Girls, what kind of dominant behavior do you expect from a guy on you? Believe me your opinion will help a lot of guys!!!

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Hey beauties... I always hear from here and there that girls love dominant nature on men and women like to be submissive.( not strongly i know)
Believe me i and many guys absolutely no idea about this and hence many guys behave like dogs in front of women thinking that she will be attracted or like me if i do anything she wants.
But i noted and observed that it isn't the case. 
Majority of Such assertive nice guys are always friendzoned and he keeps thinking " sh! t i love her so much and i behave so nice with her & do whatever she likes but why the hell she just think of me as a friend?"
Also i note that many innocent nice guys are been cheated around the globe by many women.
I see lot of aggressive kind of guys scoring with chicks. I see they abuse her, degrade her , pick lot of fights , drag her to bed for sex at his will but still after break up those girl say " i don't know...i still want him and expect him to come back" 
And our faces are like (°_°) (0_o) (•_•)(-_-)
And i say to my friend " look how fool we are, it's a complete myth that we have to be super nice to a girl to win her..being bad to a girl at some aspect is doing some mysterious work. There is something indeed in bad kinda guys that we lack completely"
So should we guys make women feel submissive? How should we dominate a relationship? How should we dominate a woman?

inamorata · Accepted Answer

Dominant means he leads the relationship. Leads the interaction.
He adjusts my behavior to his needs and he isn't hesitant to do so. He isn't afraid to shut me up, correct me, say what he thinks, own what he does. He isn't afraid to pull my hand, to have me follow him, or grab me when I get emotional and try to walk out on him. He doesn't get emotional when he commands blackmailing, or throwing tantrums, he does it rationally, coldly (I don't mean stoically) and uncompromisingly.
A dominant man is responsible. He holds the girl he is with like a drop of water on his palm. Wants to protect her. He always prepares, plans and provides security for the woman by his side. He does what he thinks is right, does it consistently and conscientiously. He is clear, direct in expression about what he wants from the woman and about what he is going to do himself. Then he follows up on that.
With him there is little ambiguity in anything he says or does.He doesn't shy away from confrontation, he embraces it as just another part of human interaction. He expresses his thoughts and emotion in them, he doesn't sound like a petrified robot. He isn't scared of people. He doesn't need her approval before everything he does, even though he may ask what she thinks. She is the one who needs his approval if something is questionable about what she does, even though she may voice her displeasure with his decision.
A dominant man can't be nagged on the other hand. There is a reasonable limit to what a woman can say, but nagging for example is a form of control exerted by women. He would cut that down in the bud.
A dominant man doesn't wait to be asked out, he asks out. He doesn't need to read a woman's mind, he refuses her irrationality. He doesn't need her opinion, though he may want to it he respects her.

And he tries his best, no one is perfect, he must make mistakes.But when he does make a mistake, he doesn't surrender his authority, he asks for forgiveness and works to fix it.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

It's nice when a guy is nice when you're just getting to know each other. Once he has gained your trust and she can see that he wants more than just a physical relationship, it goes into the grey area. At this point the guy should either see he can make a move and start getting more dominant, or like with me the girl can make the next move and show him she's down.

Once a relationship, whether it be official or friends with benefits is established, I love it when my guy is dominant occasionally. By that I mean things like teasing you but not giving you the D till you practically beg for it, saying he really wants to fuck you, etc.. Here's an example that I wrote about to answer another question earlier:

My boyfriend invited me over for dinner with his family, after which we planned to watch a movie together and get intimate as everyone was supposed to be leaving the house shortly after. Throughout dinner, he kept putting his hand on my thigh and rubbing up and down. We both got up to take our dishes to the sink when we were done, during which he felt up my ass&slapped it as i was wearing a dress.

We then went down to the basement, where he fingered me twice to orgasm. He was teasing me like crazy that we'll have sex anyway with everyone home. He asked me to take off my underwear and go commando, after which he asked for a hug turned sex while standing up. I gave him head after that, thinking it'll make him give in and finally sleep w/ me. I was wrong in that, but he kept fingering me for a bit here and there. At this point I was completely soaking&wanting him so bad. We went for a walk to kill time, and I swear my dress must've gotten pretty dirty from how wet I was, especially due to me no longer wearing any panties.

