What does it mean when a guy says he's damaged goods?

I accidentally texted my guy friend saying I'm so happy with him but he replied back saying be careful, he's damaged goods. We're talking and kind of just doing things in the moment. We go out on dates and meet each others family, but we're more friends with benefits since we have sex too. I'm not asking him for a relationship just yet, I just wanted to express my feelings because I felt happy after our date. But I feel like every guy I meet ends up not being worth it and I have a feeling he's not so I don't want to fall too hard for him but I like him a lot or at least I like hanging out with him and doing things like a couple. But what does he mean when he says he's damaged goods?

thanks guys!
I do want to express my feelings more and be more lovey dovey with him but I'm not sure if he really wants to since he says he's damaged goods. He's been cheated on before so I don't know if he's just being protective or what.


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  • He's probably trying to be dark and mysterious, since actual guys who are "damaged goods" don't ever refer to themselves as being damaged goods.

    Damaged goods could mean, for example, he has a mental illness like schizophrenia. Or a drug problem. Or has a compulsion to set fires. Or cuts himself. Or he has a criminal record.

    But when a wannabe poser says he's damaged goods, he probably means his dad smacked him when he was a child, or his mom didn't understand him, or his last girl friend made him a miserable emo type.