My bestfriend treats me like I'm her boyfriend?

[Ryugin]

My bestfriend treats me and expects me to do things like her boyfriend and when I've confronted her about it she gets all mad about and has a small fit about it. And I'm not the only one to confront her about it a friend of ours has too and when she confronted her about it she really flipped out about.

So what should I do about my friend?

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+1 y

Plus the other friend of ours. Her and I are kind of getting close now and some of my friend attitude kind of started when we really started chatting.

Also like to pint out she tried to set us up when I first met her.

[Anonymous]

Since she is your best friend just treat her like your bros and say no when the demand has gone too far. Let her knows the boundaries and maybe go get a girl friend for yourself instead of being so caught up with this best friend of yours unless you know you like her or smth

[Ryugin]

I have been treating her like a bros for sometime now and she still acts the way she does. As for get a girlfriend for myself, well I am single right now and have gone on some dates but nothing pass a date or two, which is also something I have to keep from her because every time she finds out I'm on a date she will just keep texting me to the point I have to turn off my phone. And as for liking her I did once not so much now.

[Opinion Owner]

She sounds like a possessive friend that my bf once had. That girl wasn't even the best friend but she acts like one and maybe even more, doing things as if she is the girl friend. And a possessive one.
Up till this day I cannot comprehend girls like these so... sorry man, I can't give you golden advice except that maybe once she is taken , her attention will be shifted and stop acting this way.

[Ryugin]

Trust me even when she taken her attention doesn't shift.

[RenoPetroldi]

I think you should draw that imaginary line between the dude-best friend area and the boyfriend area. Bc she is CLEARLY not going to do it. Maybe she just wants you to be always (by always I don't mean forever, I mean every time) by her side, nearly, dead nearly by her side.

[Ryugin]

Well I have drawn that line a few time, but she doesn't really seem to care about it and goes into boyfriend area.

[mollyringworm]

Try to spend a little less time with her or at least stop doing those things with her and hopefully she'll get the hint. Because If you don't like her in that way then you shouldn't have to do those things. Or just tell her you don't want to.

[Ryugin]

I don't spend that much time with her seeing as she live 3 hours away, but when I tell her no to these thing she has me do she gets all moody and pull the guilt trip card on me

[mollyringworm]

Don't be swayed by the guilt trip. It's a pathetic attempt to get you to do what she wants. Just have a conversation with her and tell her that the relationship needs to change. The fact that you keep giving into her is why she keeps doing it.

[Ryugin]

I haven't fallen for the guilt trip lately, and she hasn't really been talking too me either lately. The other friend I've mention has already gone up one side of me and down the other about the guilt trip stuff.

[mollyringworm]

Well maybe it's a good thing that she's not talking to you then?

[Ryugin]

Maybe I don't know, but I find my self not telling her what I'm up too

[mollyringworm]

If you are this concerned with it maybe it's better that way. Let everything cool down

[Ryugin]

I guess, I'm not really that concerned about it to be honest.

[mollyringworm]

Well I guess thats good then. Also I just saw the updates and it sounds like she's probably just jealous of her two friends possibly getting together and is afraid of being left out.

[Ryugin]

Maybe but like I said too she tried to set us up. The only thing is the other friend lives a lot further away ad we've only really been chatting via Skype.

[mollyringworm]

What she does and how she actually feels are two different things. She might have attempted to set you guys up just so she wouldn't seem jealous even though it seems like she really is.

[Ryugin]

Ah I see

[mollyringworm]

I hope I was at least somewhat helpful

[Ryugin]

Oh all of these where helpful in there own way

[steveguitar]

does she like anybody else at the moment?

[Ryugin]

Yes right now she has been chatting with this guy she knows

[steveguitar]

Its kind of odd then, no reason for her to be angry for you asking about that. If the actions are there and you see it as her trying to be more than friendly.

But then again you never really know what us on a girls mind, and they are not going to tell you. I wonder if girls just don't understand friendahips with guys and how they should be a bit different from someone they are interested in.

Also do you like her? Because sometimes that distorts the way we perceive things

[Ryugin]

I did once not so much now I know her to well to really want to date her

[steveguitar]

Well I don't know then. Maybe her getting mad is a defensive thing, as in, she knows she is doing this and trying not to get caught

[Ryugin]

Maybe not sure I have no clue when it comes to women.

[laurenvialox]

Say no and don't her guilt u into doing things. Set boundaries.. if it doesn't work ignore her till she gets the point!

[Ryugin]

Have been the other friend I've mentioned has already gone up one side of me and down the other about it

[laurenvialox]

Just stay away from her.. that shouldn't be hard. Are you attracted to her or something, you feel that obligated to someone who is clearly spoiledvand inconsiderate of her friends?

[Ryugin]

Have been staying way from her

[TheEdgyBarbie]

Maybe she likes you and doesn't know how to say it? That would be my best guess? If you asked her out, her réaction would be a big tell

[Ryugin]

The thing is I have asked her out and she flipped out and said where only friends, and the other friend of mind asked her once about her and I and again she went off the deep end about how I'm her best friend