I'm sick and tired of being treated like crap and I want to know how to move on?
I get treated like crap by EVERYONE especially guys, even my friends and my mom. I try to go out of my way to do everything for everyone. I try to be... Show More
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I've been there. Sometimes I answer questions on here completely innocently and people attack me. It's the way it's always been. Something must be wrong with me. It's amazing how it follows me even on here. Yet all I have is good intentions. I know it's somethingg I do unconsciously and it leads to that. I can't blame everyone else.
Anyways. Yeah, f*** em. But look to yourself before you blame anyone else. You could be doing somethingg that makes them misinterpret you. First off, find some activities to do. Otherwise just try to be a bit more thoughtful when you do communicate. Take some time off and you'll probably be able to adjust back into being more social. You don't sound like an introvert. Me, I never was big on people anyways.
Just step away, clear your mind. Analyze yourself. Don't be impulsive. Be conscious of your tone and your body language. That can be hard. Kill them with kindness. Step back in when you're ready.
What Guys Said 3
You, you try, you try to get by,
you’re never going to pull it off,
you shouldn't even try.
You're a wet cigarette,
you’re always second best,
they're never going to give a sh*t about anybody but themselves.
So you fight for them to realize,
there's more to life,
there's more to you,
there's more than meets the eye.
And when you're done, the battle's been won,
you sit back, you smile,
And this is what you hum, you hum,
Whoa, whoa, oh, oh, whoa, oh, oh, whoa, oh, oh,
Whoa, whoa, oh, oh, whoa, oh, oh, whoa, oh, oh.
You cannot kill the desire, you can simply choose to ignore it as best you can. But it will grow more and more difficult the longer it lies dormant. I understand how you feel, especially about the lack of emotions that you feel others give you.
However, the honest truth that I discovered on my journey with this, is that it is my problem in my inability to decipher and catalogue the emotional responses I receive from others. I lost a very serious long term relationship over it with my fiancée, simply because I felt I was marrying an emotionless woman, it wasn't true.
I just couldn't overcome my lack of understanding as to why she didn't present her emotions in the same caliber as I presented mine to her. It always felt one sided and hollow and I began to analyze a similarity in how everyone acts the same way, it wasn't true, it was me.
It's sort of a deer in the head lights situation. My advice, stop putting yourself out there and let someone else tie themselves to the rails for once, see if they will make the sacrifice for you, as a friend or something more. That way you can get the right reading on who they are and what they do for you emotionally, and if it feels right. Cause then you will know how it feels to be emotionally fulfilled and it's wonderful.
What Girls Said 1
I'm sorry people treat you like crap. To me, it seems that you may perhaps be a little TOO accommodating. There's nothing wrong with being nice, supportive and caring, but when it gets to the point where you let people walk all over you and treat you badly because you want to remain nice, then it becomes an issue. They see that they can do or say whatever and eventually get away with it because you're nice, caring and you don't want to seem mean or rude. Try to find a middle ground. Be nice, but don't let people treat you like a doormat. How you do that, however, is up to you.