This may very well be my last myTake, I haven't decided yet. All I know is I'm mentally and emotionally drained from continuously defending myself. I wish I could say that all the negativity, criticism and assumptions about me, were just an internet thing but it's unfortunately not. I've been dealing with it before I even discovered the world wide web. So, all the mean and cruel comments are just added fuel to an already burning fire of self doubt, self hate and insecurity.
All those people who thought I thought I was special because of that "What makes me different from other women" myTake I wrote, were wrong. I am different but in the way that I feel I don't belong and I never have. I don't connect to anything in this world easy. If old souls and new souls are a real thing, I'd be an old soul because I don't connect or relate to anything and that includes people. That's what I meant by being different. I digress though. Whether this be my last take or not, I just want to leave you with a few questions and some food for thought.
Question 1: How is lashing out and being rude to this person going to help them and benefit me?
Answer: It's not. It's just that simple. All it will accomplish is making them feel bad and you look like a jerk. What's the point in that?
Question 2: Do I really have the right to make assumptions and mean remarks to someone I don't know based on something they wrote?
Answer: No you don't. You can't read a persons question or take title and then read few paragraphs of what they asked or wrote and think you suddenly know everything about them. Because the simple fact is, you don't.
Question 3: How would I feel if the rolls were reversed and someone was being this mean to me, for no reason. How would I feel?
Answer: I don't know, you tell me. How would you feel? If people started being rude to you and insulting you without knowing a thing about you, how would you feel? I suppose your answer to that question, will decide how you proceed next.
I understand this is an opinion site, I get that but opinions don't make you cry. However, unnecessary comments do.
With that in mind, time for the food for thought.
1. Understand that the person who's question you answer or take you respond to, could be a fragile indivdual with a rough life. So, all you're really doing is making it worse. So, if you can't say something helpful or disagree in tackful way, don't even bother saying anything because insults will never be helpful.
2. Understand that none of us on here, know each other. We know nothing about each other as a person or about each others lives or about what hand we were dealt in this life and what we've had to endure because of it. We don't know each others intentions when we write things. We don't know each others personalities or how we feel about ourselves, we know nothing.
So, making assumptions, judgements, accusations and taking shots at someones character, is wrong. It's not right! So, if you don't know them or what their intent was. Don't make remarks or assumptions or anything you can't back up with proof because you could just be making that person feel worse about themselves and there's no need for that.
To conclude, I know we have free speech but that was reserved for issues and things that really mattered and people needed to hear. Being jerk is not covered under freedom of speech, it's just considered being a jerk. So, have your opinion. Disagree all you want but don't be rude about it. Be mindful of how you treat others online and in your life because you should always treat others how you wish to be treated. Always remember that! Thanks, for listening.