Have you ever regained interest in a guy?

[csk28]

Ladies, lets say you lost interest in a guy because he wasn't much of a challenge, flirted too much, wasn't mysterious, chased you aggressively, or was too forward. He saw you become cold and distant with him and he backs off for a long while. Have you ever regained interest in him?

[landingsight]

I can't speak for everyone, but none of the actions you just listed determine my level of interest in you. I decide whether I'm interested based on your appearance and your personality (i.e. your values, your interests, your sense of humor, et cetera). If your appearance or your personality changes, then yeah, my level of interest might fluctuate. If they don't, however, then changing your tactics isn't going to change the way I think about you.

Examples:

Guy A is attractive to me as a person (we have the same values, similar interests, and I think he's cute). No matter what he does (pursues me aggressively, backs off, flirts a lot, flirts a little, is forward, is reserved) I will think he's wonderful and want him.

Guy B is not attractive to me as a person (either his personality clashes with mine or I find him physically unappealing). No matter what he does (pursues me aggressively, backs off, flirts a lot, flirts a little, is forward, is reserved) I will not be romantically interested in him.

Guy B comes into my life again a ways down the road, but this time, something about him has changed (maybe he's had a change of heart and is no longer racist/a druggie/into MMA fighting or he lost weight and got a good haircut) that makes him attractive to me. He is now in Guy A's situation.

[Anonymous]

The Question is: did she seem to respond well in the beginning, when you started the chasing and flirting?

See, here's a thing you have to understand about girls: They love the thrill of being chased, but if they allow it to happen too quickly..they feel as though perhaps they were being too easy and thus not seeing anything special about what you can offer in the future..since you offered up way too quickly. That's when the mystery stops, and the interest gets lost.

Once this happens, it is normal if she got a bit cold and distant from you, when things go down so quickly..there is this weird fear girls develop..like she doesn't know if she wants to go any further with you..so she tries to let things cool off between the two of you so that there can be time for her to understand her feelings, and yours.

Here's the bright side: Yeah, she can totally regain interest in you. That's actually possible..you just gotta be a bit creative and more elusive. Try being her friend first, and add sporadic moments of flirting..but definitely... DO NOT LET IT ALL OUT AT ONCE. its again..BIG TURN OFF.

Hope this made sense:)

[awkwardantics]

Great girls couldn't do more to drive away great, nice guys. I know girls have messed up logic, but this is just messed up.

[-StillWater-]

No matter what you just said would drive a girl away (...)...if I lose interest in a guy, I never regain interest in him. No matter how much he or the situation has changed.

It's pretty simple. I never go back to something I've moved past.

[Nijababe99]

LOL PLENTY OF TIME ..ACTUALLY ONLY ONCE OR TWICE ;) IMS URE THE GIRL WILL COME AROUNF 4 YOU ...MARK MY WORDS LOL <3

[Apodyopsis]

Why are you still wondering about a girl who likes games?

[slipslender]

no. either I like him in that way, or I don't...

[WovenEclipse]

Yeah I have :)

[Anonymous]

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