After his parents left I kid you not, he jumped on top after practically pleading with me that he 'really wants to fuck me', and had been looking forward to it all day.

In a nutshell, about 4-5 hours

littlemissoutrageous · Accepted Answer

When I say that I like a dominant male, I mean that:
1) He leads the relationship... Most men confuse this with an abusive relationship or a douche, but that's not it. Taking lead means that he tells how the relationship is, how he wants it, what he wants to do, etc.
2) He takes the lead in bed most of the time ( Most of the time ;) )
3) He isn't afraid to grab me by the waist and let people know I'm his girl
4) He enjoys being a little aggressive; joking around, lightly slapping each other playfully, teasing each other, etc.

The #1 problem with "Nice guys" is that they think girls like douche bags, but it's really not that. There's a difference between a completely ignorant douche and a guy who has confidence in himself.
And the other problem "Nice guys" have is that they think they are being rejected simply because they're nice. There's millions of girls out there who prefer a cute and nice guy who can be a pushover (Not something that's bad, I honestly like a little pushover).

Good luck finding your answer, luff. :)

@Update: Some girls prefer simple guys because they just enjoy a simple and easy going life... But I have heard of desperate woman, who are old and have tons of baggage, rush into marriage with simple men.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You can be dominant and still respectful.

Let me give you an example - the girl says "Where should we go for dinner tonight?"

The submissive guy says "I don't care. You pick."

The dominant but respectful guy "I was reading about this new Thai place, and I booked us a table. It'll be great, trust me."

The jerk "I feel like pasta tonight."
The girl "But you know I don't like pasta."
The jerk "Tough. I want pasta. So we're having pasta."

AlUsernamesExist · Accepted Answer

Some are just born with it.they are gifted.if you value yourself you will never degrade yourself and never others too.

Izzy2102 · Answer

I think you're confusing dominant with abusive. They are not the same.

You can be nice and dominant at the same time, they're not mutually exclusive.
To answer your question what do we mean

In the relationship:
- Someone who can stand his ground. If he doesn't want to do something, I want him to tell me. Don't agree with everything I say. But obviously he still has to be able to compromise sometimes
-Take charge in organising dates and nights out sometimes. Or even just ask to go for a walk when the weather is nice
-Say what you want from the relationship and what you don't want. But do it respectfully
- In general treat people, especially me and my family and friends with respect. Don't be a dick to anyone
- tell me what to do when I don't know what to do
- when we've been together for a while, consider me in decisions you make
- that being said, don't expect too much too soon, it takes time to trust. Take things slow, a lot of girls will have their guards up in the beginning of the relationship

Physically:
- In the bedroom I like him to be dominant, that's a whole different topic though
- when I'm upset or sad, pull me in and hug me tightly and say it's going to be alright
- lift me up when kissing an grab me firmly
- when we're somewhere crowded or strange let me hold onto his arm and let him lead the way
- one thing I absolutely hate is when guys ask thing can I kiss our, can I do this or that, when we're in a relationship. So many do, it's annoying, we're a couple, just do it, don't ask all the time

In general:
- treat people with respect
- be ambitious in his career and life in general
- be a good husband and father. Don't cheat, care for your children..
- do what you think is right and stand behind it

