Things I wish women did more of:
1. Be honest and DIRECT, no innuendo no mind games, no shit tests. If you want us to give you what you want you have to TELL us what you want.
2. Be more affectionate, nothing brightens my day like when a woman interlocks her arm with mine and puts her head on my shoulder.
3. Be more positive towards men in general. Women always give you shit tests to prove you are not a creep/rapists/player. Yes there are a lot of them out there but if you treat ALL men like they are you will chase away the ones that aren't (there are LOTS more of us than the creeps and players out there, even if at times it doesn't seem like it!)
4. I would want women to talk to me more. Even if you are not interested in a guy, why don't women just talk to us? If you are why not strike up a conversation and see where it goes? If you are into us, we may have no idea (remember from #1 we aren't mind readers) tell us how you feel and ask us out. Yes you might get rejected, you might also find Mr. Right ;) This is ESPECIALLY true for us shy guys.
5. Be willing to share in the household chores. No it is not slavery just because you are a woman and you cook (despite what the feminists tell you). It is a life skill, I can cook I don't like too ALL the time either but I can cook very well, I want a woman willing and able to cook/clean as well.
6. Be more experimental in the bedroom. First let me put all your insecurities to rest, if a guy is there with you he finds you HOT, otherwise he wouldn't be there, just like if you weren't into him you wouldn't be there. Leave your insecurities outside the bedroom, it should be a CELEBRATION of your love. To that end, don't be afraid to be a little freaky in the bedroom. Tbh most men want a woman who is innocent everywhere else and a FREAK in bed!
What I wish women would do LESS of
1. Play mind games, remember being direct and honest. I cannot STRESS that enough. Every guy cringes when he asks "whats wrong babe?" and gets
Tough question, generally women hint at things they want their man to do, where men are far more direct and generally don't get hints and are bewildered by the whole passive aggressive or silent treatment. Both sides need to say what they mean and mean what they say and Oh so many arguments would be avoided..
And men hate the "Does my arse look fat in this?" you already know the answer, you've already looked in the mirror, don't ask loaded questions, we're dead in the water either way, be honest with us, and yourself and avoid the argument. Men are visual creatures turned on by what they see, where as women are generally more turned on by what they think, may the lord grant that the two may one day be more alike!!! This is only my opinion and as a guy from outback Australia, where women work just as hard as men farming, mining, truck driving etc, the women round here can hold their own wearing steel cap work boots and Hi Viz workwear and i think some of them are tougher than the guys.. lol
To sum up, never be afraid to speak your mind, be clear about what you want and expect, but you have to show the same openess respect his wishes to. Compromise is the key.
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Being more responsible and stop blaming men for their own choices. If they have a kid with their ex, unless it is rape, their jut as much to "blame" for having sex as he is and they need to accept the fact that it is a dealbreaker to many guys.
Also, less makeup and more real effort into getting in shape. It's amazing that so many girls will spend hours in the bathroom putting on makeup instead of going to the gym and losing the fat they're really trying to take attention away from.
Less late night bar partying. When I see a girl complaining about how guys won't commit and "only want sex" yet I see her constantly talking about "getting wasted" at the bar and how cool it is it makes me realize why guys are only looking to hook up with her.
Much less of this "guy has to do everything" attitude. Guys who see this only see a self entitled girl who is not capable of being in a relationship. You get what you put in.
More initiating of things. If you can't text/call him, you're definitely unable to date him and he will move on to a girl who can do what you can't since you're too scared of "annoying him" when he's probably looking to see if you will text/call him.
Less games. These include (but are not limited to):
1. "Where do you want to eat?", "Naa, I don't want to eat there, pick something else"
2. "I'm 'FINE'"
3. The relationship power games
4. "How does this look on me?"
5. "How old do I look?"
The way they argue:
1. NEVER start a sentence during an argument with "You never" or "You always". For the love of god, make the argument about the current problem.
2. Unless you're admitting defeat in the argument, do not leave the conversation.
3. Do not EVER hang up on someone who is supposed to be your friend/family/significant other while they are talking on the phone.
Shouting the praises of the feminist movement, but then also maintain the double standard that guys are still supposed to take all the risk when it comes to relationships. Either take it all the way, or just don't scream it from the rooftops to make it obvious.
Demanding that men naturally understand your female defense mechanisms, filtering methods, relationship games, your need for confidence and desire to be lead, but also the right balance of not being a jerk, and allowing you to express yourself whenever you like. We're expected to know (from birth) how to boldly walk up to a woman, strike up a conversation about nothing, make it through all of her filters, break the touch barrier, build a rapport and ask for a number.
