How do you feel when you catch a guy checking you out?

Question

Girls, just wondering about this, say you're at a coffee shop or on a plane, a guy who is a stranger (lets say he's your own age and you do find him attractive) is sitting near you, and you just happen to catch him checking out your body (like your legs or breasts). He looks for a few seconds but then sees that you saw him checking you out and so he turns away...

How do you feel then? Annoyed? Flattered? Embarrassed? Excited/Enticed?

What does it do to your self-esteem?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I mean, it is generally flattering when a person pays you a compliment. It depends on the guy -- his method of observation (and possible commentary, whether related or not). If the guy gets creepy about his visual scanning process, the observation process can quickly shift from innocuously complimentary to insulting/embarrassing. A few examples from the same office:

A few guys will scope me out whenever I walk into the room. (I'm so saying I'm "all that" by any means, just stating an obvious reaction in a particular instance. No ego here.)

POSITIVE EXAMPLES:

One of the guys always systematically works me over with his eyes, followed up with that "dear caught in the headlight's" look (raised eyebrows, eyes popping out of his skull for till he can compose himself); he remembers to swallow and manages to pull himself together and either say "Hi" or turn away to shuffle through a pile of papers. He's generally composed in his manner of observation, and it's flattering. He'll find ways to chat when he has the opportunity and is sweet.

Another guy just sort of stands there, eyeballing me, which is always rather awkward. He might say "Hi" but is at a complete loss if anyone asks him a question of any sort.

The third guy cracks a joke and carries on a regular conversation -- he has four or five sisters and is not easily "stunned" by a girl walking into a room. He can carry on a conversation, direct you to the conference room, proper administrator, etc. without missing a beat. The precursory scan is assumed to be part of a basic unspoken question -- "How are you?" -- which he determines himself before commenting on something particular that he might remember about the last time you spoke. Both of you are at ease; you're pleased that he remembered to ask about you, and are comfortable proceeding with a conversation.

NEGATIVE EXAMPLES:

By contrast, a person in the same office stares at you like he knows what's under your suit/dress, then follows up by getting too close, reaching for something that just "happens" to be right next to you without saying "excuse me" so he can brush up against you, etc., etc. That's creepy and insulting.

A person who stares at you over the rim of his cubicle but can never manage to choke out the very complex "Hi" or "Good morning" is just creepy. Really, you feel self-conscious and uncomfortable if the guy's just staring!

Hope this helps. :-)

lost_soul · Accepted Answer

i walked past large windows and there was a group of guys on the other side, I caught eye contact with one accidently and then I think he said something to his friends because they appeared to look then as well.

Sometimes it embarrasses me, it can give me a flattered/excited feeling as well. But it usually makes me smile that someone has noticed me

charizzle · Accepted Answer

Sometimes flattered, sometimes embarrassed, most of the time annoyed, and rarely excited. It just so happens that the guys who check me out are older guys...as in guys aged 40-70 LOL, so I get embarrassed & annoyed when they do. I get excited when a hottie checks me out (I mean who doesn't get excited when a hottie checks them out right?) :o

Ugliness · Accepted Answer

Being the naive type I never know if a guy (or girl) is checking me out.

I consider myself too ugly to "check out" to I don't notice. But my wife claims she notices girls checking me out (I deny it) and she's pretty sure that guys check me out too (I'm bisexual).

This sounds so bizarre - so farfetchecd - I don't know why anyone would do such a thing.

And I have no idea how I would find out.

I'd be flattered, yes (guys or gals) but puzzled if any of it were true.

Fact is I'm married to a heterosexual woman and only have eyes for her. So I don't have the slightest clue if there's anyone out there.

You are here

So am I

Maybe millions of people go by,

but they all disappear from view.

And I Only Have Eyes For You.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

After being on this site for a while now I rather doubt I'll ever get married with the one way mentality I've seen from girls/women on the site.

I'm not gay and I'd be embarrassed, but if he was decent looking, had a job, a decent personality and unlike girls/women bothered to ask me out I really would consider it cause hey I can always adopt kids and my chances of adoption are greater as a couple regardless of gender then what my chances are as a single guy.

Anonymous · Answer

depends. if he's not drooling its fine. I'm kinda use to it by now... I have H cups so when I go anywhere I get men staring at my breasts. unless their being offensive or staring openly without caring who sees them (including their gfs... had it happen) then its annoying.

It usually raises my self esteem annoyed or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Its creepy if a really older dude checks you out but if you think the guys cute,nd he's checking you out then I would be game to talk to tht guy! I mean common sense he's cute you like he likes: okay, but ifs he's wayyy too old, even ugly checking you out, then I would of course be irritated and uncomfortable, c(;

Cailleach · Answer

I wouldn't feel excited, but I would check him out. If I found him attractive, then I'd do something about it.

ltaylor · Answer

I feel flattered, but he should follow up with it! It's so frusterating when you catch a guy you find cute checking you out, and then it just stops there. If she looks back and smiles, say hi!

Anonymous · Answer

I think my mind subconsciously scans out all the losers that check me out so I usually don't even notice anymore until a friend tells me unless they're making it extremely noticable. And thank god for that cus how tedious would it be to get annoyed at every guy that checked me out. I do happen to notice the attractive ones though.

whatson · Answer

I voted A but I would also say D and a bit of B. It's defiantly a self-esteem booster. For me it is rare that that a guy I find attractive checks me out. I seem to attract a lot of looks from homeless men and that's about it.

sxcMel · Answer

It would start to excite me a bit if I found him hot too.

jeune · Answer

It depends. If he sounds pervert or does look  like one then I may get annoyed though I'm attracted to him.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

I would feel disgusted and annoyed and my self esteem would be lowered most likely. I would be happy if he was cute but still I would be questioning his priorities.

slyshea · Answer

Well first I think to myself "what the f*** is he looking at"...b/c staring is rude anyway...

aggiipaggii · Answer

Most of the time, flattered. But sometimes I just think (epecially if he's staring at me boobs...) I would ust think he is a perv.

NevaJackson · Answer

I feel flattered and it makes me feel good. But sometimes its kinda like Woah, is there something on my face or is there something wrong what I'm wearing?

inquisitiveemt · Answer

I've caught a few attractive and some not so attractive guys check me out. I'm flattered that a man other than my hubby wants to gawk...

pielvr4life · Answer

embarrassed but also flattered and potentially excited

Anonymous · Answer

I answered flattered, but it depends on how old he appears to be. As long as it is purely checking me out with his eyes, he looks a reasonable age, there are no cat calls, comments or hands, I'm flattered.

ilyurbella · Answer

I feel flattered for the most part and my face turns red but myself esteem usually goes down lol

23kristen · Answer

how do you feel when a girl checks you out,and she is attractive? :) I said d.

Taltos · Answer

I feel flattered! Hahahahaha A is always my go to answer. xD

Anonymous · Answer

flattered. I'm glad you noticed my swag

InMyHeart · Answer

I'd feel flattered but also a bit embarrassed cause I'm kind of shy when it comes to guys, specially strangers. It would definitely make me feel better with myself.

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