Sex-Kitten · Answer

First of all, EXCELLENT question.
Everything comes down to sex. Because it's part of our human nature and in sex, we can be sincere. We do not want a guy who will abuse us and hit us. We want a guy who is dominant in the respect that he's confident, he doesn't put up with shit, if someone says something to him- he will not run away, but confront, he's a bit of an ass (smartass, arrogant), he knows what he wants and he gets it. A rebel and an alpha male, a leader. We like a rebel because they can provide us with a thrill, excitement, danger. We like a leader because he will protect us, bring us security, and will not be beat by another male. We want someone strong and reliable. This is part of the genetic code: a woman will always seek security for herself and her baby. A protector. This alpha male doesn't have to be a dick to her, he can still be nice. But when a guy is overly nice we think: weak, submissive, will get his ass kicked by a bigger bloke, so can't really protect us and the future baby. At least SUBCONSCIOUSLY that's what she's thinking.
Here's your secret recipe: be nice, be a mate, but don't be too on the safe side. Be dominant in SEX. And yes, that means: want sex? take sex. Guy's ultimate fantasy no? Submit her, make her do ANYTHING you want, make her your sex toy. This is coming from a chick who loves sexual submission herself. Example: If a guy said "please suck my dick?" I'd be like "No. Gtfo.". He says " Get down there and suck it right now." and I am strangely turned on and suddenly want to do it. It sounds twisted but we want to be controlled in bed. It gives us... freedom. We're naturally dirty and want to do naughty things but are afraid to or self-conscious. In telling us to, you ALLOW that dirty side to come out. And for once, we can let go of control and just be in your arms. Be completely surrendered to you. Oh, it's a dream.

Dontcallmebaby · Answer

I don't understand how so many men have this stupid mentality! It's pretty simple, girls like confident, outgoing men that are in control of their lives, that aren't afraid to take risks, that are sure of themselves, that have standards in both the physical and personality point of view, and aren't so freakin paranoid about 'being nice' or 'being what women want' or 'OMG if I do this she'll freak out' or 'OMG I can't say that it'll scare her away'. And unfortunately for women, it's usually the assholes that posses those characteristics, THATS what the attraction is, because trust me I know plenty of assholes that don't have the qualities I mention and they are completely alone, at the same time I know nice guys who do possess those qualities and they are either married or taken. So don't generalise. You wanna be attractive to women, be CONFIDENT, OUTGOING and AMBITIOUS, you'll be too busy making a great life you will hardly notice all the women that will begin to pay attention.

Awsdrd1990 · Answer

I really don't like or expect a guy to be dominate At all in a relationship with me except physically (like picking me up or being stronger , that's hot) but everything else should be equal. I don't like guys to "take control"of every single situation. It's actually annoying and a major turn off for me..I'm not sayin I should but relationships are 50/50 for a reason..guys I date don't care about all that douche bag alpha shit that's for insecure preteens..

I don't know I don't know how to explain it..:?

questioner1991 · Answer

The dominant things that I like from guys are approaching me, coming up with things to do for dates, be a bit of a leader, and being dominant in the bedroom (choking, slightly pull hair). But the dominant things that I like does not have anything to do with a guy not being nice.

Trinology · Answer

I think you're meeting the wrong girls. I'd be very careful about prejudging any girl because it's simply not fair.

It would be like me saying, "why are all guys assholes, and only interested in sex?" Is that a true statement?

A man can be assertive and dominant without being a jerk, and vice versa.

Luna-o3o · Answer

I'm too lazy to explain all the details. Lol. I don't want to create a book here. But also, it depends how attractive you are. The more good looking you are, the more chances a girl is willing to give you.

misscocobutter · Answer

I think the best thing you can do is be a MAN without apologies. Take what you want, that's hot. Don't always ask permission and kiddy foot around, take control

katein98 · Answer

Lots of questions you asked, but I believe that nice guys are the most attractive. However, I do really like this guy who perfectly knows when to be more dominant and it is very sexy. He's also nice. There's no easy way to describe it, but you have to know the girl and when she needs to be "tamed"

knotme · Answer

either you are or you arent, you just have to have it in you

vanessa55 · Answer

No dominant behaviour, otherwise it looks like the guy is looking for a power trip

16charger · Answer

T hanks for posting this question. . this is an area I have trouble in

Anonymous · Answer

It's kinda hot when a guy takes in control.  I don't know about in bed because I'm a virgin but it turns me on if I imagine a hot guy forcing me to have sex with him.. It's not really rape cause I would enjoy it, lol.

boelllye · Answer

Listen to the opinions of girls themselves on this question: google "How women view male authority" .. that video says it all!

Anonymous · Answer

I dont like that, I prefer submissive men... I'm the dominant in the bed ;)

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