How do I deal with my narcissistic boyfriend truly wanting to leave me for my bestfriend?

[Newyorkgirl022]

So my boyfriend I think wants to leave me for my ex best friend. He literally treats me like garbage now because of her & doesn’t see any harm in his actions. He’s trying to kick me out 2 days before my birthday. I’m trying not to be hurt by it, but his actions towards me have been horrible.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah that really sucks, I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. Your boyfriend is being a total jerk to want to leave you for your "best friend", that's seriously messed up of him. And for him to treat you like garbage now too, that's so not cool. What a loser, you definitely don't deserve to be treated that way. I can't believe he's trying to kick you out just before your birthday too, that's such a low blow.

Honestly if it was me, I'd say dump him already. You don't need a boyfriend who's gonna disrespect you and try to dump you for your friend. No one deserves to be in a relationship where the other person makes them feel bad about themselves. It sounds like he's being really manipulative and nasty to you too. You can do so much better than dating some dude who treats you like an option.

And your "friend" isn't much of a friend either if she's trying to get with your boyfriend behind your back. Real friends don't do that to each other. I know it probably hurts to lose both of them at once, but trust me – in the long run you'll be so much happier without toxic people like that bringing you down. It'll suck for a while, but you've got your whole life ahead of you to find true friends who really care about you.

Don't let those jerks ruin your birthday either! You should dump his sorry butt right away so you can enjoy celebrating with people who actually appreciate you. You totally deserve way better than how they're treating you. Keep your chin up - things will get better once you cut them out of your life for good. Just remember that you didn't do anything wrong, this is all on them for being crappy partners and friends. You'll get through this!

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

OK knight, let's back up a bit. Your making way too many assumptions off the minimum of information

Her statement even makes it clear she thinks that is the reason but isn't sure. No real context was given on length of relationship, status of relationship, any issues, infidelity or any real issues.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

You've given very little information and just making a blanket statement. You've given no real context here.

Just because he has decided you two are no longer a viable couple doesn't make him a narcissist.

What issues were involved in the relationship? Have you guys been constantly fighting? Any infidelity? Do their life goals and expectations better match than you two as a couple?

For what ever reason he has obviously decided she would make a better life partner. Would you expect him to continue in a relationship that didn't fulfill him? Would you stay if the roles were reversed?

[DarkWinterNights]

If that’s what’s actually going on, there is nothing you can do to rectify the toxic situation but leave.

[Danny_dan92]

By moving on, you’re welcome

[laly520]

by moving on

[OtterMan68]

dump him