19 and never had a girlfriend

[TimePhantom]

So I am now 19 years old and still have yet to have a girlfriend. I've never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything past that. It's not that I couldn't get a girl. I'm fairly attractive, I think pretty interesting I play drums, sports, etc. I am pretty comfortable around girls, and have had plenty of chick friends. But I know that this is not normal, usually guys my age have at least been out a couple of times. I think my problem is that I analyze girls too much, I put way too much thought into if this person is really right for me. I don't want to go out with someone I don't think I'd get into a serious relationship with. Also it doesn't really bother me that I haven't had a girlfriend, not that it wouldn't be nice. So what do you all think of my situation?

[Anonymous]

I'm the exact same, but in girl form. Except for the drums bit, I don't play an instrument.

I don't know, somethings just don't bug me, like how many people I've dated, kissed or . well you get the picture. It really isn't too critical in the long sceme of things-- unless of course a person was so experenced they recieved aids, or herpes.

I enjoy your situtation, mostly because hey your nineteen and its not really that big of a deal if you date or not. Hey you have a lot less strings people can grb a hold of. And you have an opportunity to be selfish, which people who are in relationships at your age, don't really have that ability. So cheers!

[UnicornLoveChild]

I think you need to give girls a chance. Nobody's perfect, and you're just going to bore yourself thinking they all need to be. Yes, I'm a girl and I know, girls are annoying. They never shut up, they're obsessed with their appearance, and they think the world revolves around them half the time. I understand why you're analyzing them. But you need to stop. Find someone who's just like you. Why? because opposites don't attract. Ask out a friend, that way it'll be easier to talk to her. You don't have to if you don't want to.just keep being single if it floats your boat!

Sincerly,

Lindsey

[gthcsmt]

Yo dude... you're only 19. I'm 24 now and never had a gf... not that I can't get one but I'm like you, a little too picky I guess. I won't date anyone who I don't see as being in a serious relationship too.... Hmm... I dunno.... you'll find one soon. Start asking them out!

[TimePhantom]

It's not stuff like that I get hung up on, I know girls act like that, I have a sister. It's like last semester there was a girl I liked in one of my classes. I got a ride home from her once and saw that she didn't wear her seatbelt. I viewed this as totally stupid if you can't even take the most basic precaution for your own safety. And that totally turned me off of her. Funny enough she did get in an accident later, and her head did hit the windshield.

[UnicornLoveChild]

Well, about the car accident thing, try to pick a smart girl with common sense. Maybe then you won't have anything to get hung up on! Come on, do you really want to be talking to your guy friends and be the only one who's never been on a date? I've never been on a date either, but I'm 16, and I'm trying really hard!

[nicole-rosson]

WELL I THINK THAT YOU DNT ALWAYS HAVE TOO THINK SOO MUCH IF THE GIRL WOULDNT BE THE ONE YOU WOULD GET INTO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH JUST DATE LIKE WHEN YOU DATE A GIRL YOU ARE NOT COMMITTED AND IF YOU DNT WANT TO DATE THE GIRL ANYMORE JUST TELL HER THE POINT OF DATING IS YOU ARE AALLOWED TO DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER YET SO JUST ASK A GIRL YOU LIKE OUT ON JUST A DATE AND SEE WHERE IT GOES BUT YOU DONT HAVE TO DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON IF YOU DONT WANT TO I KNOW I DIDNT I JUST DATED ONLY MY BOYFRIEND UNTIL WE BECAME AN ACTUALL COUPLE

[sassygal4]

I think that's perfectly ok. I know many people like that, both men and women. Though, I think since you're asking, you actually want to go on dates and find a girlfriend. I say, just go out and have some fun. That's what dating is all about. Maybe you will actually find someone that you feel you really connect with. From an outsider's view, you may not be getting to know these girls well enough and your overanalyzing is getting in the way. Forget about all that, just meet new people and enjoy yourself.

[gettinittogether]

But how do you know that you can get a girl if you've never tried? First step is to try, stay focused on what you like about a girl, ASK HER OUT and see how you do. I don't think you'd be writing this if it didn't bother you a little bit. I think you need to have experience dating before you find a relationship. Don't wait around, the girl who comes along who you think you could see yourself with and develop feelings based on your 'analysis' probably won't like you, cause you won't know how to act cause you would be new to it. ask a girl out dude, see how you do, ask another girl out, etc. And get rid of analyzing too much, we only live once.

[TimePhantom]

I know I could get a girl because it has been very obvious that they were interested in me. I have also been asked out by a girl (granted it was in 8th grade) I'm not nervous or not know how to act with girls, but date experience would help. Thanks!

[tex151]

Here's your problem, it's not that your picky, but you are looking way to far ahead, your basically looking for a girl who you would marry. Dude you've never been on a date how about you start there to begin with, go find a girl ask her on a date. I've been on lots of dates,with hot girls, cute girls, and the not so much ones. You can't get a girl friend without going on dates with girls. Stop looking to far ahead, instead of going hmm I wonder if she is the girl for me, just go with the flow man, and you never know, the girl that you thought wasnt relationship material could turn out to be your next gf.

[TimePhantom]

Ya I think that is a lot of my problem. I think I'm viewing dating as a step towards marriage, which is so far off. I just think things like why would I want to go out with this girl when I know I wouldn't want it to go anywhere past a date.

[cunninlynguist]

I think its perfectly normal, I am exactly the same as you when it comes to analyzing people. If I don't think I could get into a serious relationship I simply don't date. If it doesn't bother you don't sweat it you have plenty of time.

[Katejohn2023]

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[lost-soul]

well it normal I suppose you are a practical person. don't think about it too much you'll find a girl and when this girl comes you'll forget all your worries believe me.

[socrGTSTY]

if youve never had a girlfriend and just want some expirience just go out there and ask someone out!

[Blake26]

Don't sweat it out man, you have plenty of time. You'll land one soon.

[Steven08]

play the field man explore, go out whatever as long as its all fun

[excailber1050yahoo]

Don't sweat it man, but I personally think you should put yourself out there soon just to get the hang of it. So when you do meet that special girl, you know places you could take her, and how a relationship should progress.