She and her friends keep staring at me?

gentlemanattbay
I need help in the form of everyone's opinion.

Several months ago, I phoned and asked out a girl who had caught my eye for sometime. In my eyes, she is the whole package. She is a nurse, she has a beautiful little boy, she has here own house,and is very active. Physically, I find her very attractive.

So I called her up one night, and very politely and respectfully asked her if she would like to go for coffee or I could take her for lunch sometime. She said she was going on vacation for 2 weeks, and would phone me when she gets back.

Two weeks later, her step dad phones one of my relatives in a 10 second phone call and tells my relative that the girl does not want anything to do with me, and she just wants her and her son to be together. I was devastated.

Two weeks later, she is on Plenty of Fish, trying to dredge up some of the sludge from the bottom of the ocean. Nice!

When I would see her in traffic, she would not even look at me.(Before, she always recognized my vehicle, and would check me out)

Okay, so I am thinking total rejection. What I did from here was I did not phone her again, and just cut off all contact.

Halloween night comes and we are in the local bar. This respective girl is there with her friends. HER FRIENDS STARED AT ME ALL NIGHT LONG. It was unambiguous, unnerving, and I found it very rude and infantile. Obviously the girl had been telling her friends all about me. However, they were smiling in a friendly way, As for the girl, she would look at me, I would catch her sneaking a peek at me, and one time she tried to eye lock me, but I would have none of that and looked away.

What I did was I did not approach her, look at her, or go talk to her. She already had taken that power away from me. I left the bar without her, and she left with her friends. But the staring at me in the bar; I don't know if she has reconsidered her quick and premature decision to reject me, as she did take the time to know me at all. Yes she was smiling when she would look at me, but still it is creepy and sends an ambiguous message.

Why would her and her friends stare at me like that? I am a very handsome man, who is tall, dark, blue eyes, polite. That night I was well dressed, well groomed, smelled good with a little bit of Chanel for men cologne, and was very well behaved. How much better of a man does she figure she is going to get? Really.

I'm just confused and a little hurt, and I need and value the opinions of other people right now.
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I have to make a correction. This girl did not take the time to get to know me personally at all.
She and her friends keep staring at me?
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