Me and my ex broke up years ago due to distance and his family hating me (and refusing to budge, and he can only marry someone that his family likes, so he dumped me as to 'not waste my time')
We recently got back in contact and decided to be friends, as we had been very good friends before we dated. Our relationship was perfect until his family revealed that they didn't approve of me because of my race. He told me he wishes things were different but they weren't, and he really had to force himself to get over me.
He said there was no chance of us dating again because his parents would never approve and there was no point. He told me that now he is reallly over me, and doesn't have those feelings anymore. So I told him about a guy I met at college. I'm sort of confused about his response.
-He says that he is really happy that we are friends and its really cool that we can talk about anything. But then he goes out of his way to insist that he "doesn't need to date" and he tells me that guys can be assholes and I need to be really careful and they probably just want to sleep with me. But then he flips a switch and sort of pushes me to date someone else.
-He goes out of his way to call me "dude" and "man" and "bro" which he doesn't do that much to other friends that are girls.
-He keeps telling me that he "really doesn't care" about me dating, he even said he wouldn't give a shit if I dated one of his friends.
Oh and one time I got really drunk and tried to hook up with him and he pushed me away and said it would be really bad for our friendship, he cared about me and wanted to be friends. After that he doesn't touch me, he used to hug me a lot. When I sit close to him he kinda shifts away.
Is there a chance he still has feelings for me? Is he just friendzoning me really hard?
We recently got back in contact and decided to be friends, as we had been very good friends before we dated. Our relationship was perfect until his family revealed that they didn't approve of me because of my race. He told me he wishes things were different but they weren't, and he really had to force himself to get over me.
He said there was no chance of us dating again because his parents would never approve and there was no point. He told me that now he is reallly over me, and doesn't have those feelings anymore. So I told him about a guy I met at college. I'm sort of confused about his response.
-He says that he is really happy that we are friends and its really cool that we can talk about anything. But then he goes out of his way to insist that he "doesn't need to date" and he tells me that guys can be assholes and I need to be really careful and they probably just want to sleep with me. But then he flips a switch and sort of pushes me to date someone else.
-He goes out of his way to call me "dude" and "man" and "bro" which he doesn't do that much to other friends that are girls.
-He keeps telling me that he "really doesn't care" about me dating, he even said he wouldn't give a shit if I dated one of his friends.
Oh and one time I got really drunk and tried to hook up with him and he pushed me away and said it would be really bad for our friendship, he cared about me and wanted to be friends. After that he doesn't touch me, he used to hug me a lot. When I sit close to him he kinda shifts away.
Is there a chance he still has feelings for me? Is he just friendzoning me really hard?
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