My ex broke up with me as I had issues. He deeply loved me and despite being on the rebound with a girl he doesn't find attractive and has known for...
My ex broke up with me as I had issues. He deeply loved me and despite being on the rebound with a girl he doesn't find attractive and has known for only four weeks I know he still feels something for me which is why he can barely look at me, struggles to speak to me and reminded me via phone that he always thought I was amazing. I'm frustrated and confused as I'm hanging by a thread swinging back and forth. He's got a lot of pride and us very stubborn. After 5 weeks on my own and changing aspects of myself I realize I still love him and desire to be with him. I have to tell him! I need to express my feelings and genuinely apologize for my wrong doing and tell him what I should have told him. I'm so nervous.
How do I go about this?
Should I spill my heart out?
Is it a good idea? (note: I don't want to live with regrets and thinking 'what if?') x
You should wait. If he is telling you that he he always thought you were amazing it could mean that either he really does think that or he is just trying to make you feel better despite being with another girl.
If you tell him you must know that he is going to have a ton of leverage over you and know that you will be at his disposal, (I don't know the situation to the extent) but if doesn't want to be in a relationship its just going to drive him away even more.
If the connection is still as strong as you say it is you two will get back together inevitability. All it would take is you seeing him in a social setting and it would be instantly on again. I can almost guarantee it (thats if he still wants to be in the relationship, but even then you keep feelings for your ex no matter what you just try and suppress those feelings). I assume you guys have a similar social circle because you were together so just go places that he goes and accidentally "bump" into him. The key here though is not to be blatant about it. If you guys have any sort of face to face conversation its very likely you guys will fall into a good vibe again and everything will be back to normal.
Personally, I never respond to love-letters of this sort.. Sending it to him won't hamrm anything. So it's up to you, do you think you should message him or do you think you should not? Either way, forward is the best decision - because it's the people that stand behind you during the rough times that matter.
A different suggestion would be to write out the letter, but to never give it to him.
Other than that, I don't really have anything else to contribute; I'm sorry for your loss.
NO REGRETS! Tell the man and if he feels the same then, let it grow from there. You have to tell the man. Pride will have you alone. Whatever issues you've dealt with on your own and if they're not going to get interrupt you two again, then love that man.
I think that you should tell him because otherwise its just going to eat you up inside. There's no good way to tell him other than just straight up. Tell him everything without leaving anything left unsaid because otherwise there's a good idea you'll have what ifs but just keeping some things you're feeling to yourself. As for telling him, I think you should do it in person because you can tell his reactions better and it comes off more serious when someone does it face to face. You can message him or send him a letter but are you sure he'll get it and be the only one to read it? I don't think calling him would be a wise choice either. I think you need to just make plans to see him one day soon and tell him.
I feel like this guy probably doesn't deserve you if he let you go like that and has ALREADY moved on, it's a bit quick if he legitimately had feelings for you.
If you feel like you can't move on then knock yourself out, I just feel like you're better off without him.
I think you can be strong enough to get over him.
He may have been a part of your life to help sculpt you into being a better person, those things you realized you were doing wrong-maybe you changed them for someone new, and not him. He was just there to point them out. This guy wasn't willing to wait out for the change and last through the hard times, but only you know what is the right decision to be made here.
SO HE IS ALREADY WITH SOMEONE?WHY WOULD You WANT TO BE BACK GOING TO SOMETHING THAT LEFT You AND FOUND A GIRL IN 4 WEEKS?U HAVE TO BE REALLY CAREFUL BECAUSE You DONT WANT GET HURT AGAIN! BE REALLY CAUTIOUS I WILL SUGGEST FOR You TO MOVE ON DONT GET HURT AGAIN
5 weeks is not that much time fir self evolution id wait a few months at least, but I also depends on WHY he broke up, but remember e did break up so its sort of disrespecting his wishes I think to go and reinitiate, give him some space I think,
I would leave it be for awhile. Don't want to run him off completely. If he is that stuborn and pridefull especialy. When you do tell him, I would wait a month or so. Let him see you can survive on your own. Men get there hearts broken too and they take awhile to heal. If you have issues yourself deal with them before you talk. That way he does not have any certain control over you. Is he macho or pridefull? There is a differance
I was in this situation only a few weeks ago. If I were you I'd tell him that your sorry for what you did, and that you still like him and see where things go from there. But make sure you do it to his face, you always gain more respect by doing that.