Ex-Girlfriend who dumped me is asking for my help because her car just got repoed away from her and her man?

[Anonymous]

So she dumped me for another guy and moved into his apartment! Long story short, her man lost his job because he was physically fighting with another employee and she doesn't work at all. So now she is 2 months behind and going to get her car taken! She is asking me to pay $700 bucks to save her car. I asked her why doesn't her boyfriend pay and she said because he spent all of his saving in vegas last month.. Would you help her?

[Darkfairie17]

No I would not help her. How is this your responsibility? If she was dumb enough to leave a guy who has his stuff together for a guy who blows all his money in vegas and gets into physical fights at work, well she needs to really check her priorities.

I would just be blunt and tell her no. Cut contact with her and move on. Sounds like she wants to use you for money. She's hoping you still have some feelings for her and she wants to try and use that to get money out of you. Sounds to me it was a good thing she left, as much as it probably hurts. A good girlfriend won't use you for money and won't toy with your emotions to get it.

This person is nothing but a user, using people to get what she wants. I can guarantee if you give her money you will regret it. Don't give her any money. It's her financial responsibility to pay for her car, and if she refuses to work, well ain't that a shame.

[ashleybeans]

Don't help her they're just using you. I know its wrong to say that, it's always good to lend a hand but they only appreciate your help now because they're desperate. Once they're back on their feet they both will probably not respect you.

[jpinka]

You loose a job then you go to Vegas? Oh heck no, Are you serious? I was going to say yes help but no. BUT do what you feel is right for you. I would not, however.

[Asker]

I told her an hour ago that I can't do it:-)

[jpinka]

thats good, if she can go out to vegas and live it up then be prepared to what comes next. SO can I burrow 700? lol I am looking at cost of books so I thought Id ask lol

[Asker]

HAHAHA!

[jpinka]

worth a shot lol

[Theguyoverthere]

No. It's her fault. She'll just take the money and ignore you. Your drama is not her problem. She needs to get her act together, not ask you to "help her."

[Asker]

True dat

[Theguyoverthere]

I'll never understand why girls are so attracted to trash like that.

[Asker]

Me either lol

[Bleep]

hahahahaha, you'd be the biggest idiot ever to do that. Great new guy she's got, lost his savings gambling. Losers.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess she dumped me for a loser...smh

[kheserthorpe]

No.

If you want to give $700, I bet you can find someone who is in worse shape then 'my car is being repoed'. More in the 'my children are starving category'.

[kheserthorpe]

Remind me why two people without jobs have a car in the first place?

[Asker]

so true

[gonyr]

No. It's not your concern. Tell her to go to family for help.

I seriously doubt she will pay you back.

[Asker]

Hmmm that's kinda what my Mom and Dad thinks too hahaha...how should I tell her?

[wifemomof2]

just tell her no

[gonyr]

You are having a tough time financially as it is and you don't have money to spare. SHell ask for anything you can give.

A lesson learned from e movie a Bronx tale, if you lend someone money and they never pay you back and avoid seeing you, it was probably worth it to get rid of them. Not saying you should or shouldn't give. But. $50 means she never speaks to you again maybe it's worth it

[Koldhearted]

Oh hell no. Do not do it. Whatever you do. DONT

She's just hoping you have feelings still and is asking for money. It won't buy her love back no matter what she says.

[Asker]

Ok:-) TY

[kangaru]

did both of you leave on a good note?

If I do have friendship still with my ex, maybe I would help him once.

[Asker]

How could we have left on good terms she DUMPED me for another guy lol...we are so hunky dory hahaha!

[kangaru]

i am not sure the word dumped is just being used commonly as break up. if that is the case then don't lend.

[Asker]

Dumped means break up:-)

[Tattoos]

Personally, I wouldn't lend it to her. What's to stop her from asking again?

[Asker]

I probably gonna tell her hell naw in the end

[caligirl2003]

Don't do it. I had a similar thing with my ex and he asked for money I learned never to do that again. He is still with her and I was the one always helping.

[Anonymous]

Well, what you should do is write her a cheque for the $700. She'll go back to her boyfriend and surely tell him how she has you wrapped around her little finger, maybe throw words in like 'what a sucker'.

Then you make sure the damn thing bounces for assuming you are an idiot or even better write it out in front of her so she sees that it's written for $700 then switch it for one that's for 7 cents.

Just to see the look on her face when the teller slides those 7 pennies would be priceless.

[Anonymous]

No way. She's just trying to emotionally blackmail you.

[Asker]

What do you mean emotionally blackmail?

[butterflyred]

helping one person is good.. but person who dumped you to other man.. its definitely NO and a BIG NO! NO!

[Prettygurl12]

Hell no. Let her learn her lesson the hard way. You stopped having to help her the second she earned the title EX-girlfriend.

[jenf1026]

Absolutely not! These losers deserve each other and just proof that karma will come get you...

[abundantlyrich]

karma is sweet revenge. No I wouldn't personally help her at ALL in my personal humble opinion. People don't appreciate what they have until they lose it all. In general, some people are leeches in life and they take things for granted.

[Zephyrsue]

Don't get yourself involved. They made their decisions and you will be getting yourself into an awkward situation this way. She's not your problem anymore.

[rabbit3891]

Hello no! I'd tell her to sleep in the bed she made.

[blackkid4]

No. On so many levels and for so many reasons ( too many to list here ) no.

[asianfreak]

No, let life make her learn it all the hard way, and you shouldn't allow yourself to be dragged into her circumstances. She's proved to you she doesn't know how to take responsibility for her actions.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Let her learn her lesson the hard way. If you help her, she probably won't learn anything from it, and will continue to struggle this way.

[madhatters4]

N-O

unless you are flush with cash and don't mind giving someone $700 (cause you shouldn't expect to get it back) I would just kind of say, "i'm sorry this isn't my problem"

[Anonymous]

No. not worth your time. who knows if shed even pay you back. and if you pay now what's there to stop her from asking for more money for other things?

[Asker]

True_)

[Anonymous]

I'd tell her that I'd help her and then after telling her that I would walk away from the situation and not do a damn thing to help.