I gotta tell you, there are a lot of great guys out there who would treat you like a princess... but 90% of those good guys, have no idea how to deal with any of those things I mentioned above, and the reason why? Because those are learned skills. Men are not born knowing those things, and you likely won't learn them from your parents, but yet they are expected of us.
Do more of anything that you do less of because if the thought "If he likes me he'd do it" mentality, like texting first. Same with "I don't want to bother him."
>If I'm always texting first I have no fucking idea what you want or how you feel.
If you don't want to talk to me just say so. Don't start with the short replies and hope I get the idea, that's so freaking dumb and annoying. I can get the idea that you don't like me but how am I supposed to just know? You won't text first when you like me but you won't stop texting if you don't? That's ridiculous.
>You're wasting both our time and letting me wonder about feelings that aren't there. Dick move. Fix that.
Just saying hi. Every so often I get messages from girls and they just say hi. I like that you're initiating but you're not doing anything else. I know I can't just say I back even though you started this conversation, because we both just say hi and then you've got nothing else to say. Do we have to be dating before you're prepared to ask a question? Even then it's only "wbu?"
>Even when girls initiate, they still make me carry the conversation. What the fudge is up with that?
>Don't demand a guy to have conversational skills and be able to hold a conversation when you think it's ok for you not to do that.
You should've let girls comment to analyze our answers. This gender restriction thing on questions is silly.
More direct verbal communication. A LOT less of laying out a mine-field of clues, and hoping he will guess what you mean. Men aren't mind readers, and should never have to be.
Women can't read minds either, and should stop believing they can. "I know it's not what you said, but I know what you're thinking" just doesn't hold water.
Women in long term relationships need to turn on about 20 times more sex. In relationships that have lasted 4 years, 10 years or even more, women become sexually dysfunctional. 2 hours of sex a day is OK, but 3 hours or less a month is not OK. Thesedays, I'm out when it gets to less than most days of the week.
Things I wish girls stopped doing.
I wish they did not treat me like I am the scum of the earth.
I wish they did not smoke.
I wish there was no such thing as nasty, mean and gossiping girls.
I wish girls stopped jumping to conclusions.
I get fed up and angry with girls using the word "creep", most girls don't even know what a real creep is anyway.
I get angry and fed up with sexist girls, calling guys pigs etc is not acceptable.
I wish many girls would stop all the frowning and scowling it is rude and not acceptable.
I know these things do not represent all girls though.
Things I want girls to more of:
I wish girls would smile more.
I wish girls would be more flirty.
I wish girls would be more open to us guys talking to them.
and there are three others but not sure if I should mention them.
I wish girls would try to be more happy with who they are and more confident with what they have.
I wish girls would not okay mind games with us and just be direct and tell us what you want.
I wish girls would tell us what is wrong when they say "I am fine" or "nothing". We want to know. I would even accept "I do not want to talk about it right now,
I will tell you later" so I know that I will at least know what problem is occurring. I know I'm fine or its nothing can occasionally mean just that, but most of the time it does not
I wish they would stop friend zoning guys. I would rather her downright tell me that she doesn't like me, instead of leading me on, and using me for emotional support, every time she gets her heart broken by the guys that she IS attracted to... and that leads me to the second: I wish they werent so ignorant when it comes to dating. I wish they would be able to see who is good for them and who isn't. Not to chase after the ones who are bad for them, just because of his looks (that's seriously shallow of them).
That is all
I really wish that women wouldn't be so submissive. Not in the dom\sub sense, but when the guy says something like "I know it hurts like hell, but if you really loved me, then you'd let me stick it in your ass." That guy is trying to put you through so much agony just so he can have a bit more instant gratification. Do you really think he loves you? "If you don't let me have sex with you, I'm going to leave you." Let him. Don't you think that a man who actually loved you would respect your comfort zone? Don't you think he would care about more of you than just your vagina?
More: I enjoy eating a well cooked meal and like to try new things every now and than. if I know a girl who can help with the cooking or even walk me through the steps it would be quite helpful.
Less: learn not to stress about things. This can be for everyone though in my experience girls tend to over stress about things, and I don't really understand why. (hormones is a poor excuse)
just be someone you will enjoy being through out the day.
I kinda wish girls didn't friend zone guys by default. I have a few female friends and I talk to girls without too much difficulty, but girls would rather me be their gay best friend (I wear backwards hats and talk about sports and airplanes, I don't act gay) than a guy of interest. For example, this girl and I made out at a kickback when we were drunk, yet she texted me the next day saying she wanted to never talk about it and that she didn't see me that way even though she initiated it.
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