Girl seems really interested, then all of sudden..not why?

[weyto]

i was introduced to this gorgeous girl and actually had a great down to earth personality, she told me she doesn't play games and is straight about everything. I didn't get her number because she just got out of a long relationship. well I knew her family so I called her house the next day and I went and spent some time with her. she was leaving on a trip for the weekend and told me shed call me when see got back, no call. so I called about 4 days later and she said shed just got back yada yada..she told me shed call me later...well she texted that night, but I had to go to bed so she asked me to call her the next day (good sign right)...i did she said she really wanted to do something with me..so we planned for Saturday, says shell call me with the details Thursday...no call, Saturday...no call...i finally find out she's sick and when I asked her why she didn't at least it me know, she just apologized saying she didn't think about it. so now I'm baffled, so I get over it and ask her the next day...busy...wait a week, she's out with a friend...so I finally text her and say I'm going to stop trying and she writes back (as if she didn't know) that if I was looking for a friend that's OK but she doesn't want to date...well I was too mad at that point so I told her I didn't want any more friends...to me, you don't even treat your friends like that, so why should I want to be her friend and get stuck liking her and being treated horribly...anyway its been a week or 2 and I've tried to send her texts to be polite and ask her how she's doing, she doesn't respond...I'm trying to just let it go but it really bugs me that I can't figure it out...this happens to me all the time is it my fault?

[meplusabeemer]

I am sorry. I understand your disappointment and frustration. This has happened to me as well and I declared that all guys should wear signs ahead of time to forewarn me if he is a douche bag. The problem lays with the girl and her lack of respect and honesty. She was initially honest in the beginning about just getting out of a long term relationship. However, she should have been upfront that she isn't seeking friendship or any relationship right now because she prefers to be alone. Yes, it's a let down but you know the person's stance and intentions ahead of time and don't wind up feeling like you do now.

Not all women are like this girl. Many of us are mature enough to be on the level with a guy and be forthright and honest. The key is to find someone within this mold and that takes time.

Don't give up or be hard on yourself. It's her loss.

[weyto]

Thanks for your reply

[gloria]

yeah at this point she really doesn't know what she wants. She's still into that long term relationship and could possibly be talking to the person about getting back together. I suggest you find someone who's mature enough to be upfront about things and who will appreciate you. No, it's not your fault your doing the right thing. Your supposed to chase the girl not her coming after you. But you never know she might come back around and if she does don't take her seriously just make it a simple talk.

[Crystalmir]

"she told me she doesn't play games and is straight about everything"

See that's where part of the problem is. Usually someone who says that is exactly the opposite of that (as you found out). That's just like a guy telling a girl that "i'm not dangerous"

[weyto]

Thats funny, I didn't catch that thanks