe depression as only recently she has begun to develop her self esteem.
I have talked to friends and they all say, I should always have the courage and tell the truth regardless as to avoid any future heartbreaks but I just cannot do that without being hurt myself. I feel whether I tell her the truth or lie to her, I'll suffer either way. I also don't want to lose her as a friend.
What to do if both options are equally hurtful ? How do I be honest in such situation without being hurt? how do I tell my truth without hurting another?
I have been close friends with a girl for over 2 years and she told me recently that she is in love with me. I on the other hand never thought of her that way neither saw this coming , it was a total surprise. Neither I like her that way. And if I tell her no she will be devastated because she would ask all kind of questions; why not me, am I not pretty enough for you? am I not good enough for you?
I want to reject her nicely but I cannot find a nice enough way to reject her that would cause her no hurt. I feel guilty already for not being able to tel her the same that I love you. Tbh I don't find her pretty and that's been her weak point as well. I am afraid if I tell her no - she will go into severe depression as only recently she has begun to develop her self esteem.
I have talked to friends and they all say, I should always have the courage and tell the truth regardless as to avoid any future heartbreaks but I just cannot do that without being hurt myself. I feel whether I tell her the truth or lie to her, I'll suffer either way. I also don't want to lose her as a friend.
What to do if both options are equally hurtful ? How do I be honest in such situation without being hurt? how do I tell my truth without hurting another?
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